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Lawyer ordered to home confinement again - Charleston Daily Mail

Attorney Joshua Robinson appeared in court today in a jail jumpsuit. His bond was raised to $50,000 cash and he was ordered to home confinement again. CHARLESTON, W.Va.--A circuit judge has doubled the bond and again ordered home confinement for a ...

Pelosi Proclaims Maddow 'Nonpartisan,' But the Syrupy ... - News Busters

Despite what House Speaker Nancy Pelosi said to MSNBC’s Rachel Maddow in an interview last night – "I know you`re nonpartisan" – Maddow very predictably helped Pelosi dismiss any responsibility for the Speaker in the Eric Massa ethics ...

Kickin' It With Keselowski (cont.) - CNN Sports Illustrated

Keselowski says the difference between Talladega and Atlanta lies in intent. He hadn't planned on wrecking Edwards last year. Todd Warshaw/Getty Images Okay, let's stop here for a second. Millions of casual fans, when they think of you, they think of ...

Weekly Mulch: Politics Confuse Public Perception of ... - Huffingtonpost.com

Americans don't know what to think about climate change anymore. A few years ago, the public more or less trusted the science that said human activity was raising global temperatures, but now that Congress and the Obama administration have hemmed and ...

Ellen Gray: Ocean front: Tom Hanks and company take on ... - Philadelphia Daily News

IF YOU GO into the premiere of HBO's 10-party miniseries "The Pacific" knowing much more about D-Day and the Battle of the Bulge than about the part of World War II that took place far from Europe, you might blame Tom Hanks and Steven Spielberg. They ...

Anti-Joe Arpaio Mural Inspired by New Times Cove... - Phoenix New Times

During this past Wednesday's rally against state Senator Russell Pearce's new apartheid-like bill SB 1070/HB 2632 , I remained with the mass of the protesters, while a small contingent of demonstration leaders went into the Capitol's Executive Tower ...

The Death of the Messiah: Part Two of Four; for Lent ... - Salon

But let me ask you: do you despair because these portraits are so starkly different? Do you think that one is, must be, more correct? Remember, all three descriptions are given to us by one Holy Spirit, the one Spirit that inspired the writers of ...

Mold claims in subsidized housing unit - WPTV

RIVIERA BEACH, FL-- Complaints are growing louder at one of Palm Beach County’s most well known subsidized housing districts. Some residents who live at ‘Stonybrook Apartments’ in Riviera Beach are sharing stories about poor ventilation in ...

Court Lessons: Millsap Remains in Backup Role - Sporting News

But things happened the way they happened, and now I am still going to just go out there and play my role. I think I can do a lot better, though, and I know my chances will come.” 2. Blame it on FedEx. Wednesday’s win in Boston was nothing new ...

JPMorgan, Citigroup Helped Cause Lehman Collapse ... - BusinessWeek

March 11 (Bloomberg) -- JPMorgan Chase & Co. and Citigroup Inc. helped cause the failure of Lehman Brothers Holdings Inc. by demanding more collateral and changing guarantee agreements, according to a court-ordered report on the biggest bankruptcy in ...

Open Question: Why can't people tell the difference between GOVT handouts and programs you PAY INTO!!?

Unemployment benefits - Mix of your taxes, your ex-employers taxes and Government unemployment funds (NOT A HAND OUT) Medicare - LIFE LONG Tax payments from the first time you work till you're 65 (NOT A HAND OUT) Social Security - Yes it's a mess but we ALL pay into it (NOT A HAND OUT) Welfare - Complete and total hand out. Many states set time limits but don't enforce them or force these girls into education programs. Section 8 - Hand out. However, landlords are also to blame . In cities where section 8 is easy to get landlords raise the rent to ridiculous levels because they know the city will pay for it. This puts the rest of us in a situation where we suffer high rents and have to pay with our hard earned cash. Corporate tax loop holes - HAND OUT Corporate Bailouts - HAND OUT more

Open Question: Is my sister in a cult?

She has always been a wild child, then out of no where the family has been getting these letters: I know I’ve spent so many years feeling empty and not knowing why. Trying to fill the emptiness with things such as drinking, spending money and basically things that I thought matter in this life because it “felt like fun”. And when those things didn’t help fill the void in my life, I became angry, shutting out people because clearly the way I had chosen to live my life wasn’t the problem, it was those around me. And thus I shut out the most important moments in my life, God and family. And of course, as the saying goes “hitting rock bottom” you finally have a choice, pick yourself up and take responsibility for yourself, or continue down the path of self destruction. I feel so blessed that for me, accepting Jesus Christ into my heart, into my life, seeking and receiving His glorious guidance has allowed me to take acceptance of my faults, stop the blaming of others and start again. It really is like a re birth! Born again as they say.  And I’ve been speaking to my pastor at my church. Opening up to him and asking him to help me in my new journey. One of the areas that I’ve turned for guidance with is how to reconnect to all of you. And one thing he mentioned was a family reunion. I am now beaming from ear to ear. I now I’ve reached out to each of you, and I truly hope it’s allowed me the ability to ask for forgiveness and for you to allow me back into your hearts and lives. I know each of us has burdens, and often with that comes anger and resentment. But I know through Christ and family we can overcome these things and pull together as a family and lean on the power of Jesus and love of family. more

Open Question: me and my friend just made up. is it normal t feel a little awkward at first around him? PLZ ANSWER!!!!!?

me and my best friend had a number of arguments a huge arguement last term and fell out. he had told me before the big argument that he nearly quit uni. his dad had just had a non fatal heart attack and his sister was bulimic and his brother was suicidal. i was concerned that he was taking too much out of himself by going to the gym twice a day and then swimming in the evening...i was worried about him. he said that he could do whatever he wanted and that it was none of my business. i was angry at this and in my anger i said i did not want to be his friend anymore. i did not mean this but he was hurt by this. we have not been friends since. we live together. then a few days ago we had another argument about why we fell out. he said that i was the sole reason why he nearly quit uni. i could not believe this as there were more serious factors that were affecting him than the silly arguments we had. i got so upset by this. my dad said that he was deliberately trying to make me feel bad but that he was wrong to blame me. i do try to look out for him to this day. Today he then annoyed me because instead of topping up electricity he went to the library. i got so annoyed. he said ' i don't have to do jacks**t. what are you gonna do about? i then replied i would give him a thump. he then got so pissed off because i 'threatened' him and says we're through. however, he made me feel awful all week and the few weeks before. We were basically inseparable for two years before this and were like brothers. i miss his friendship and i have told him i will be there for him still. two days ago i started texting him and he was acting as if nothing happened and as if we were mates again. is this his way of wanting to be friends again and forget the past and move on with being friends? he only started this after this weekend when he broke his ribs and dislocated his jaw. more

Resolved Question: Don't know what to do, my mother in law actually is having a psychotic break.?

So here is the scoop, my fiance and I live with his grandparents to help take care of them. He grandmother has Alzheimers.His mother moved back from New Hampshire a couple years ago to help out. (We're in CA). When she moved out here, she decided to see the same psychiatrist that my fiance sees. He has ADD and takes Adderall for it. The Dr. put her on the same meds. At first things were OK, put then it seems that her mental state has really been debatable. It has really gotten a lot worse in the past couple weeks. Let me run down some things she has done in the couple weeks, 1. She has started either talking or humming to herself constantly. 2. She has been accusing her son of stealing her car keys to take gas from her car and hiding her kitchen tools. 3. Accusing me of clogging up the toilets and that anything I leave in the house (like a bag) collects dust to worsen the grandpa's COPD. 4. She sometimes doesn't sleep at all (maybe a few hours) 5. She sometimes sleeps all day 6. She recently kicked out her husband (end of last year), then now called him over, called him a piece of s**t and asked for him to move back in, after saying she wants a divorce and never wants to see him again (all in the same breath) 7. She thinks some rooms in the house smell like rotten meat. 8. She is blaming me right now for everything wrong in the house. 9. When she is talking her to herself, it varies from talking to another person, from highs to lows, to the dog (we actually have a dog, so not that bad), to just mumbling to herself. I do believe it has a lot to do with the Adderall she is taking, and I do believe she is taking more than the recommended dose because she always runs out before her next prescription is written. But the scary part is that she has been out of pills for a few days now and her symptoms have not gone away. Before a few weeks ago, she was still passable for sane, even though she was accusing her husband of taking money out of her bank account to make it over drawn. (he doesn't even have access to that account, it's hers) My fiance believes that the smell part is a big deal. She has been on about smells for a while. 1. She couldn't sleep next to her husband because he smelled too much. 2. She smells an intense cigarette smoke in my fiance's car. 3. She smells rotten meat in the living room. 4. She has been putting a bad smelling incense around the house to "clean" the house 5. She used to sleep with the dog every night and now doesn't because it smells too bad. And I'm sure it related but she has been cleaning far more than usual. She spent 5 hours cleaning a room that was perfectly clean. She also has been making it look like no one lives here. For examples, the bathroom used to have air cleaners, a plant, shampoos, soap, etc and now it looks like a hotel bathroom with nothing in it. I guess what I'm trying to get at is that she has been exhibiting some really unreasonable behavior and doesn't see how anything is wrong except for everyone else. I can go on forever listing things, but really we just don't know what to do. We have tried talking to her Dr. and letting him know everything that has been going on. His response was "I'll do some looking around." What does that even mean? We are at out wits end. Please, anyone with some advice out there as to what could be wrong or what we can do to fix it? more

Open Question: Can you guess the song and artist from these lyrics?

1) Hold on, slow down, again from the top now, and tell me everything 2) Is this is dream, if it is, please don’t wake me from this high 3) I’m outside your house, but I’m not in your head, and you’re not even listening 4) And hey darling, I hope you’re good tonight 5) Every time we lie awake, after every hit we take 6) I’m sitting here all by myself just trying to think of something to do 7) The road I walk is paved in gold to glorify my platinum soul 8) It’s been so long I’ve been out of my body with you 9) Let me in from the rain, don’t you let me go again, let the water run down my face 10) Happiness hit her like a train on a track 11) Well if you wanted honesty that’s all you had to say 12) We take 3 steps forward and 3 steps back, she says I don’t like the way your dressing 13) My tears run down like razor blades, and no, I’m not the one to blame, it’s you, or is it me 14) September never seems this cold, and where I come from and you know, I’m not one for complaining 15) She lives in a fairy tale somewhere to far for us to find 16) I won’t suffer be broken, get tired or wasted, surrender to nothing or give up what I started 17) I am comforting, but I still have my moments, baby, that’s just me 18) Its Christmas eve and I’ve only wrapped 2 f.ucking presents 19) Lights out, I can see the evil in your eyes, f.uck you, I can even see it in your smile, f.uck yeah 20) Caught off guard, all worked up, the air is as dark and cold as night 21) I watched the sun fall down to kill the day, another part of me went up in flames 22) We’re gonna die like this you know, miserable and old 23) I don’t care what you’re thinking, I don’t care what your seeing 24) I wanna have the same last dream again, the one where I wake up and I’m alive 25) I must say, its an nice day, when the leaves start to turn there’s so much to learn from the free way 26) Back at school they never taught us what we needed to know, like how to deal with despair and someone breaking your heart 27) The bridges have crumbled, the water soaks into rocks 28) Out the door just in time, head down the 405, gotta meet the new boss 8am 29) Thank you for being such a friend to me, oh I pray a friend for life 30) I open my eyes, I try to see but I’m blinded by the white lightBarbie, not necessarily... I'm just not the one for chav music ;)Jessica 3 and 12 are wronggg more

Open Question: How to feel better when you feel worthless?

This involves my family and somethings I'm going through. First of all, I'm the middle child of three children and I feel like I have middle child syndrome. Ever since I was young, I've never felt close to my mom and in the past three years, I've grew more apart from her than ever. She always wants to tell my older sister every good thing that happens to her or us. like if we won a trip to the Oscars or something, my older sister would be the first one to know until me and my younger sister find out days later. They both treat me like a child because I'm closer to my young sister, which makes them think we're the same age even though I'm three years older (doesn't quite make sense, but from the past years, it's how they think now lol). But my young sister gets treated better and she's closer to my mom as well. It feels like it takes a lot to get noticed by them and sometimes I think they don't even care about me. My mom tends to blame things on me, even if I've done nothing, without a second thought, unless it's obvious it was not me. She punishes me much more then my sisters like if I disobey her, she gives me a bad makes me work and clean, but my sisters, she just sends them to their room for the rest of the night. She tells me that she doesn't think i'll call her when I move out of the house and I always say that I will even though sometimes it feels like I won't. Sometimes, I just feel like her stress ball or something, like I'm only used to relive her anger. Also, she can't really trust me as well as the others, even if it would save her life. I hate crying in front of them, because it shows weakness so I just go into the bathroom, lock the door and cry in silence. It's kinda gross, but the bathroom is sort of my escape. I feel so worthless because I feel horrible after everything they tell me and take every little insult seriously. I've feel so insecure daily and always thought both my sisters were prettier and smarter than me, which makes me feel like that's why I get treated the way I do. The grief has gotten so bad that I don't think I can actually live my dreams and that they're way too big for such a small person. I know it sounds like I'm seeking attention, but I just want you to understand and give me some good tips on how to feel better. Thanks so much for reading this. :) Btw, I really can't handle speaking to them about this because they always need to justify it to their comfort zone and I've had some scarring situations with counselors. more

Open Question: My boyfriend said he's going to go hook up with someone else to wreck this relationship for good...why?

My boyfriend of 3 years has jealousy issues. We're both in our late 20's, and he has talked a lot about buying a house together and getting married. All of a sudden he started acting really weird, telling me I deserve better than him, that he can't afford to buy me the type of house that we were looking at, etc. Then starts telling me I make him miserable (I kept asking if he was cheating because he'd been acting so distant, but he blamed it on stress). Aside from that, I got a call from a number that I didn't recognize, so finally I answered and to my surprise it was my ex boyfriend from college that I'd broken up with 3 years ago. I only spoke with him for 5 minutes then ended the conversation. I told my boyfriend that he'd called (not wanting to hide anything from him). He said that he was glad that I told him that bc now he's done with me and is going to go hook up with someone to wreck this relationship for good bc I talked to my ex which means that I cheated. What is his problem?Thank you all for your responses. At first he blamed his distance on being stressed that he didn't get approved for a loan to buy a house (when I was going to buy my own and he convinced me to wait) - He said he's tired of making me wait and I deserve someone that can give me more. I really think he cheated on me also although I don't have evidence to back it up. He has taken every little word that I say lately and twist it around to use it against me. It's almost like he's turning psychotic. He makes comments about me spending too much time with my friends and he cannot stand that I'm always dressed up around my friends and that he wants someone that's less attractive. more

Open Question: Someone who is shy and set in their ways?

He seems to be shy but can talk for England lol. I think he's been unlucky in love (and life in general) before. He lives in a violent home and his family have hurt him in the past by coming to the UK and leaving him behind in their country while they started a new family here...so understandably he finds it hard to trust people. I like him and I think he likes me but Im not sure. It's all uncertain. There has been no mention of the fact that I like him or vice versa. So it's all very polite at the moment we first met on a short college course before christmas and he wanted to keep in touch. We met up twice - last month, both times he asked me out. We're both careful and I think we need to gain each other's trust. I think he's very set in his ways and I dont want to disrupt that, as I am aware of that I tend to tip-toe around the whole situation - I try to send him a very short text once every week (or sometimes over a week), he always responds and wants to know how Im getting along. We seemed to have more contact by email, text etc before we met up, now that we have met up he seems to be more nervous when I speak to him. When I see him face to face, he chats away but rarely makes eye contact while he's talking and smiles to himself alot when i look at him. He looks at me when im talking but looks away a lot. He said last time that he 'would like to be in a relationship now'. He's in his late 20s and lives with his parents. He hinted at 'settling down' - made me feel uncomfortable actually lol. We're both muslim - so for us a girl and guy having coffee, isn't normally 'just coffee' lol especially as he has a different mentality to me and wasn't born in this country. Is it good to react to a shy person in a cautious way, the way they behave. Or is it better to be direct and just pick up the phone and call him for a quick chat? It took us months to finally meet up. Now we have I'm even more confused. I dont want to hurt him but I imagine that he's scared of that happening and I don't blame him for thinking that way. He is very serious and work-wise he deals with other peoples' problems on a daily basis, some of which are quite depressing. He helps so many people but it seems no one is helping him. N.B - i didn't want to put this question in dating and relationships as it is a little more complicated and isn't really 'agony aunt material' considering the background info more

Resolved Question: Discriminated Against - Can't Get a Job?

To make a long story short - my mother is holding off my college fund so I have to pay out of my own pocket for the 2nd year of school. I'm not allowed taking money out of my fund until I pick up my marks - I understand where she's coming from because she doesn't want me wasting my fund .. and I was slacking, I admit that. Here's the issue : Even before all of this I have been seriously looking for a job, going out at least once a week to every 2 weeks handing out resumes, meeting with managers, etc. I get the same thing EVERY time "Oh, daddy won't hire you ?" because almost everyone around where I live knows my father from his business. I don't blame my dad for being successful, but I hate how every one thinks we're super wealthy when really, we're having huge financial troubles and he can't afford to hire anyone else, not to mention he left the main company he was dealing with, because they were bought out by someone else and tried to change him into a corporate store (way less money in that for him) so we're trying to start up privately, and that's really hard. But like I said, people think we're super rich / I want to work for dad, etc. They don't get that I want to be independent and have my own job (although dad wants me to eventually be a manager at the store) and it's so degrading for a potential employer to say "What, don't wanna work for daddy?" or "Daddy cut you off?" - What business is that of theirs ? I even had potential employers say to other employees when I left "Fat chance I'll hire her - she's a (lastname). A Rich b*tch who will just walk out when she's bored" my friend who worked at a gas station I applied at told me the manager said that. I don't know what to do ? I get the same thing EVERYWHERE and I've applied at clothing stores, restaurants, fast food, any place that may need a receptionist, call centers, daycares, coffee shops, bookstores, you name it. And I get the same treatment.I can, but almost everything closes down next month since the second semester ends mid-april.And it isn't only myself, but my cousins get this too because their dad owns a chain of furniture stores. None of us go own with a "Do you know who I am" attitude. I just feel like not even putting my last name on my resume, but I know that wouldn't be very professional. more

Resolved Question: is this his way of wanting to be friends again? PLZ ANSWER!!!!?

Open Question: I am gay and am falling for my straight friend?

I met my current roommate last year in a class. We became fast friends. He's from outside the US, and is only here for school. Ever since the beginning, we knew we had some sort of chemistry. He even pointed out (something I never noticed) that the reason why he thought I was gay was because he felt we had sexual tension towards one another. I never noticed this, and at that point, I only felt friendship towards him. Then, we began to hang out almost every night, where we'd talk about every part of our life to one another. We also liked to discuss philosophy and politics. While there were many issues on which we differed, most of what we believed were the same. Once, we fell asleep in bed together (nothing happened) after we had been drinking. We were completely sober when this happened, but it was so early in the morning, that we both decided I should just stay over. The week after that, he was completely awkward. Due to this, we canceled our plan to go camping later that week (OK, I had planned on going by myself, and when he heard this, he decided to tag along, saying that I did not know how to take care of myself in the woods). A week later, he came around, and we were back to normal. We even began to give each other back rubs, and on more than one occasion, we'd end up cuddling on his bed. We decided to become roommates, and throughout this ordeal, we found ourselves getting closer. There were times when we'd literally finish one another's sentences. We also did not divide our stuff for the new place, but bought stuff together. The last person I lived with was my ex, and even we did not do this. All this time, he always said he was straight. He always talked about girls, but he would always end up cuddling with me. We also joke and act like we're a couple. There have been times when people (friends and random strangers on the street) would remark that we are a cute couple. We would always laugh it off. He's also begun to tell me that he's still trying to figure himself out. That he's confused. But he never tells me what he's confused about. Lately, he's become rather distant. Perhaps this is my fault. A week ago, I woke him up asking him what he wants for breakfast. He seems to remember me asking him to "think about it" and that I was trying to tug his blanket off. I was tugging his blanket on him to cover his feet! He's decided that we're too couply (putting most of the blame on me), and asked me to be less affectionate. As much as it breaks my heart, I've complied. He apologized, however, for freaking out about that morning when I woke him up. I want to talk to him more than just the, "Hi, how are you?" but he doesn't seem to want to. We used to hug each other good-night, but now he just kind of ignores me. I don't know what to do. I'm just... I don't know what to do. Do I tell him I love him? He says he's straight--what if I lose a friend? I still have to live with him, and I don't know if I can handle seeing him every day if this were to go sour.Just a few minutes ago, I confronted him on why he has been rather distant lately. Me- Did I do something? I feel like you’re shutting me out. Him- I’m just trying to back away from being so lovey-dovey. Me- Dude, if you think I’m hitting on you or something, you’re wrong. Him- I know. I’m just backing off. You’re not being shut out. At that point, I walked away, and he started yelling. I couldn’t understand what was being said, as I just walked away and closed my door. I heard him curse, so I opened my door and went back. Him- Your friends are different from mine. For one, I’ m straight. The way you treat your friends is not how I treat my friends. I tried to meet you halfway, but that is not who I am. I smiled, and began walking away. Him- You’re not being shut out. We’re still friends. I’m not shutting you out. You can still talk to me about anything. How can I talk to you about anything, if you act like you don’t want to listen? more

Resolved Question: Me and My Girlfriend broke up...:/ Did I overreact?

So me and my gf broke up, before we ever dated we were best friends for like a year, and we agreed that if we ever broke up we would always still be friends. I know things are gonna kinda be awkward no matter what, but yeah. so I know it's a little harder to get out of the friend zone, but things were going great with us. She told her friend she loved me, but had a few doubts about our relationship so i asked her about it, and she was just wondering if i was still into her, because i'm not real lovey dovey. lol. i told her i still lover her as much as i possibly could, and things were going fine again for a few more weeks. A while later, we were at some big church meeting thing, and i was just in a really antisocial mood, so i didn't really feel like talking to anyone. I did talk to her a little bit, but i kinda kept to myself for the most part. We texted for the rest of the day, and i apologised and everything and she was fine, and later when i told her i loved her, she's like "well it's good to be loved! sometimes...." so i was starting to wonder what was going on. So later that night, she broke up with me, and obviously i was really bummed, but i wasn't mad at her or anything at all. it just didn't work out. I was talking to her best friend later, and she asked if i cried, and i said yes, and she told my gf and then she said i overreacted, and has never been the same since. she's usually pretty nice in person, but some of the stuff she tells her friends makes me feel like a jerk! do you guys think i overreacted? i was deff bummed for like a week or so, but i never blamed her for any of it, i put it all on myself so we could still be friends. What do you guys think? I don't really know what I want, I guess i'm just trying to vent. But thank you all in advance. and btw we're both 14... more

Open Question: Can I repair this friendship? Please help?

In elementary school, my best friend and I spent every second together (we lived a few blocks from each other and spent all free time, spending the night at each others houses almost every night). I think we had a really good friendship except I was very selfish (like I would always take the bigger piece of cake sort of thing) and when we started middle school, she made new friends which I think were probably a lot more fun/less selfish than I was. We didn't have a big falling out or anything, just gradually drifted apart. I was very hurt by this but I was proud so I pretended like it didn't bother me, even though it always has. In short, we were best friends but didn't hang out after middle school. Now we're both in our early 20s, done with college, and she moved back to my city. Sometimes we run into each other around town and say hi, and how we should hang out, but haven't done anything yet. I would really like to see her and just gave her my number, and I still have her old house number (where her mom lives) but not her cell (if she has one). She hasn't called me, and I'm not sure if I should wait for her to call me or what. I guess I'm scared that maybe she doesn't really want to see me, but I'd really like the chance to see her again and at least tell her that I'm sorry for not being a better friend when we were younger. I think that's why she found new friends, and I don't really blame her. She's really important to me though and was a big part of my life, I wish that we could still be friends, but I'm not really sure what I should do or if there is anything I can do at this point. Should I go ahead and call her since we're adults now? Should I assume that since she hasn't jumped to call me that she doesn't want to be friend ever again? Should I wait longer??? Please help. more

Resolved Question: does he want to be friends after all that has happened? PLZ ANSWER!!!?

me and my best friend had a number of arguments a huge arguement last term and fell out. he had told me before the big argument that he nearly quit uni. his dad had just had a non fatal heart attack and his sister was bulimic and his brother was suicidal. i was concerned that he was taking too much out of himself by going to the gym twice a day and then swimming in the evening...i was worried about him. he said that he could do whatever he wanted and that it was none of my business. i was angry at this and in my anger i said i did not want to be his friend anymore. i did not mean this but he was hurt by this. we have not been friends since. we live together. then a few days ago we had another argument about why we fell out. he said that i was the sole reason why he nearly quit uni. i could not believe this as there were more serious factors that were affecting him than the silly arguments we had. i got so upset by this. my dad said that he was deliberately trying to make me feel bad but that he was wrong to blame me. i do try to look out for him to this day. Today he then annoyed me because instead of topping up electricity he went to the library. i got so annoyed. he said ' i don't have to do jacks**t. what are you gonna do about? i then replied i would give him a thump. he then got so pissed off because i 'threatened' him and says we're through. however, he made me feel awful all week and the few weeks before. We were basically inseparable for two years before this and were like brothers. i miss his friendship and i have told him i will be there for him still. he is annoying me though because he is acting no as if there is no friendship and prefers the company of my other housemate, who i don't like! then yesterday i started texting again and talking to each other. it was as if nothing had happened between us. he even wants to have lunch. i'm confused by this, why is he like this only now? more

Open Question: Don't know what to do...?

((abridged version)) I am 21 years old, living on my own and have no direction in life. the only reason I am lucky enough to have a "place" of my own is because I had rich grandparents, whose inherited money I currently live off of. I was hit by a car in 2nd grade and nearly died. I had a hairline fracture on my skull and internal bleeding in the brain. My version of what happened in the accident and what im told happened contradict each other. Ever since then I feel as if I have been treated differently by everyone. My Mother had always made it clear to guests, whether they be friends I had invited over or adults, that "ever since the accident, Alex has changed. He's less happier" is how it usually came out. This was usually the kind of recognition or attention I received seeing as I am the middle child. ((I'm not saying that i conform entirely to the belief of middle child syndrome, but there is a fair amount of truth to it.)) My Father passed away in the summer or 2001 to cancer, two days after my birthday. We weren't very close. I remember watching the last gasps of life leaving his body. The family standing around watching, crying. I dont know why but I went to the sofa, which had clutter already on it and nestled myself in the remaining space. I cried myself to sleep, almost forcibly. I guess I couldn't stomach watching any longer. I look upon myself as a coward for doing that. When I woke up I watched the paramedics lift my Dad from his in-home hospital bed and placed into a body bag and hauled out on a stretcher. That was the last time I saw my dad. Ever since then I don't remember seeing my Mom without a glass of wine in her hand. After 8th grade I was sent to a public High School, when all of my friends were sent to a private all boys school. After my brother had graduated and all the upperclassmen I had known gone, I felt alone because I was only friends with a handful of people in my grade who I had felt weren't completely fake. I was essentially a loner until I had met this girl. she was kind to me. I felt as if she genuinely cared for me. It didn't take long for us to forge a strong relationship. We had dated for 3 years, her family welcomed me into their home. I had refused my families wishes to go out of state for college so that I could still be with her. What a mistake. Turns out that she had started to like a co-worker. She tells me " I need to make sure there is no one out there better than you". After 6 months of drowning myself in sorrow in complete isolation( the refusal to go to school had a great friction with my family) She starts talking to me again. we agree to meet for lunch. Out of my own pathetic lonesome self I accepted her back into my life. The short time that we are together I am re-thinking my choice to commit to her again, but before I tell her how I feel, she turns up pregnant. We had only been back together a little over a month I didn't know if I was being set up. She seemed very happy, no apprehension. We had discussed our options and our feeling on everything. In the end, she choose to have an abortion, pill form(at home). we told no one. I thought watching my father die was a hard thing to do.....I think I lost a part of my soul that night...the images are burned into my mind. We no longer talk. Its been over a year now. She is married and has a daughter with someone she only knew for a month. I guess I cant blame her. I currently go to a JC with failing grades and no interest of any kind. there is no passion or interest. I feel detached and emotionless. I don't have any friends that i can say are true. I spend most of my time alone in my room. So here I am...a long road of bad decisions and tragedy...no current heading of any sort and no one to ask for advice..No ambition or inspiration...where is my future? what is my purpose?Edit: I can feel a lot of the anger and hate building inside...its like being tempted by the dark side more

Open Question: Do any other men feel like we just can't win with women..............?

Like you just cant get it right. Either you're too perfect or not perfect enough. Or you're too confident or a shrinking voilet. And you're not handsome enough or you're too vain. And just generally not ticking all their little boxes. Does it annoy you that women think they're so perfect that they can demand men to be faultless? Do you think feminism is to blame? more

Open Question: What do you do when your roommate disrespects you?

Okay I've lived with my boyfriend for about 7 months now and we live with his brother and brother's fiance. I have no problem with my boyfriend's brother but it's his fiance that I do. She's very rude and acts like the house is hers. The apartment is in my boyfriends and his brother's dad's name, but my boyfriend pays it. Well about a month ago said roommates went and got a garage without us knowing about it, and because my boyfriend gets the bills, he got a letter in the mail yesterday saying that that garage was unpaid. Now for most things we split, like utilities and pet rent, but when they got this garage, they told my boyfriend to just charge their dad for it, when they're the only ones using it. Quickly so you know the situation, their dad pays them for the rent and for food, but will only pay rent for things we share as the four of us. Now the garage was bought because they were afraid they'd get their truck towed, which has been broken down for more than a year, but they won't fix because their dad won't pay for it. They also put a lot of their stuff in it. But never asked if we needed something to go in it or anything, in fact they never even told us where 'our' garage is. They didn't pay this rent and now it lies on us to pay 50 dollars that we won't get back, even though my boyfriend and I don't use it. That's just one of the things. She also makes everyone else in the house feel bad, she never does dishes, she blames my and my boyfriend's cat for peeing in their room, which we know for a fact she does not, it's their cat. She never takes the trash out and she cooks and leaves all the pans and food full on the counter, and there's never clean dishes. They never clean the shared cat box, they lock their cat out of their room and now their cat has been peeing in our room. Las thanksgiving she complained because me and my boyfriend got up early on Thanksgiving morning to watch the Macy's Thanksgiving day parade, and she had just got home from work and was sleeping on the couch. That's a shared room between all of us. They boys parents pay for her college and then she skips class almost everyday, what she does bothers me because I was taught not to do things like that. Was I wrong just to stop doing most of this? I got tired for the fact that she never does anything, complaining about the smallest of things, and trying to make us have sympathy for her. It's starting to get so annoying I've just started completely ignoring her. more

Open Question: 80s music vs today: is it just me, or...?

...or is modern music exponentially more angry and aims to express almost the opposite of emotions of the 80s, 70s and earlier? I just heard a song by Slipknot with lyrics "I only wish you weren't my friend, so I could hurt you in the end..." This is just the tip of the iceberg, though, for me. Even songs like "She f-ing hates me" by Puddle of Mudd, as much as we all learned to love the song, stands to firmly signify this exact point. The most memorable songs lately, no matter how catchy the rhythm, seem to promote all the negative emotions: Last Resort (Papa Roach), One Step Closer, Numb (Linkin Park). Some songs aren't as angry as basically self-deprecating, like Hinder's You Deserve Much Better than Me. What exactly made rock take such a strange turn? No matter what song I turn to written in the 80s or early nineties, they're more into love and positive emotions. I'll go on and jump to my personal choice of whom to point a finger at. I blame pills. It's obvious that in the 80s and at least early 90s people weren't drowning in pills that are 'meant' to make us as happy and pain-free as they claim. What else might've caused this very unfortunate downfall?Azwethink, I agree about Nirvana, but that is when I believe music began taking a darker turn. The 80s-into-the-90s transition to me was the most obvious sway from the hippie, tight-pants wearing era into the rebellious, angry era that still hasn't ended. Some people call it self-expression, but it seems more anti-government, sometimes even-anti world movement than that. more

Open Question: In the future, where will the U.S. obtain money for its upkeep? [Part II]?

But now that the rest of the world has caught up, those good ol' days are somewhat gone yet America will never go back to the pre-glory days of minimal to no "goods & services," we just can't live the way it was oh way back when. It's ultimately analogous to the popular saying that goes: "mankind cannot go back living to how it was prior to the industrialized age." We just can't! And even if we drastically cut on spending & increase taxes by the tenfold, both will not be enough to "stop the bleeding." And with the impending passage of Health Care Reforrm, our national debt then will really be enormous yet we ought not to blame the Democrats because it's just a given fact - the U.S. standard of living is just such that it cannot be found in any other country of the world yet we can never go back to how it was. (Indeed, the U.S. does take very good care of its people as compared to all countries of the world.) Hence, we will always need money to take care of our citizens as well as to keep our country going. But where will we get that money in the future? Ultimately, we can only borrow so much from China or from our future generations that sooner or later, something has to give! Or in other words, we have to give up something in order to sustain our way of living. It might not be conceivable now (I'll surely get curse by the next statements) but perhaps in the future, the only way we can get trillions of dollars to pay our humongous debt (once our creditors starts demanding us to pay) as well as to sustain our budget well into the next couple of centuries is to do the unthinkable - sell some of our real estate. What land would that be then? Well, it will of course be determined thru a vote by all Americans. And most likely, it will be a land least inhabited so that its people can be relocated to the other 48 states where there's still huge tracts of open land for people to re-settle in. In turn, we get the much needed money (say, $500-700 trillion) to keep our country going well into the 23rd century! Now that's not a bad deal at all given the fact that the land we sold was only bought for $20 million back in the 18th. And even if the people there tries to secede, it will be futile because even if some people in some of the states now want to secede being unhappy with where the U.S. is heading, their wishes is to no avail because the U.S. as a whole won''t allow them to secede claiming that it's tantamount to treason. And of course, majority always win! But overall, this could very well be the scenario in the not so distant future because we can never go back to how it was & so, we will always need the infusion of cash to keep on with our defense budget, social programs & other human services, excellent education, public works & infrastracture, upkeeping our environment & providing international aid to countries stricken with natural disasters, continue exploring space, & so many other projects & endeavors of necessity that I failed to mention. more

Resolved Question: Too many players with 'limited ability' at Liverpool FC - but stick with Rafa or time for a change ?

good morning friends and foes. Whilst I wasn't surprised @ last nights result, or even performance - It was excruciatingly painful and as well as fustrating, watching Rafas men starting XI in action against a struggling Wigan side. Struggling as they may, full credit to Martinez and his boys for getting the job done and winning the game. They were hardly playing total football against us, but being the diehard avid red that I am - i sat through much of last nights action. Torres and Gerrard have recieved too much a$$ worshipping and loyalty from the fanbase this season - some players simply are not bringing that extra quality needed to the team, and I am fed up with reading comments from fans saying the former simply can't do everything themselves. The truth is, Gerrard looks like a shadow of the player he was in 2008/09 and the fact Rafa seems to have no faith in the other forwards at our club to be given nod ahead of an unfit Torres means we are left to watch a disorientated, underfiring out of sorts Liverpool side week in week out. If Torres is not performing because hes not fit - then introduce him into games late, as a sub. I know many will say 'you only regain full fitness if you're given 60+ mins regularly' , but i'm afraid Torres just isn't in a side where he can score goals without being fully fit. Which leaves me exhausted with the 1 billion dollar question, why on earth isn't Ryan Babel getting his chance to start in games ? While I don't doubt that Rafa HAS the ability to get it right, and guide the club to its first time in 20+ years - I do feel that he has only himself to blame for the delay and getting it awfully wrong this season. He is an able bodied manager but surely even he ought to have realised the pressure of the job at Anfield, and that filling the vacated seat of Houllier meant no more illogical transfer signings and tactical mistakes. In a way I sympathise with Steven Gerrard when during the early part of the season he remarked " this was supposed to be our season where we'd be right up there..." indirectly hes expressing his dissatisfaction at where the club is going, and of course at the running of the club itself to some degree. His way of letting Rafa know that he got it v.wrong this year. SAF arrived at Old Trafford in nov 1986 and won the league in 1993. Rafa arrived in the fall of 2004, and won the Uefa champions league in his first full season in charge followed by the FA Cup 2 seasons later and...and then led the team to a strong title challenge last season. One would have thought he'd either match that this season or go one better. Instead its like he completely lost the plot. I appreciate that this is not the same era as the late 80s and that now it will be doubly hard for a maanger at a club like Pool, to wrestle the EPL crown away from the likes of United,Chelsea and Arsenal and of course with emerging sides Man City, Villa and Spurs means its going to take something SPECIAL from Rafa to end the 20 odd year title droubt. I just wanted to address this to everyone, including Chelsea, Arsenal and United fans. Its going to take a monumental effort, from the position hes got the club in now - to steer the ship back on course again. Hes doing his best with what resources he has, but i honestly do not feel we have XI players on the pitch who are functioning well collectively. Too many players in the side looked like they had little next to nothing extra to offer in support of Torres and Gerrard. I've never seen such 1-dimensional boring rubbish players in my feckin life, Lucas and Kuyt spring to mind. Insua simply looks in doubt and uncomfortable playing where he does and he has nerves written all over him. While I can see the intelligent reasons behind refraining from throwing Aquilini into the deep end - and wants to make sure the lad is quietly and carefully introduced itno the EPL. You do that with players whom you feel are v.special and need protection. This means that we have to sadly wait till next year, till we see more of him and the best of him. I'll end with saying we have the most disjointed, dispirited 1-dimensional players I've ever seen at the club in a while - and I feel we have 2 choices, which we go for is up to the fans. 1. Simply put up with Rafa for now and accept the state of affairs hes got us in - until he eventualy puts things right again. After all, Mr.Ferguson won the league in his 7th full season in charge at United during arguably a time when the 'best team in the land' were clearly on the descendency and his club on the ascendency. 2. Too tactical and cagey ? lacking adventure and ideas ? fed up with foreign managers at the club ? time for a change ? Shall we bring in Kevin Keegan ? all the best - sorry for the long rant MR LFC ANFIELD REDS ~ " the peoples choice " ~ more

Resolved Question: Would this bother you?

Right off, my boyfriend and I are moving into our first real home together this week, and we've been working really hard to clear our collective stuff out of our parents homes and our shared storage locker. Up until this point we've been living at my mother's house to save money for our new place. My mother and I admittedly have never had a great relationship as she favors my younger sister to the enth degree and she thinks I want her to be miserable (as I'd rather she didn't have her abusive alcoholic boyfriend on the deed of her house). However, since we announced our move she seemed to be doing a bit better about not trying to force me to do everything for her and not blaming me for all of her problems (Ex. If I hadn't gotten pregnant with you I could've been ______). Today she tells my sister without me present that she can have my room, which bothers me only because (a) she wasn't going to tell me and (b) I haven't moved out yet. However, what really bothered me was her telling my sister that if I don't take all my stereo equipment and the like the day we move either my sister gets it or it's going to the dump. I know we're moving, but why throw out everything that belongs to me because it took a day longer than expected? Furthermore, to avoid any drama with my mother or sister I told my sister I didn't mind if she wanted my room, and if wanted the stereo she could keep it as I really don't NEED it. This all digressed into a conversation about work, and I asked my sister how her in-highschool international hours were going (she wants to become a beautician). She then went on to inform me that my mother pulled her out of the program to enroll her in hard sciences that she knows my sister can't pass. When I asked her why, my sister told me "Mom told me I'm not allowed to take cosmetology anymore, because I need a real job unlike you." This REALLY bothers me as my mother has never supported my course of study or life path (Honors BA in Philosophy) as philosophy is just a way to "piss away your life". Neither the fact that I'm using this degree to go to law school, nor that I'm extremely successful in my philosophy program matters to her- I'm a huge joke for not becoming an engineer or something. So, I've just become more and more disconnected from my mother to the point where my boyfriend and his family really resents her for the way she treats me and my boyfriend. Would these behaviours bother you in your own mother? And how can I cope with my mothers flagrant shows of favoritism towards my sister without hurting my relationship with my sister? more

Open Question: Could someone read and critique this?

This is just a rough draft and I'm looking to improve it Chapter 1 "You okay Forest?" I asked my boyfriend worriedly. "Oh yea, just...tired." "Okay." I gave him a sideways glance. He had been acting strangely lately, sometimes avoiding me, and sometimes almost suffocating me with attention. I did not want to think about what it all meant. Not tonight anyway, on our eighteen month anniversary. We resumed eating in silence, unusual for us when we sometimes stumbled over our words and interrupted each other in our rush to say something. The walk back through the parking lot to Forest's ancient little Accord was almost just as silent. I felt so awkward and I was almost squirming in my own skin. This was the first date I was wishing was over early. "Hey...Sadie, can we talk." "Sure." I gave a short, fake sounding laugh that made me wince when I heard it. "What do you want to talk about?" "Us. I've just been wondering if this is really working for us." He looked at me with those gorgeous brown eyes of his, begging me to make this easy for him. "We've just been so awkward lately, and we're both so busy...I'm just trying to say that...it's really my fault you know..." I started to feel tears clog my eyelashes. I had dreaded this day for weeks, the final rejection. He kept stumbling over his words, trying to comfort himself - that was who this was about anyway, himself, and the beautiful girl he probably was thinking about. Was it Mandie? She had been after him for months...not that I could blame her. "I get it." I said, breaking into his stumbling, ashamed of the way my voice cracked. "You want us to break up." "I still want to be your friend," he said, taking my hand. "Yea, me to." I mumbled, trying not to cry. How was this possible? Where did I go wrong? We got in the car and he drove me home in silence. I was trying to pretend the tears leaking out of my eyes weren't there, knowing that they would just confirm what I had feared all along. That I was a pathetic, clingy girlfriend whose boyfriend had no choice but to dump her. I stumbled up the steps in my heels, slowly unlocking the door, happy that at least my grandparents weren't home yet from their meeting. I walked like I was in a daze towards my room, ignoring the bed and throwing myself down on my beanbag, sobbing. After my loud pity party was over I walked over to the bathroom and looked in the mirror. Swollen eyes that weren't a spectacular color even when they didn't have red in them - muddy brown, really. Pale, splotchy face, body nothing to brag about, too tall and awkwardly big in the wrong places, my hair was all right, long and naturally straight, a deep dark red color, but who cared? Forest had rejected me, and I was drowning. He had first befriended me when I had m more

Open Question: There's this boy with Asperger syndrome, and I'm an ignorant highschool boy. Need help?

Well anyway this boy, is very annoying. I'm understanding and all that, I never make fun of him but that's a general rule I have. Truthfully I'm probably nicer to him than anyone else. But, every now and then he does these things that are simply unacceptable. Like drawing a picture of a girl being tentacle raped and trying to show it to me during Chemistry(I'm not into that). Or writing on the walls back stage in the theater about how if he had money he would pay for tutors and stuff to make him as "successful and smart" as "x" name and "y" name. He's sometimes blatantly inappropriate. Also he comes to me asking for advice but when I give it to him he simply ignores it. He also asks me questions about subjects we've never discussed prior and I have no knowledge of or interest in. When I explain that I don't know anything about it he will again, a short while later, ask me the same question. But he also, in an attempt to seem clever, asked the x name and y name that I mentioned prior, for autographs. He explained to me that he wanted to do this because it was both degrading to himself and the other people. These people by the way don't really speak with him or interact with him, although one of them has several times asked him to "Go away." You see I feel bad for him and know that he's done a few things which are unacceptable, and I know he's gone through some shit in his past but what can I do? My friends aren't willing to help him, and a few wish he would just disappear. I sort of wish so too but that isn't going to happen and I'm willing to do something but I don't know what. I've tried helping when he's asked, I've tried being hard on him in a firm explanation about how adapting and trying hard to get by is all you can do when the world has screwed you over (I've got my own handicaps), and last but not least I've tried to show him that the world isn't just trying to destroy him by telling other people (my own friends) to leave him alone and they have done so since. Nevertheless he continues to do odd and socially unacceptable things that only hinder himself and I seem to be helpless. Now he just follows me across campus and stares at me thinking that we're best-est friends despite the fact that we disagree on most philosophical aspects and come from entirely different schools of thought. He assumes that people are genetically gifted and everyone else is doomed to fail while I think that if you work hard enough and sacrifice enough time you can accomplish just about anything. (He thinks Death Note is the greatest thing ever [it is good] and I think One Piece is the greatest thing ever, you don't need to understand this part) But my question is, what do I do? Now that you've heard basically the whole story, what am I supposed to do? I'm also wondering if Asperger's can be held accountable for half of the stuff he does. I mean I know it's a serious problem but he's still just a human, is he to blame for these things too? I don't know? I'm confused and possibly unreasonable? Help. more

Open Question: Intellectual/Creative People Help Me Out!?

I've been the lead singer/guitarist for an alternative rock band for about a year and a half now. Well now we're finally going places and we've been signed to a label. The only problem is we have kind of a stupid name, and also apparently some band in France has the same name. So we are being forced to pick a new name for our band. I want it to be something with maybe some historical context , not just a random phrase or word. Obviously, it can't already be a band name already and a relatively accurate way to check this is a quick search on myspace music. I want it to relate to our music and have an intriguing explanation. If it helps you any our influences are Radiohead, Muse, Silversun Pickups, The Strokes, Joy Division, The Cure...that type of thing. A local band Twenty One Pilots has a sweet explanation to their bandname: ""Ok so, I was in theatre class last year and we studied a play called "All My Sons" written by Arthur Miller in the 40's. It was about a father who ran a company that provided parts for airplanes used in WWII. He then found out that his parts are faulty, so he comes to a moral crossroads: 1. He can take the parts back and not send them out, but he will lose a lot of money in a financially tough situation. He would also taint his business and his name and be known as unreliable in his trade. But this would ultimately be the 'right' thing to do. or, 2. send the parts out, make the necessary money to provide for his family, not taint his name, etc. He ends up sending the parts out and twenty one pilots died because of it. His son was a pilot in the war who had lost his life. There was no evidence to prove that it was directly related but his daughter blamed her father for her brothers death. He ended up committing suicide at the end of the play. Here's how i make it relevant: I feel like we are all constantly encountering moral crossroads where the decisions that benefit the "now" will have consequences down the road; but the decision that might seem tough and tolling right away will ultimately be more rewarding. example: If Chris, Nick, and I market ourselves as a band that believes in something and has a religious agenda, it can definitely effect our success and make the "now" a lot more difficult. Or we could keep our mouths shut about what we believe, i could write songs about girls, love, and the usual pop stuff, and maybe see some success for the "now". But is that worth it? What is our purpose for playing music? We are constantly asking ourselves that question. The answer can change all the time. Right now I am just going to stick with something as simple as "we want to make people think"."" THANKS GUYS more

Resolved Question: i need to talk to someone who understands.?

i understand if you dont wanna read all this cause its so long. but i need help. so i grew up in a perfect family. i had a wonderful older brother who i looked up to. i had a beautiful older sister who loved me & i had 2 parents who loved each other. we were perfect. we had money, cars, a beautiful home, luck, life.. we had everything. my sister went to work in germany when she was 22. she called me every night but i refused to talk to her cause it made me cry talking to her since i missed her so much. i avoided her pretty much. it would be more of a surprise when i saw her come home. but in February 2006, she drowned in a kayak training accident. she was missing for a month and while my parents were over in germany looking for her i stayed with my cousins, giving everyone hope and positivity. bad things didnt happen to my family and tiffany (my sister) was so good of a person to die at such a young age. but she did and life began to fall apart for us. my brother started getting in fights at his high school, got into ufc classes, starting drinking, had many management classes and my parents are always blaming him for so many things. my parents have both been diagnosed with depression and my mom hasnt gone to work for 4 years. my dad is a carpenter so its hard for him to get money in the winter times but he tries. as for me, im alone.. I consider myself poor now cause we have nothing and we’ve had to move. & now, instead of being known as the perfect family, we're known as the family who lost everything. i loved my sister so much and now that i think about it.. she was the only thing that made our family perfect. i hate my mom. sits on her *** all day & i understand shes sad but she still has kids to raise and my father is the only one trying. i used to be a really big catholic but now that tiff's gone.. i dont believe. i dont believe because.. what kind of horrible thing would take such a wonderful girl from this earth and turn a beautiful family into hell? but the weird thing is.. i still pray. I dont believe in god anymore.. but i believe in HER. i dont want to talk to my parents about this and i hate talking to people that dont understand. but i need help or im afraid im going to do something stupid. i need help.. if theres a website i can go to to talk to cancellers.. that would be great but i dont like talking over phone and in person cause im really emotional. even if whoever is reading this right now and you think that you yourself can help me and talk to me.. i have nothing to lose.i dont like talking over yahoo mail but if you give me your email i have hotmail. PLEASE help me. i would really like someone who would maybe understand my situation. thanks more

Open Question: Why does he blame me?

There is a guy that I used to be very good friends with. We're both very similar and got on really well. He is very funny, intelligent and charismatic. However, one day in an english class I was doing my work and chatting to my friends. I was in the middle of my conversation and he wanted my attention. Although, because I was already talking I didn't really pay him much attention. A couple of minutes later I find that he is by my side, and that there's something really hot in my ear, scathing hot and then I hear my hair sizzle, and I see it charred on the table. He runs out the room with his stupid lighter and I'm left in a complete daze. His best friend told me that he did it because I apparently wasn't paying him enough attention. He got excluded and police were involved, but because he was my friend I told them I wanted no police intervention. Now that he's back at school I feel very scarred. Everyone blames me for him being sent away and so does he. I never did anything to him; I used to love him, but I've come to my senses finally and realised that he is too controling. I need advice on how to deal with him, he knows that I would once have done anything for him; that I was weak and that's how he did this, he knew he could get away with it. But I need to convince him, and myself that I am stronger. I've suffered too much abuse and suffer terrible nightmares as a result. I really need help, but there's no one to turn to because they're all on his side. so please if you can help me more

Open Question: One of my best friends is turning against me?

We were like best friends two weeks ago but now she is really starting to annoy me. We've kind of drifted apart over the last couple of weeks because I've became best friends with people who were just my friends before. I mean, I still talk to her, involve her in conversations and ask her to hang out when we can. When I talk to her she talks little and then blanks me out. When I ask her to hang out she says no! And then blames everything on me when I'm trying to become friends again. There are two things that make it worse. One is she's kind of taking my personality, her new favourite band is my favourite band, she buys things I buy, takes answers in class and uses them as her own and she even takes things I've made up [like stupid sayings cause i'm weird like that xD] and uses them and everyone's all like "haha, you're funny"!! You might think it's flattering but it really isn't! The other thing is, I know if she's acting like this most of you will say she's not a true friend, and I know and understand that, but we hang around with the same people! Also, she's a twin and I'm still best friends with the other and don't want that friendship to get ruined too. Can someone please give me some advice? :'{ <3 more

Resolved Question: Other Pisces & Sagittarius relationships?

Hi... I'm a Piscean female in a relationship with a Sagittarian male since June 2008. And at first we had alot of disagreements AND problems, but then again, we were both "on the wrong path"... and I blamed it on that. Then we both entered recovery, and things began to change for the better in all sorts of ways... except relationship-wise :( In August 2009, while helping someone who wanted to build an astrology website, I started learning quite a bit more about astrological signs (they have always interested me). I became aware of compatibilities and it turns out the Sag & Pisces are soooo incompatible. Well. Since the Pisces is "me", my emotional side became EXTREMELY alert at facts such as my "clingy" ways would be at the top of the list of what my Sag (King of Freedom) wouldn't tolerate much longer... I also found myself EXTRA pensive, quite often, over another fact that his "lack of tactfulness" proved to be true, and I feared that one day "I might" run as fast as I can, away from this seemingly insensitive man, as the number of emotional sufferings for me was climbing. Alot of the information I researched (for the website to be built), I shared with my [Sag] partner. He too found it interesting how alot of things "matched"... about his own sign, about my sign, and about our compatible & incompatible facts. In fact, we both found it so interesting, that we decided to try "suggestions" when we ran into them (online)... suggestions that geared toward making the incompatible relationship work... suggestions that meant meeting each other half way. We've since made several changes in each other, and we're doing pretty good in general! But it seems I'm always the one who has to break down and swallow the blame, while he continues to sweep disagreements and confrontations under the rug... as if nothing happened... but his technique doesn't agree with me because it only means it'll happen again... and it does!... unless "I" insist we deal with it, which he apparently hates but will semi-cooperate (even if it's just "listening" to me sometimes). I understand that there are some traits that are just "who we are", and may be more difficult to change than what we expected, or what we wished we could. Ultimately, I'm quite proud of the fact that I'm very intuitive, and I hit the bulls-eye so many times it's not funny! I'm quite fine with being as sensitive as I am because it feels good [to me] to know that I am very aware of my feelings. I just don't like the fact that I feel my partner seems to think I exaggerate with my sensitivity... and the fact that, altho he's aware of his insensitivity and sometimes promises to be more cautious with my feelings, it just seems to be so "not in him" to say a caring word when I'm down, or put his arm around me when I'm sad, etc, etc. Where's his optimism "then"???? **I do remember reading predictions of 1 - 2 years, and 1½ years, and that these two usually don't last more than the 2nd year... and since we've been living together for 21 months now, I was just wondering if there were any Piscean/Sagittarian relationships out there who've actually outlasted these predictions... and what the relationship is like now?** THX, AND 10 POINTS FOR THE MOST HELPFUL INFO!!!PS: Just want to clarify that I am by no means "unhappy" in my relationship... I happen to "adore" my man :) And even tho he doesn't say or show it as much as a (Piscean would like), I do "feel" his love for me in return... so there's no doubts in that area. I'm just curious ;) more

Voting Question: what do i do about this girl? SHE RUINING MY LIFE!!!?

i used to be friends with this girl and we got in a really bad sledding accident. her parents blamed it on me and we weren't allowed to be friends anymore. then she told everyone i tried to hurt her by starting the accident. i got over it. she then went on to tell more lies about me and my mom. and after i got over that, she tried to steal my best friend. and now, she caused a fight between me and my best friend, told the guy i USED to like that i adore him (now he won't even look at me), and my best friend doesn't know what's even going on. i want to tell her, but she considers this girl a friend. she doesn't know anything about what's happened. and the only way i can stop all of this, is by telling her. but i don't want her to get mad at me. what do i do? and is there another way to stop this? (i can't talk to her parents, cuz they're in the middle of this too, and they really don't like me.) more

Voting Question: Anxiety, intrusive thoughts, suicidal; This is my last attempt to have this question answered here, I promise.?

Okay, hearing waves--- like tsunami waves knocking down buildings and screaming people... whenever I try to close my eyes and get some ******* sleep. Then, when I play my music in an attempt to drown out the internal hysteria, I always am awakened, just as I'm drifting into sleep, by sounds that are in my head, or mean nothing, that sound to me (even though this is ridiculous) like my mom is coming to get me. No joke. Please, I'm not trying to be dramatic. I just really don't know what to do. Been through a lot at home and in school, recently (and I regret this every day) slipped back into my old cutting habit (just once in like 6 months, but I know I'm addicted again) and all because my mom came over and started taking pictures of my house--- just the dirtiest little corners, that my dad and I miss in the clean up, since my brother is no help at all, and I knew the whole time that she intended to take them to her lawyer, I knew the whole time, from the moment she stepped in the house, and then she pulled out that god-damn camera when she thought I wasn't looking, and started taking god-damn pictures, and my fears were confirmed. Been totally unable to concentrate on my studies (and I'm usually a VERY serious student) and just haven't slept, or had any appetite, or will to wake up (or ability to wake up) in the morning. My grades have taken a plunge, and I was working so hard. Then, she HAD to come the night before the exam, and I just haven't been able to function, or think past my own damn paranoid intrusive thoughts ever since. I've actually gone so far as to get my dad to re-schedule an appointment at the doctor, for fear of his seeing my cuts before they healed. I'm a headcase, and a burden to all, and mostly I'm just selfish because I blame it all on her, but I should have learned by now that I was born for this sort of ****. I'm just scared of my own shadow, and so very depressed. I dunno what to do. Dad's getting surgery soon, and could be laid off any day now, because of me, and my inability, and I mean utter inability--- I've tried physical pain and exertion even to wake up, and an ear-shattering alarm clock--- to get up at 5:00 every morning, in the dark, to get on that damn cold bus and go to school to stress out, feel stupid, hate myself and the people who are talking about me just so I can hear them but can't say anything without being called out for eavesdropping, and I can't take watching my teachers look back at me with blank "Why the hell is this moron here in THIS program" looks and I can't stand failing no matter how hard I try, and going home to my shadow again at the end of the day, just to work til I drop and repeat it all over again. I keep dreaming of my mother killing me, in between different pretty fringe dreams, then again, it all comes back when I think about them again. And, I find myself only slipping into that exhausted, unnatural, and restless sleep; when I'm thinking of suicide. Please, I'm not joking. I'm not trying to get a response, I just really don't want to burden anyone here as it is, they're all ill and sleeping, I have no-where to turn. I know I could go to a school councilor--- what would they say; "Talk it over with your mother" "get some sleep" "see a shrink" "we need to have a talk with your parents present" "you need to relax" "maybe this program isn't right for you"---- I've only ruined my health and lost my sanity to stay in the program, and it's all I've got going for me now. I just dunno what to do now. I've abandoned all of my old friends for school, and when I try to get in touch (when I know I should be studying---but only once in a blue moon) I see how they're still doing things together, and they've got new friends that I don't know, new inside jokes that I don't get, and they're all there for each-other. Then, I do this stupid thing where I just do NOTHING about it--- maybe I cry alone, but only my shadow sees me, and only my shadow is there to account for my private cowardice. I'm afraid my old friends are over me, they wouldn't like the new me--- I know they're strained--- they were the three occasions I've seen them (four different people, three different occasions, but only two at the same time in one encounter) and they didn't seem to like me the way I've changed. And, I started complaining about stress at school, the same old boring **** excuses that they're tired of hearing from me by now. And, I can't bear to watch them, as they realize---maybe they really enjoyed my friendship for a time--- but they've got new lives now--- I've got my own new, pitiful, degraded, miserable existence to be getting on with. I just can't bear it--- all the pictures, how everyone's changed while I've been gone, and I've not changed at all--- except to get shorter from sleep deprivation, slower from braincell loss, and paler-- because I've been indoors--- either at home, the hospital over half of the winter break, or in a nice muggy suffocating classroom more

Voting Question: 15. home issues, Sick of everything, Scared of my own shadow. Can't sleep, so tired, don't want burden them.?

Okay, hearing waves--- like tsunami waves knocking down buildings and screaming people... whenever I try to close my eyes and get some fucking sleep. Then, when I play my music in an attempt to drown out the internal hysteria, I always am awakened, just as I'm drifting into sleep, by sounds that are in my head, or mean nothing, that sound to me (even though this is ridiculous) like my mom is coming to get me. No joke. Please, I'm not trying to be dramatic. I just really don't know what to do. Been through a lot at home and in school, recently (and I regret this every day) slipped back into my old cutting habit (just once in like 6 months, but I know I'm addicted again) and all because my mom came over and started taking pictures of my house--- just the dirtiest little corners, that my dad and I miss in the clean up, since my brother is no help at all, and I knew the whole time that she intended to take them to her lawyer, I knew the whole time, from the moment she stepped in the house, and then she pulled out that god-damn camera when she thought I wasn't looking, and started taking god-damn pictures, and my fears were confirmed. Been totally unable to concentrate on my studies (and I'm usually a VERY serious student) and just haven't slept, or had any appetite, or will to wake up (or ability to wake up) in the morning. My grades have taken a plunge, and I was working so hard. Then, she HAD to come the night before the exam, and I just haven't been able to function, or think past my own damn paranoid intrusive thoughts ever since. I've actually gone so far as to get my dad to re-schedule an appointment at the doctor, for fear of his seeing my cuts before they healed. I'm a headcase, and a burden to all, and mostly I'm just selfish because I blame it all on her, but I should have learned by now that I was born for this sort of shit. I'm just so damn scared of my own fucking shadow, and so damn depressed. I dunno what to do. Dad's getting surgery soon, and could be laid off any day now, because of me, and my inability, and I mean utter inability--- I've tried physical pain and exertion even to wake up, and an ear-shattering alarm clock--- to get up at 5:00 every morning, in the dark, to get on that damn cold bus and go to school to stress out, feel stupid, hate myself and the people who are talking about me just so I can hear them but can't say anything without being called out for eavesdropping, and I can't take watching my teachers look back at me with blank "Why the hell is this moron here in THIS program" looks and I can't stand failing no matter how hard I try, and going home to my shadow again at the end of the day, just to work til I drop and repeat it all over again. I keep dreaming of my mother killing me, in between different pretty fringe dreams, then again, it all comes back when I think about them again. And, I find myself only slipping into that exhausted, unnatural, and restless sleep; when I'm thinking of suicide. Please, I'm not joking. I'm not trying to get a response, I just really don't want to burden anyone here as it is, they're all ill and sleeping, I have no-where to turn. I know I could go to a school councilor--- what would they say; "Talk it over with your mother" "get some sleep" "see a shrink" "we need to have a talk with your parents present" "you need to relax" "maybe this program isn't right for you"---- I've only ruined my health and lost my sanity to stay in the program, and it's all I've got going for me now. I just dunno what to do now. I've abandoned all of my old friends for school, and when I try to get in touch (when I know I should be studying---but only once in a blue moon) I see how they're still doing things together, and they've got new friends that I don't know, new inside jokes that I don't get, and they're all there for each-other. Then, I do this stupid thing where I just do NOTHING about it--- maybe I cry alone, but only my shadow sees me, and only my shadow is there to account for my private cowardice. I'm afraid my old friends are over me, they wouldn't like the new me--- I know they're strained--- they were the three occasions I've seen them (four different people, three different occasions, but only two at the same time in one encounter) and they didn't seem to like me the way I've changed. And, I started complaining about stress at school, the same old boring shit excuses that they're tired of hearing from me by now. And, I can't bear to watch them, as they realize---maybe they really enjoyed my friendship for a time--- but they've got new lives now--- I've got my own new, pitiful, degraded, miserable existence to be getting on with. I just can't bear it--- all the pictures, how everyone's changed while I've been gone, and I've not changed at all--- except to get shorter from sleep deprivation, slower from braincell loss, and paler-- because I've been indoors--- either at home, the hospital over half of the winter break, or in a nice muggy sufI just can't bear it--- all the pictures, how everyone's changed while I've been gone, and I've not changed at all--- except to get shorter from sleep deprivation, slower from braincell loss, and paler-- because I've been indoors--- either at home, the hospital over half of the winter break, or in a nice muggy suffocating classroom where I don't have to face people and seagulls. more

Voting Question: Jehovah's Witnesses, what do these scriptures mean to you?

In this time of the end, many people are sick of this world and the things in it. Many people wonder why "all creation keeps on groaning together and being in pain together until now." People criticize Jehovah's Witnesses: There's no proof for Jehovah's existence, they'll say. You could just as well serve any god. An easy answer to that is: Joshua 24:15 We're not here for you to pass judgement upon yes. Yes, you have that right, but whether we're approved in your eyes or not, we don't care. We're here to love Jehovah and be loved by him. (Jeremiah 31:3) Of course, just like worldly governments have standards, so does Jehovah's Kingdom. His standards are easily reached if we love Jehovah and our fellow brothers and sisters. I know that many say Jehovah is a murderer, a dictator; mean and controlling. We know that this isn't true. But, with Christendom's teaching of a fiery torment, how can you blame those that think Jehovah is cruel? We know that we are dust and when we die, we return to it. (Genesis 3:19) When we are alive, yes, we make mistakes. Jehovah's Witnesses are far from perfect people. We strive to be Christ-like, but Jehovah 'remembers we are dust.' (Psalm 103:14) Really, if Jehovah only saw our mistakes, how could any of us be counted as righteous? (Psalm 130:3) Even though we are imperfect, Jehovah promises us everything wonderful and great. (Revelation 21:4, Isaiah 35:5-6, John 5:28-29, Isaiah 33:24, Psalm 72:16) "Our Father in the heavens, let your name be sanctified. Let your kingdom come. Let your will take place, as in heaven, also upon earth." (Matthew 6:9, 10) Yes, "every breathing thing- let it praise Jah. Praise Jah, you people!" Psalm 150:6 What do you think of these scriptures? ;) more

Resolved Question: Ideas on this? I have issues with....?

So.... I'm riding tomorrow for the first time since I fell off back in November and got a concussion. I'm still not COMPLETELY okay, but the doctor said that it's important psychologically that I get back on now. I'm allowed to w/t/c and jump tiny jumps, but I can't do anything that's too dangerous. I'll be doing my evaluation ride tomorrow as I switched barns (The concussion was the final straw, a lot of things happened to me at my old barn, but when I was blamed for hurting the horse I rode when I fell I knew it was time to leave). Anyways, we have a bit of a financial situation. I need to be able to pay an extra $45 a month to pay so I can have 1 lesson per week instead of a lesson every other week. Plus I'm going to the Rolex and I want some money so I can buy some stuff at the trade fair. Anyways, I have to make money. I'm a certified babysitter, I'm working on my website for the model horse tack that I will sell (I make tack), I can weed gardens, I'll walk dogs, and my new instructor said that she currently has a student working for her, but she's going off to college this year so if my instructor is confident in my abilities she'll let me work cleaning tack and such to pay for my lessons and (maybe) a lease. I just have a couple problems: 1) I'm uncomfortable talking to people I don't know, so it's hard for me to get babysitting jobs. 2) I can't put up flyers on telephone poles because it's against the law in my state. I'm babysitting my brother's soccer coach's kids in a couple weeks because we'll all be in Philadelphia (I'm going to the Taylor Swift concert on the 19, LOVE HER! and my brother has a tournament the 19 and 20, so I'll be watching them on the 20. I will get paid for that. Also, any ideas on how to amuse the kids. There is a girl who is 5 and a boy who is 3, and they're supposedly fairly quiet. I'm just not sure how to amuse them because I've only ever dealt with really young kids (Like my cousin's son, kids who are under 2) and older kids (5+).BTW I'm 13, I'll be 14 in July. more

Resolved Question: I like two guysss--what should I do,who should I choose? PLEASEEE READ&ANSWER?

Alright. I'm 15, and a sophomore. I'm homeschooled, and music is my life, I'm a really serious musician. I'm going off to a music school this fall, about 4 hours away, so I won't be near either guy any more :( Guy 1: I've known him for close to 10 years, he's the only other pianist in this town at my level. He's a year older than me, and is also homeschooled. Our families used to be really good friends, then our families drifted apart. There was a time in there that my family thought his family was arrogant and too focused on promoting his piano abilities, and making him win. He got to the point that he wasn't social at all, hard to have a conversation with. But he's really mellowed out, and is a sweet guy whom I love talking to. We emailed each other back and forth a LOT about a year ago, and we never run out of conversation; we have so much in common. Now we're both playing keyboard parts in an orchestra concert, and during rehearsals, we've both been having fun playing, smiling at each other and everything. My friends have always jokingly said they're gonna set us up, and I've always acted like I don't like him, but I do, and my friend just said to me "you really should consider him. really." And I really do like him. Guy 2: I've only known him for about 8 months, he's a freshman, but only 7 months or so younger than I am, also 15. He has a lot of friends who are girls and I think he might like one of them but I don't know. We talk a LOT on facebook, write on each other's walls a lot and everything, and a mutual guy friend asked me what was up with us. I told him we're really good friends. Anyway, he's a really good friend, the other night a guy was trying to ask me out and talking to him too, and he stayed up till 3am helping me, and only got 3 hours of sleep for me, which was really sweet. He always "blames me" for keeping him on facebook chat really late. And he knows how to make me laugh, like REALLY, I just love talking to him. He's a musician, though not nearly as seriously as me and Guy#1. He's a really smart, level-headed guy, and I think I like him too. Oh, and our mutual friend said to me the other day, "so I asked ---- if he likes you", I just said "okay..."and started talking to someone else because I don't want to ruin our friendship by saying that I like him, because I don't know if he does.... guy 1 isn't nearly as competitive as his family. he and I are both happy for each other's accomplishments, and he's very supportive of me. guy 2 really isn't a flirt. my friendship with him feels like my friendship with my best friends, he's my closest guy friend. more

Voting Question: Skeptics. Do you at least consider the possibility that ghosts exist? Why do you hang out in this section?

I ask this because no matter what account people on this site come up with, some of you people always come up with the most unlikely explanation --- sometimes even more unlikely than it being caused by a ghost in the first place. I especially hate it when for example someone would state an account such as a ghost opening a door and the person blaming it on a hallucination. I mean, what are the odds of that? How could the person have had a hallucination at the exact same time and spot where the door opened, and that still doesn't explain how the knob turned and the door opened. There are so many new discoveries being made and so many new scientific theories, even some in which can explain the existence of ghosts. Things being discovered that wouldn't have never been thought of years ago. Things brought by quantum physics etc. I mean, look at the string theory, multiple universe theory, the M-Theory etc. all explaining the possible existence of multiple dimensions or universes which are becoming widely accepted theories. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/M-theory And you say we're illogical and aren't using our minds? Some of us have had big experiences and have no other conclusion to come to but a belief in something paranormal. Don't you even consider the possibility? I mean, wouldn't the more intelligent thing to do be to not completely disregard the possibility but at least consider it? Especially things such as ghost which have reported all across the world for centuries by people and cultures who have had no contact with one another. It just seems that a lot of you people have no sense of reasoning and doubt every such thing that can possibly be paranormal related. If someone shows a picture of something in there house that looks exactly like a ghost, all I see from you people are either ridiculous explanations or saying the photo is fake or photo shopped. I mean, can't you at least consider the possibility that the apparition in the picture may actually be a ghost? You don't have to believe it is, but can't you ever just open your mind a bit and just except the possibility? Some things don't really don't have an explanation and you don't have to completely disregard everything. Why do you people hang out in this section anyway? I know of course you have the rights too and all, but what is the point of answering questions all day in the paranormal section telling people that the paranormal doesn't exist expressing disbelief and thumbing down us believers. Can't you just except the fact that not everyone will agree with you? Do you really think that you telling these people it doesn't exist will really stir opinions? And do you at least except the possibility of the existence of ghosts?But if you except the possibility, why do you skeptics go shunning every paranormal experience as if you know for a fact it didn't happen? Wouldn't someone who did --- especially if the account had no other explanation and the odds of such an occurance happening were close to 0, at least leave the question alone and not just tell them their experience wasn't paranormal related. Someone who considered a possibility would not go around completely disregarding and expressing their disbelief in the paranormal. They would neither believe nor disbelieve. But the reason I accuse you skeptics of doing the thumbing down is because it usually seems that is the case. Look back at some of the good answers made by believers and at how many thumb downs they get for their beliefs alone. Look back at questions asking if one believes in the paranormal. You'll notice how believers get all the thumb downs based on their belief only.Also in response to the first, you see, I don't really have a reason to believe I am wrong in my belief in the paranormal. Just because something isn't regularly seen and hasn't been experienced by everyone, that doesn't mean I can't know for a fact that it likely exists. All my life I have been terrorized by these things and have physical evidence and such to prove it. There is a point where you just know something supernatural exists, a point where there are no alternate explanations you can come up with, besides the paranormal. If something has been happening to you all your life and you have been seeing and experiencing these things and have no other explanations for them, why should you believe you are wrong? more

Voting Question: What do I do with this fuss between my girlfriend and her ex? Help please!?

So I'm 18 and I'm dating this girl that I really like a lot. She likes me too and me and her have been dating for three weeks now. But my friend still has a problem with it, he used to date her but she broke up with him quite a while back. He doesn't want to be my friend anymore and he keeps writing on his web log about how I am a bad person and keeps going on about how he screwed up the relationship with her and how he wants to still be with her and how much he loved her and all of that. She responded on her web log saying this: "I feel so horrible right now. He tries to blame me but he doesnt get it. I asked him to take a break so that I could get my feelings together, I even told him that it didnt mean that we would never be together again, and he couldnt do it. He became mean, and he constantly says that he regrest treating me meanly, and that he wishes that he could change it but whenever we hang out, he never changes. He just treats me like crap over and over. Im sick of your abuse, because you cant love someone when all you want to do is hurt them. And yes, continuing to treat them the same crappy way without trying to stop, is still wanting to hurt them. So stop saying that you love me. And dont tell me to call someone else to verify it, because the only proof of something like this is YOUR ACTIONS. Oh and by the way, if you were talking about me in the first paragraph, I dont have hazel eyes, I have brown eyes so dark they're almost black." I care about her so much and I hate that she still feels like crying about it whenever he brings these kind of things up, it makes me feel like my heart is going haywire. I'm a nice, caring guy and I want her to be happy. She likes me a lot, she tells me that she gets butterflies in her stomach whenever we kiss and that she really enjoys being in my arms and everything and we just have good fun times together. I don't want this fuss between her ex boyfriend and her to affect my relationship with her at all. What do I do about it? Please help, I care for her a lot and I want her to be happy. more

Resolved Question: My husbands friends hate me?

MY husband and I are so in love. But within the last year weve decided to open up our relationship sexually... Yes, that means we're swingers. Recently my hubby told a buddy of his about our new found fun, and asked him not to tell anyone bc people just don't understand this lifestyle chioce. This friend decided to tell, and then that person told everyone at a party that my hubby and I could not attend... Needless to say, all of the friends believe that I am running around on my hubby cheating on him... OMFG... couldn't be further from the truth!!! I confronted this friend and he did what everyone usually does when confronted he played dumb, didn't know what I was talking about. Now everyone is talking about me behind my back, and hating and blaming me. What can I do? more

Resolved Question: Why am i constantly afraid that something bad will happen to my mom?

I mean i am scared all the time. I'm scared that she will die.Or that she will end up in a car accident .I'm also scared that she will get cancer and die.It can be whatever reason that she would die,(a murderer,a drunk driver,you name it) i still am just as afraid. My mom had a tumor about two years ago. It wasn't the best kind of tumor but she survived it and did not get cancer. Now i however fear that it will come back. Another thing is that me and my mom fight a lot. For example we just had a little fight about one thing and i got mad at her. She was on her way to the store and as soon as she left the house i started crying because i realized how stupid the fight was and i started fearing that she will get in to an accident and it would be my fault. I always pray after i have said something mean to someone or hurt someone,because i feel like it helps. It does comfort me a little bit but it still doesn't take away all the anger,sadness and fear i feel. I would never want to hurt my mom nor would i ever want anything bad to happen to her. I love her with all my heart and i just couldn't take it if she would die...I already lost my dad in 2005 and if she would die,it would be too much to handle. I've tried being nicer to her and i always try to remind myself of how much she means to me when we're in the middle of a fight..Yet i can not control how mad i sometimes get and no matter how hard i try,it just seems like we can't stop fighting about the most stupidest things. I know my mom is a strong woman because she has gotten over so many things. Still somehow i see a part of her that is a bit weaker. I'm afraid that i will never be able to tell her how much i love her before she's gone. I am afraid that it will be my fault if she dies or if anything bad happens to her.I have never been good at showing love for the people close to me. I just hate being afraid like this. I know it's stupid to be afraid of death but I'm not afraid that I will die,i'm afraid that someone close to me will die. Although i like to believe that everything happens for a reason (so if someone close to me would die it would happen for a reason) but i just can't always really believe it. I also know that i shouldn't blame myself if she would die, but I just can't help it.. I fear the day she will die and i hate it.I want to fulfill my dreams when i am older and move to another country. I'm afraid i won't be able to do that because of this fear i have. I'm afraid i wouldn't be able to leave her alone once it's time for me to start living my own life. Please give me a word of advice because i hate being like this. oh and sorry for the bad english.My dad passed away because he was an alcoholic not because he was old. My mom is only 50 so i wouldn't call her old and i am 15. I do know how to cook and how to clean so i wouldn't say it's about that. And the thing is that i appreaciate and love my mom more than i will ever be able to tell her. I just don't know how to show her that.it has always been difficult for me. Also i don't think i have anxienty.Thanks for the help though.. more

Resolved Question: I like two guys! Which would you choose/what should I do?!?! PLEASEEE READ AND HELP ME!!!!?

Voting Question: my boyfriend pushed me.. abuse?? help me?

the first time we had a huge argument, he was drunk, i thought had to leave cos it was so bad. i was drunk as well, just wanted to sleep for a while, but it was the last day for us to stay together. i had to go back to my country, we didn't know when we would meet again. as soon as i told him to leave, he grabbed me, pushed me and said "what are you doing? you cant leave like this!! "he pushed me to the wall and pointed me blamed me. i was so scared then, but then he started crying and said "oh my god, what did i do? i did the same thing my father did to me. i never did like this before" so i believed him and forgave him. when we met again. we stayed few months together, whenever we have argument, i tried to leave him, cos i know it makes him sad...and all the time,he grabbed me, pushed me on the street, called me 30 times to my phone.. and finally, he asked me to get married to him after that happening. one day, he slapped me, compared with his ex, and said "don't act like you're innocent!!" and disappeared. when he got angry, he goes somewhere doesn't say anything. drinks some beer and comes back. but i have to look for him. the latest argument was terrible. it was just nothing, i was about to go out without him, just like he does. wanted to drink beer myself. suddenly he grabbed me, pushed my head to the wall and said, "i call kill you if i want! and do you know how i feel? i want to hang myself tonight!!" i wasn't afraid he did that to me, just worried he would hang himself....so forgave him again. and asked why he does do to me. he said "when i was with my ex, when we had argument, i just went out during her saying and didn't come back for few hours sometimes few days and came back, tried to figure out, i knew she would always be there, but i know you will leave when you say that, so im afraid of losing you." is it accpetable? i really dont know why he is doing like this to me. i wonder if he was abuse before he met me or he has really hard time and because of me. more

Voting Question: What do I do about my ex friend's constant jealousy over my girlfriend? HELP PLEASE!?

Resolved Question: does my friend hate me? PLZ ANSWER!!!!!!!!?

me and my best friend had a number of arguments a huge arguement last term and fell out. he had told me before the big argument that he nearly quit uni. his dad had just had a non fatal heart attack and his sister was bulimic and his brother was suicidal. i was concerned that he was taking too much out of himself by going to the gym twice a day and then swimming in the evening...i was worried about him. he said that he could do whatever he wanted and that it was none of my business. i was angry at this and in my anger i said i did not want to be his friend anymore. i did not mean this but he was hurt by this. we have not been friends since. we live together. then a few days ago we had another argument about why we fell out. he said that i was the sole reason why he nearly quit uni. i could not believe this as there were more serious factors that were affecting him than the silly arguments we had. i got so upset by this. my dad said that he was deliberately trying to make me feel bad but that he was wrong to blame me. i do try to look out for him to this day. Today he then annoyed me because instead of topping up electricity he went to the library. i got so annoyed. he said ' i don't have to do jacks**t. what are you gonna do about? i then replied i would give him a thump. he then got so pissed off because i 'threatened' him and says we're through. however, he made me feel awful all week and the few weeks before. Then today i found out he went through all his tagged photos on facebook and untagged himself in all the photos that had me and him in them only. it was so hurtful. it is obvious over the last few weeks that he doesn't care aout me anymore. how can this be i still care for him. HE BLANKS ME NOW AND SAYS I AM NOT HIS FRIEND! I FEEL SO HURT AND I HAVE TRIED APOLOGIZING!!! more

Resolved Question: Does my friend hate me and wil we be friends again? PLZ ANSWER!!!!!!?

me and my best friend had a number of arguments a huge arguement last term and fell out. he had told me before the big argument that he nearly quit uni. his dad had just had a non fatal heart attack and his sister was bulimic and his brother was suicidal. i was concerned that he was taking too much out of himself by going to the gym twice a day and then swimming in the evening...i was worried about him. he said that he could do whatever he wanted and that it was none of my business. i was angry at this and in my anger i said i did not want to be his friend anymore. i did not mean this but he was hurt by this. we have not been friends since. we live together. then a few days ago we had another argument about why we fell out. he said that i was the sole reason why he nearly quit uni. i could not believe this as there were more serious factors that were affecting him than the silly arguments we had. i got so upset by this. my dad said that he was deliberately trying to make me feel bad but that he was wrong to blame me. i do try to look out for him to this day. Today he then annoyed me because instead of topping up electricity he went to the library. i got so annoyed. he said ' i don't have to do jacks**t. what are you gonna do about? i then replied i would give him a thump. he then got so pissed off because i 'threatened' him and says we're through. however, he made me feel awful all week and the few weeks before. Then today i found out he went through all his tagged photos on facebook and untagged himself in all the photos that had me and him in them only. it was so hurtful. it is obvious over the last few weeks that he doesn't care aout me anymore. how can this be i still care for him. HE BLANKS ME NOW AND SAYS I AM NOT HIS FRIEND! I FEEL SO HURT AND I HAVE TRIED APOLOGIZING!!! more

Voting Question: Does he hate me or does he like me?

This is our story: Danny is a boy I have always liked. I met him at the beginning of last year (8th grade) and we are now both in 9th grade. He has always acted like he hates me, and he teases me a lot. We argue over stuff like music and funny movies, trying to convince each other which song or movie is better. We don't get along that well, and he acts like he doesn't care about me. BUT, at the beginning of this school year I started to realize that he is staring at me quite a bit. It's not the "ew you're ugly" stare, it's the "I seriously wanna tap your ***" stare. And I'm just wondering if he really hates me as much as he says he does. He told other people that I am "annoying" and "creepy." He is the very first person to EVER call me annoying and creepy. And if I am "annoying and creepy," then why does he stare at me all the time? and he always says things that make me laugh, and he knows it. On Facebook, his statuses are always quotes from my favorite movies, and he knows they're my favorite because I've discussed that with him before. I came to the conclusion a few weeks ago that he probably has a crush on me and is just scared to say anything. So, being a vulnerable dumbasss, I sent him a message on Facebook (regretting it), that said "I don't know what you're going to say to this but I really like you." and he didn't respond for almost two weeks. finally he replied with "What makes you think i would like you?" and we got in an argument. throughout the argument, he kept bringing up the fact that he is mean to me. he'd say "do I act like I like you? really??" and i'd say "it's not about that. i like you reguardless of how you treat me." and he kept going back to "im not even nice to you" which makes me wonder if he really does like me. because i didn't say anything about the way he treats me, and he was very defensive about it. he kept bringing it up, as if I had been blaming it on him or something. he seemed very angry, which also gives me a reason to think he likes me. If he doesn't want me to know he likes me, and I tell him I like him, he might get pissed off that i am wondering if he likes me back. he might get angry that I figured it out. and maybe that's why he rejected me in such a mean way, because seriously, that is NOT the way to reject someone. it's not like he called me a whore or anything, but he could have been kinder with his words, and he shouldn't have gotten that angry and defensive. He STILL continues to stare at me when I see him at school. every day he tries to say something funny to make me laugh. does he like me?? what do you guys think? best answer will receive best answer. thank you! more

Voting Question: I think I like two guys! What should I do, who should I choose? PLEASEE read and answer!!!!?

Voting Question: what does he like about me?

So there's this guy....obviously. He does call me like he's suppose to, but we're not really dating. He says we will most likely one day, just not yet. But that's the least of what i care about. My mind is set on what he actually see's in me. He tells me im a very pretty girl, but i don't see that. Im tall, clumsy, skinny, i have the goffiest laugh. Im quiet, and shy. I have low self asteem, and anyone can see it in my eyes. I dont really understand why any guy would find me atractive. Funny because my zodiac sign is an aries, and aries are outgoing... but im not outgoing at all. I mean i cant lie, but people tell me i look like a model, and they tell me im beautiful.. but i wouldn't agree. Sometimes i come to an understanding why im still single...and why he doesnt want to be with me in a real relationship... i blame me as a person.. more

Resolved Question: My life is messed up :( Help?

Alright, so lately my life has been really confusing and weird. About three months ago, my boyfriend broke up with me. He pretty much blamed me and I blamed myself too. I really missed him until I found out he had been cheating on me with my so-called best friend Amy. My ex kept making out with all my “friends” after we broke up, too. It really hurt. I had a bunch of problems, cried every night, was depressed, and even cut myself. Now, I’m still depressed, and about a week ago my ex and Amy started going out. I can’t believe she would do that after what she did to me. I stopped talking to her after that, She doesn’t think it’s much of a problem but I don’t want anything to do with her. Also, now I like a new guy. We’re best friends and he admitted he liked me too, but he’s best friends with Amy and thinks that would be a problem. I feel like this is too much for me to handle at 13. I really like this guy but he just wants to mess around and have sex with me (I’m not going to). What do you guys think I should do with my life right now??? Like what am I supposed to do with all my “friends”? I know it's long but I really appreciate the answers. Thanks! more

Resolved Question: Mob squealing; now we've all had our fill of what young Venables (may) have done - what about his companion?

How would we act if, in years to come we learn that Robert Thompson had entered the church as a monk and was ultimately cleaned of his past ills...or better still, he became (bedamned) a social worker in the fine county of Devon - or anywhere else the Londoncentric press deems as 'not sexy'. how would we act then? The reason why I ask, is that despite not entirely knowing what Jon Venables had actually DONE to be recalled to jail, some of us are spitting and snarling up on our moral towers. You see...this current circus doesn't only hurt and anger the Bulgers...but I suspect Thompson (wherever he may be now) is also feeling the heat due to whatever Venables allegedly had done. On the subject of said man - we're now told he has been recalled for 'sex crime claims' - who's to say next week he'll be blamed for becoming an extremist Muslim and trying to blow up any of the massive shopping centres throughout England?Nice answer, Duirmuid...but does a section of the public (Y!A squealers) really care of what the truth may be...what if he did what most men (myself included in years gone by) was sussed pissing in a shop doorway. Indeed, young Venables may have buggered up his parole rules...but the shyness of the government to let us in on it makes me suspect his 'crime' was not as nasty as the usual populist tabs. are telling us. Anyhows...saw Fulham draw with Spurs - and an a wee bit tiddlypooz right now. Guten tag......or even 'nacht'! more

Resolved Question: Why did he stop talking to me? Why is he judgmental of our mutual friend?

I met this charming, attractive and attentive guy on New Year's Eve through a mutual friend and we hit it off. Soon after we began dating and he was a great guy UNTIL he began pressuring me to drink with him. I'm not going to blame him but I began drinking heavily with him primarily vodka and whiskey (and I'm not a heavy drinker). He also began talking terrible things about our mutual friend and how she was 5 years older than us (we're 24 and 25 and she's nearly 30) and how she was stuck in a dead end job as a front desk employee and how she lacked ambition. They actually work at the same hotel, only he's sales manager and and she's the front desk. He also complained how she would ask him for drinks whenever they went out and how that annoyed him. He told me that he needed to "separate from her" because she always gave him free pot. He insisted that I not hangout with her ... and since I liked him so much ... I basically didn't hangout with her for a month. Needless to say, he began telling me that I need to focus on some other area of study (I'm studying social work ... hopefully getting my master's within 2 years) since that was a low paying job and I could not benefit from it. I told him I had seizures and I cried and he cut me off and told me those things are no big deals. All the while, I ALWAYS listened to me. On Valentine's Day I got him cologne (without expecting a gift from him since he had previously told me he didn't believe in V-Day). He took it, and gave me a hug and looked uncomfortable. Sensing that he was uncomfortable and wanting to put some distance between he and I for a while, I hung out with our mutual friend that next two weekends. All the while, he called me to say he was disappointed in me because our friend had no aspirations in life and was a bad influence on me. I said, well it's her or me ... and I told him that I didn't want to throw my friendship away because she wasn't a bad influence. In fact, whenever I go out with my friend we only have three drinks at the most. With him, I would drink more heavily than I EVER did in my life (something that was my fault) ... thankfully after the breakup I've hardly had a drink and I don't crave one either. Anyway, we sort of talked on the phone and I said I think it's time to call it quits. He says the following, "So you wanted to beat me to the breakup? Was that it?" I told him that that wasn't the case, and that he should stop judging our friend and everyone else my their power and money. Since then we have NOT talked at all, he's only sent me a text message to not delete our picture (the one we took on V-Day) from FB. It's so weird. So here's my question ... why is he so judgmental of our mutual friend when he's a much worse influence? And why did he act so strange afterward? I can't decipher it, so your input would be greatly appreciated! Thanks! more

Resolved Question: SOMEONE BROKE INTO MY HOUSE!!!!!!!?

okay i'm 15 and i was on my computer in my room and all of a sudden i hear glass break i blame it on my cat's but then i go out there to look i turn on my kitchen light so i can see the front door and then i see glass all over the ground and the door's standing wide open...........WTF!!! not that we can know they didn't come in or take anything i plan event's for people who really need help like missing people and parent's who lost there child and i don't have any enemies only friends why would someone do this the police we're touching everything not wearing gloves and they finally had a pair of gloves and asked a bunch of different questions my mom was asleep when it happened but i came and hurried to wake her up we had to call teh citie's police department number because our 911 base thingy is 10 min's away and that would take longer........but any idea's or help you can give me i still have to go to school tomorrow. more

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