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Open Question: Can a 19 yr old, attending college be kicked out of his home?

Hello yahoo members, I'm in a position where I felt I needed to take steps as soon as possible. It's 20:47 and hopefully someone can help me ASAP. Let me start at the beginning; In short. I have been living in this home nearly 20 years come January. When I was 5 my mother and father divorced. Some time later... along came my step mother, married my father and they conceived two children and everything was fine until three years ago. My father already had problems with blood pressure, and type 2 diabetes, was diagnosed with cancer; a tumor in his nose actually. In the year of surgeries and radiation and kemo therapy, my father felt he couldn't get the rest he needed at home (dogs, loud children, lawn mowers, etc.) so he found a home (old folks home to be exact) to recuperate. It was at the end of this year my dad was diagnosed as cancer free and was a survivor. Still feeling drained from treatment he remains in the home till this day (Although he is nearly back to his old self, you will find out why he couldn't come home in a moment). My step mother during this time, found a new boyfriend, and secretly "visited" for some time (I suspect). It's understandable I suppose, women have needs, but what she did next... no class at all. So you would assume that two people who are married have items and property shared between them over time. A lot of my fathers tools, and equipment and clothing were at my home. Anyways for the sake of your time... The boyfriend was revealed in April 2010, dad kicked out promptly less than 30 days to remove all items. Can only see my brothers and sister when SHE is home. Here is where I make my entrance if I may; You can imagine how stressful this was on me, as with everyone else in similar situations would understand. I have struggled through my last 3 years of high school (grad of 09) and actually pushed myself into college (I plan to university transfer). I took out a student loan, and budget myself carefully. I have been successful over the last year of school. Last year was slow only taking 4 courses over two semesters due to lack of space in courses. But now this fall, I have taken a full load of 5 courses. And have received funding with the government assuming since I live at home and pay no rent I should only get money for school and books and some food support. Well here I am first week of school almost done. And my step mother out of no where wants $300 dollars a month and wants Septembers money by Friday. I know some may think what a lazy kid that's nothing for rent. But hear this; I filled out the student aid application assuming I was paying no rent. I told her that I can only give her some money to pitch in (I use the TV, and internet) if I get enough funding. I don't even eat their food I only sleep at home. I would get a job but anyone experienced with STUDENTAIDBC would know. A student living at home and works should have all that money saved and spend it on tuition. for example. X - School Costs Y- Resources. I had a seasonal job last winter. Made $2000. My tuition for this semester is $2000. Government gives some grants, and extra funding for food and such. this comes to about $4000. X (4000) - Y (2000) = 2000 Need. These numbers aren't accurate but heres my budget. I spend about $500 a month insuring and operating a vehicle, food, cell phone, and the occasional entertainment. The $2000 lasts me perfectly for the semester. And now, this $300/ mo would drain my funds. She wants $300 by FRIDAY or "FIND A CHEAPER PLACE TO LIVE". Can she LEGALLY KICK ME OUT? THANKS A LOT FOR READING. AND ALL FEEDBACK WOULD HELP ME A LOT. I WILL BE VISITING COUNSELOR AT SCHOOL TOMORROW THANKS. more

Voting Question: Please help me. The hospital put me thousands in debt over an ER visit?

I honestly feel like crying right now. And for a grown man, that's saying alot. Here's the story... On august 1st (just a month ago) i had the worst stomach pains i've ever had in my life. I was hyperventilating, sweating, and just all around freaking out. I've had really bad pains in my stomach before, but i didn't go to the hospital because i don't have insurance. So i held out and dealt with the pain. but on this day, it was so bad i was about to pass out and it was scaring the people around me. So, my girlfriend rushes me to the hospital and they give me a morphine drip for my pain and order a couple scans. A CT scan and an ultrasound of my stomach. Also a urine sample. I waited and waited. I first got there at 1pm and didn't get any real results until about 5:30pm. The doctor came in and told me i had gall stones and that the only treatment really is to either go on a bland diet or have surgery at a later time to get my gall bladder removed. So, he prescribed me some vicodin/ib profen and i was out of there by 6:30pm with a generic pain reliever prescription and a print out from google of what a bland diet is. I've gone on the bland diet and the pain has come back anyway, so they didn't really help other than to diagnose my issue. But that's beside the point. My real issue is this. I assumed since i was only there for a few hours and i didn't even have surgery or anything that my bill wouldn't be so bad. Maybe $2,000-3,000. And even then, that would be alot for me. A week later i receive the bill in the mail and mine and my girlfriend's jaws drop. I got 2 separate bills: 1 for the scan that was $500. Okay, not too bad. The other from the hospital itself for $12,000! I'm...simply dumbfounded. And the breakdown on the sheet of all the costs just made my stomach/emotions sink so low $3,000 for the use of the little room i was in for only a few hours $6,000 for the other scan $300 for the lube they put on my stomach for the scan And alot of other little overpriced things that added up And just today i got another bill for the doctors/nurses totaling $700. I'm so...sad right now. I'm in my mid 20's working part time as a janitor because it's the only work i could find. I only make $800 a month and i co-support my 6 year old daughter. How am i supposed to pay for this? These bills shot down any hope i had of moving up in the world. I was going to get a better job, save up for a better car. All that. And now from only one visit i'm thousands in debt. What can i do? I feel so ripped off. This has affected me to the point where from now on if anything is wrong with me, even if it's serious, i won't go to the hospital. With my mentality now, i'd rather die than go. What are my options? How will medical debt follow me? The more i google the more freaked out i get about all this. Can they take away my car and garnish my checks if i can't pay? I'm just...in shock. I'm hoping someone on here can help me out to calm me and my family down a little. Info about me: I make $800 a month i rent I don't have any assets other than my car and even then, my bill is worth 5 times more than my car I live in washington state I don't have insurance and social services actually said i make too much. Too much? Ha! I'm poor Any help, any links to any programs or phone numbers or anything would mean the world to me more

Resolved Question: There's a party going on across the hall from my dorm. What exactly is fun about...?

Ok, so today is my 2nd night at my new private dorm I have all to myself and part of me is feeling jealous but I don't know why just because this other girl who is here for her first time has a bunch of college students over at her place across the hall. Although I don't want to be lonely, I also don't see the fun in joining into a bunch of people talking all at once while music is blaring; besides, what do I have to talk about? number one) I'm gay so it's not like I can rant about my boyfriend like I heard one of the girls over there doing, and number two) I'm single and have always been. It's like I don't even want to get involved because I wouldn't have anything to say but yet I'm lonely and jealous. I mean, wtf do you do at a party anyway? I guess I wouldn't mind a small get together with a few gay guys playing a board game with some soft music playing in the background; that be fun; like me and a boyfriend of mine with another gay guy and his boyfriend. That way I can be honest and we can both talk about our relationships. Yea, that sounds fun. But how the hell am I going to find a boyfriend. Most guys that have been into me were out of my league and the slews of guys I've wanted either sent me mixed signals before eventually rejecting me or lied and gave me fake numbers, didn't answer the phone, or return messages. more

Voting Question: how would you respond to this?

Okay my wedding is this month. when i sent out my RSVP cards I put the date for August 25th, one month before my wedding and 1 1/2 weeks before i have to give final numbers ( on the 5th of this month) i figured that gives me time to call everyone who hadn't responded and find out, anyways almost everyone RSVP right away, and i was waiting on my 2 of my aunts and my fiance's cousin. My fiance called his cousin and got an answer from him and i got an answer from my 1 aunt. I kept phoning and e mailing my other aunt ( i know its only been 6 days but i only have 4 days left to figure out final numbers) Now when i invited her i invited her, her 2 boys and her daughter. well her daughter messaged me today and said 7 people would be coming, I told her i needed every ones name for the seating chart. so she said her mom ,her ,her two brothers, her brothers girlfriend, her moms boyfriend, and her boyfriend. I said well I wasn't sure if I would be able to accommodate her moms boyfriend, her boyfriend and her brothers girlfriend. we are on a tight budget and I would need to figure t out and would let her know as soon as i could so in the next day. So my aunt wrote me ( she is a drama queen) and was getting mad because i didn't include them and their should be no reason as to why i shouldn't be able to have them there. I explain dto her that we are on a tight budget, we are not getting married in a hall ( like my sisters they got married in a hall and then had a family member make food, both times it was me) that we have a venue that needs an amount of people because it is catered, the meal itself costs 45 dollars a person, not including appetizers and drinks ( not booze but water, pop, juice, coffee and tea) I didn't tell her the price but told her that we are paying per person and really ont have the money for a bunch of other people that for 1 i have never meet in my life and for 2 i didn't even know existed ( except for my cousins girlfriend but he is like 17) I have a hard time being a bitch but she told me that if they cant come there not coming because i'm being rude.this seriously made me angry why am i being rude? I want to say fine then don't come, but my family already has so much drama i could just imagine what that would do, and i would be looked at as a bitch and everything else, I know my family would look down on me and it would cause more fighting then there already is, and everyone would blame me. Now i don't know what to do, I mean i'm sure i could make the space but i was hoping to go no more the 55 people and that brings me up to almost 60...ahhh help please!! what should i do?The invatation was specfic with the people that i was inviting, i have not talked to this aunt, in the last 5 years i havent seen her in over 10 years, thats my problem, she was invited because my mother told me i had to invite her and now her and my mom are fighting. more

Voting Question: Is there a way to find out a restricted number that has been prank calling me?

My boyfriend has been receiving "restricted" phone calls for the past six months. Sometimes the people talk to us, a lot of the time they don't. Yeah we can just ignore the phone calls, but regardless, it doesn't stop. We have a PRETTY good idea who it is, we believe it's a crazy ex, because they started after they broke up & got worse when we started dating. This person has her friends call and harass us ALL night long. Record was like 17 phone calls in an hour. They call at 1pm. 5pm. 11pm midnight...3 am...whenever. Clearly has no life. 95% of the time we ignore it...but it's getting to much now. Yeah we can change the number, but the point is is we want to find out for sure if it's her, and bring it to the police. Just recently, she found out my number....not sure how...if you know any way she could have...lemme know...but she called me, and it wasn't restricted but when I called the number back it was a business phone number. So they use that application that allows you to call from other numbers...not only that she DEFITALLY used a voice changer. (i know on my phone there are some pretty insane aplications that allow that) but she threatened to come over to my apartment, and she told me where I lived! kinda scared. I'm 23 and I'm scared of an 19 year old immature girl. I know sad, but she's so persistant that I'm scared she'd do something. Just 2 weeks ago, I had a big crack in my windsheild when sleeping over at his house....so suspiscion is growing. I guess I'm looking for advice on what you'd do. wondering how she could have gotten my cell phone number. (& I dont think she got it from facebook, considering my stuff is private..but who knows) ...I have no "PROOF" but we are going on suspiscion. and there are good reaons we believe it's her/ her friends. more

Voting Question: Got myself in such a mess, please help me? (long distance relationship)?

So I met this guy online. I signed up to a dating website, although I never really needed to I'm in uni. I guess I was just curious, I never expected to find someone I had a connection with on there. But I did, he recently left uni and is a couple of years older than myself. Originally we just spoke online, about random topics and found ourselves having a great chemistry. Both of us live for conversation, so it didn't really matter to us who or how we we're talking, just that we were in conversation was good enough. We live in the same country and about three hours (by car) from one another. So we decided to exchange phone numbers. He texted me right away, and we decided to talk on the phone, we were both totally comfortable with each other and got on well. It's been almost half a year since our first phone call, and we've become closer and closer. He texts me almost daily now. I know it's crazy, but this is the modern day and you can meet some amazing people online, which you'd never have met otherwise. PROBLEM. I got so used to just talking online/text/phone/webcam/skype that I got a little too comfortable with him, we both now know a lot about each other and our sexual life's (oh-er). Suddenly he threw it on me that he wanted to meet me 24th of may. I've no idea whether to go through with it or not? I'm so worried of what he'll think of me, whether it will be awkward or not... I'm just not ready for this decision. Should I meet him? Help me please! more

Voting Question: Got myself in such a mess, please help me?

So I met this guy online. I signed up to a dating website, although I never really needed to I'm in uni. I guess I was just curious, I never expected to find someone I had a connection with on there. But I did, he recently left uni and is a couple of years older than myself. Originally we just spoke online, about random topics and found ourselves having a great chemistry. Both of us live for conversation, so it didn't really matter to us who or how we we're talking, just that we were in conversation was good enough. We live in the same country and about three hours (by car) from one another. So we decided to exchange phone numbers. He texted me right away, and we decided to talk on the phone, we were both totally comfortable with each other and got on well. It's been almost half a year since our first phone call, and we've become closer and closer. He texts me almost daily now. I know it's crazy, but this is the modern day and you can meet some amazing people online, which you'd never have met otherwise. PROBLEM. I got so used to just talking online/text/phone/webcam/skype that I got a little too comfortable with him, we both now know a lot about each other and our sexual life's (oh-er). Suddenly he threw it on me that he wanted to meet me 24th of may. I've no idea whether to go through with it or not? I'm so worried of what he'll think of me, whether it will be awkward or not... I'm just not ready for this decision. Should I meet him? Help me please! more

Resolved Question: How can a feminine gay guy find a date in Seattle?

First, if you're straight I don't want answers from straights. You will never understand gays. I'm feminine looking where sometimes people wrongly assume I am trans. I'm not wearing any makeup. I just look fem. (Low testosterone I guess). I know I look good, but most gay men are not attracted to me. They all seem to be going after the bears and jocks. The ones who look like body builders. The only guys who like me are the very ones I find the most repulsive. Old grandpas with cigarette stained white mustaches, an ugly MARRIED Egyptian guy, and a very ugly Somalian guy who keeps annoying me outside the bars (he can't even pay the cover!). The weird thing is I get a lot of women after me, but I'm not into them. I even get phone numbers from lipstick LESBIANS!!! Guys tell me I'm good looking but then reject me every time when I say I want to make it go further. I want a rugged straight acting guy who likes fem guys, but I haven't found anything in 2 years. I don't expect that much. Average look and build would be fine with me. What the hell am I supposed to do? I don't want to be some body builder to get anyone's attention. I have lily white skin and soft fingers for God's sake. I will not lower myself to going with a grandpa. Sex should never end with me throwing up in a bucket afterward. I'm about to give up completely. Very lonely. more

Resolved Question: Poll: Was my boss right to fire me?

I was working for about three weeks at a hotel, even though I was only meant to be a housekeeper, I was also told to do waitressing work and cleaning, even though I was not told of this, and the other housekeepers didn't have to. The job was a trail, for three months, I was informed that after three months my trial would be reviewed and evaluated to see if I was a good person for the job, and they would also have given me extra skills to put on my CV. However, after about a week, the other staff stopped following me, like they were meant to, to see if I was doing anything wrong and if I was cleaning the rooms properly, they were meant to follow me constantly, but they didn't. I cleaned the rooms and ordered the laundry room exactly as I was shown by my sister-in-law who is the other housekeeper at the hotel. I also worked longer hours than the other housekeepers and cos I'm only eighteen I was only paid £4.88 an hour. Coming back from work one day I fell off my pushbike whilst going round a orner, and landed awkwardly onto my back, it hurt so much I was in tears, and the next day I couldn't physically move out of bed in the morning, I got up in the afternoon but it hurt all day and for the next few days. I texted both the manager Sophie and a senior staff member Dani. I told them what had happened and apologised for any inconvenience, Dani just replied "OK" which was weird as usually she will phone you up and talk for ages. I didn't hear from Sophie til later on in the day, she just left an answerphone message, saying "I'm sorry to hear about your back, but we're not covered by insurance for back related injuries, so have the rest of the week off" I thought well that's fair enough, but here's where it ot weird, in the same message it seemed like she suddenly changed her tune, saying "We've reviewed your trial and decided your not the person for the job, we've had numerous complaints about your housekeeping, and the laundry room is filthy." I was stunned how she would say two completely different things in the same message, and really confused. I asked my sister in law what had happened, as Sophie said numerous complaints, however when I texted her to ask about it she could only think of two and didn't actually tell me what they said. My sister in law said there was rubbish and towels and bedlinen all over the floor in the laundry room, NOT how I left it! If there had been any complaints about the rooms surely they should tell me straight away and show me the problems? I'm not sure what to do now, as I'm definetly not working there again, but I don't think that they had reason to fire me. I've since found out that they getting new people coming over from Bulgaria, where the majority of the staff are from, and my sister in law said it was conveniant how they used me for cheap labour then waited to fire me til she had come back off holiday and they were getting new staff whom they could exploit as they don't know any better. I've got a good mind to report them, as they pay the Bulgarian staff hardly any money, much much less than they paid me, the Bulgarians live on the site and in the rooms that are meant to be for customers, but Sophie still charges them really high rent, and a couple of them let slip to me that they don't have VISA's or National Insurance numbers, they also work over eighty hours a week for hardly any money, which I'ms ure is illegal. I think they don't know any better as she is giving them a roof over their heads, albeit an expensive one. One of them also sits around doing nothing, smoking cigarettes outside all the time, he was the main one who just sat bossing me around all the time and moaning at me, which I felt was really unfair. Do you think my boss was right to fire me? As I'm confused about the whole situation and not entirely sure as to what I have done wrong. ALSO: I had to text because: Sophie is always in meetings and is furious if people call. Dani always told me to text and never call as she can't hear it in the kitchens. I was told by all of them that if I had any queries to text them and not ring them. more

Resolved Question: Was my boss right to fire me?

I was working for about three weeks at a hotel, even though I was only meant to be a housekeeper, I was also told to do waitressing work and cleaning, even though I was not told of this, and the other housekeepers didn't have to. The job was a trail, for three months, I was informed that after three months my trial would be reviewed and evaluated to see if I was a good person for the job, and they would also have given me extra skills to put on my CV. However, after about a week, the other staff stopped following me, like they were meant to, to see if I was doing anything wrong and if I was cleaning the rooms properly, they were meant to follow me constantly, but they didn't. I cleaned the rooms and ordered the laundry room exactly as I was shown by my sister-in-law who is the other housekeeper at the hotel. I also worked longer hours than the other housekeepers and cos I'm only eighteen I was only paid £4.88 an hour. Coming back from work one day I fell off my pushbike whilst going round a orner, and landed awkwardly onto my back, it hurt so much I was in tears, and the next day I couldn't physically move out of bed in the morning, I got up in the afternoon but it hurt all day and for the next few days. I texted both the manager Sophie and a senior staff member Dani. I told them what had happened and apologised for any inconvenience, Dani just replied "OK" which was weird as usually she will phone you up and talk for ages. I didn't hear from Sophie til later on in the day, she just left an answerphone message, saying "I'm sorry to hear about your back, but we're not covered by insurance for back related injuries, so have the rest of the week off" I thought well that's fair enough, but here's where it ot weird, in the same message it seemed like she suddenly changed her tune, saying "We've reviewed your trial and decided your not the person for the job, we've had numerous complaints about your housekeeping, and the laundry room is filthy." I was stunned how she would say two completely different things in the same message, and really confused. I asked my sister in law what had happened, as Sophie said numerous complaints, however when I texted her to ask about it she could only think of two and didn't actually tell me what they said. My sister in law said there was rubbish and towels and bedlinen all over the floor in the laundry room, NOT how I left it! If there had been any complaints about the rooms surely they should tell me straight away and show me the problems? I'm not sure what to do now, as I'm definetly not working there again, but I don't think that they had reason to fire me. I've since found out that they getting new people coming over from Bulgaria, where the majority of the staff are from, and my sister in law said it was conveniant how they used me for cheap labour then waited to fire me til she had come back off holiday and they were getting new staff whom they could exploit as they don't know any better. I've got a good mind to report them, as they pay the Bulgarian staff hardly any money, much much less than they paid me, the Bulgarians live on the site and in the rooms that are meant to be for customers, but Sophie still charges them really high rent, and a couple of them let slip to me that they don't have VISA's or National Insurance numbers, they also work over eighty hours a week for hardly any money, which I'ms ure is illegal. I think they don't know any better as she is giving them a roof over their heads, albeit an expensive one. One of them also sits around doing nothing, smoking cigarettes outside all the time, he was the main one who just sat bossing me around all the time and moaning at me, which I felt was really unfair. Do you think my boss was right to fire me? As I'm confused about the whole situation and not entirely sure as to what I have done wrong.I had to text because: Sophie is always in meetings and is furious if people call. Dani always told me to text and never call as she can't hear it in the kitchens. I was told by all of them that if I had any queries to text them and not ring them. more

Resolved Question: when a subpoena is requested and granted how far into your phone text history is able to be pulled back up?

I mean is the text message it's self readable or is it just times, dates, and phone numbers that they will be able to get? and is the cell phone company the only people that save text messages? Need this info before i try to get a subpoena send the money for it and find out it was useless information or evidence.From my knowledge only so much data can be stored at one time, and that the phone companies have a limit to how long the data is on there server before being delete then over written with new texts that i send and receive so how is it possible for the data to be pulled back up, are the text readable and how far back can they go? more

Resolved Question: How do you deal with a manager that is like this?

have an assistant manager at my job who basically is a big disaster in life in general, and also at the workplace. The only reason I know this is because he brings his home life to work via tons of phone calls from his kids, wife, etc. on the job, using the company phone. He has brought attention to and called for the store manager to discipline other employees for using their cell phone, texting or whatever in the store. Yet he does it, and he will answer his phone and tell whoever it is to, "Call me at the store." There are other disturbing trends, such as he tries to pass off horrible (cheap) sales to other coworkers, so that their numbers go down and his don't. He will pretend like he is suddenly busy doing something. When I first started, he did this crazy thing where if I would be standing somewhere feet away him, he would suddenly find a need to get in the drawer that I was near. So I'd go over here, and he'd say, "Excuse me, J" (he won't remember people's names who have been there for a long time, and calls them by single letters) and want to get at something supposedly in the drawer. So I'd go somewhere else, and he would do the same thing with that. He is extremely obnoxious...an "impressor" it seems. So he will try to make out like the guy who knows what he's doing, when he doesn't. If it's slow, he will grab stuff and start cleaning heavily. He sprays cleaning spray EVERYWHERE...as if he's getting high on it. I leave the area when he does that, because that can't be good for the lungs. If you are speaking to him, he will act like he's listening and just randomly look up at someone going by and say, "Hey, how you doin'?" in a crazy manner of greeting them...but totally not listening to you. Then he'll ask you again later what you were trying to tell him in the first place. He leaves early sometimes by an hour or two. The company has let him get away with it. He will go out in front of the store (it's in an airport) and stand there wanting to talk to me, or pointing out women or other people to me...not doing anything but greeting every 25th person that walks by. But if I went out there and stood, waiting for someone to come up and help them..he would say, "We can't just stand out there. We have to get energy and do this and that..." But he sure doesn't do that. His wife and kids call the job I don't know how many times per day, looking for him. He leaves work, turns his phone off or ignores calls from his wife/kids, and then they can't apparently reach him until he comes back in to work again. His wife is a pharmacist...very overweight, and he apparently married her for the $130,000 a year that she makes. I know for a fact that he makes $12 an hour, having secretly seen this info back when I first started. I have seen that he is quite a backstabbing character...he will act like he's on your side when you are there, but then when you aren't there he says stuff about you to other people and degrades you. What's the best way to deal with this guy? I've gotten into it several times with him because he's just so ignorant. My store manager isn't strong enough to put her foot down and tell him what to do. Her managers that I've told about some of the issues didn't seem to care and wanted to point at me, instead...saying "So you think he's incompetent?" I know he's incompetent...is my best bet to just find a new job? I've been there almost a year and a half. more

Resolved Question: How can I find out more about my half brother?

When I was 14, my mother was staying as an inpatient in the local mental ward (which was quite normal for her). Her & my father were alcoholics and drug users, but my mother was much worse with her mental disorders. But anyways that day, my father was drunk out of his mind & blurted out to me, "your mother got f******* knocked up." Of course I ignored him at first, as usual, wondering wtf he was talking about. He kept saying it over & over so I finally asked him what the heck he was talking about. I was entirely in shock and I really didn't believe him at all. He attempted to tell me that my mother had a son when she was 17 & that is why she dropped out of high school. & that "he was taken away because she was such a sh**ty parent". He is about 7 years older than me I've guessed, but I don't know exactly what year. I was so upset to find out that everyone in my family had known I had a half brother, but have never told me. I would even beg to have a brother when I was little (never a sister) so that I had someone to understand what I was going through, etc. As he sobered up my dad ended up telling me the little information he knew about my brother, such as his name & his father's name. I remember him grabbing the phone book saying "His grandmother lives on so & so street nearby", but I was so in shock I forgot what he showed me. Once my mother came home, I was grilling her for all the information & I was so mad, sad, hurt, upset that I was never told about this. She basically had another breakdown & I didn't get much information out of her other than his name, his birthday but not the year, & a small picture of him (which I had come across several times in her photo box & she would say oh it's a kid I used to babysit.... psh nice way to lie to me & refer to your son as some kid.) My family fell apart soon after that & I never really got the information I was looking for. I ended up living with other various family members for a few years & haven't had any contact with my parents at all.. I'm now 21 & it really has been haunting me not knowing really where he is or where to find him. All I really know is his name, he has a Jr suffix named after his father, his birthdate but not the year, he has family that still lives locally but idk where to find them, and that he was/is a member in the navy. I've tried searching phone books, but I can't stand the thought of randomly calling so many people. I've checked myspace, facebook, etc, but searching by name I find many profiles without pictures (only picture I have was from when he was about 5 or 6 so can't judge what he looks like now) or just not enough information to identify. Does anyone have any tips or places to search for people? What about through the navy? I would just hate to call random numbers or add random people & even if I do find him what if he doesn't want contact with me? As far as I know, he has no knowledge of me whatsoever & he has siblings from his father and stepmother. I guess the first paragraph didn't have to be quite so long, but that's the story :/ Any ideas, thoughts, or tips would be greatly appreciated... thanks more

Resolved Question: Thinking about getting back with my ex after he cheated. Need advice?

My ex-fiance and I were together for 4 years, then we broke up and got back together for another year and broke up for good. He cheated on me the first year we were together. I always expected it, and in year 4 he admitted it to me. After that I was so hurt and I felt so stupid that our relationship never recovered. Our break up hurt him so much, he almost failed out of college. His psychiatrist called me several times asking me to talk to him on suicide watch. At first I thought it was just a game to get me back, then I just didn't care. I wanted him out of my life. It has been 6 years since that happened. He made one last attempt to get me back 5 years ago. He wrote me a letter pretty much saying it was his last attempt. He said that he wished me happiness, but felt that no one could love me as much as he did. He said that he was through apologizing for his mistake. I saved the letter for years, but never called him (I had my phone numbers and email addressed changed). Last year we got back in touch on Myspace and Facebook. I could't resist some of his posts. He always has something provocative on his mind which leads to great debates. He even would talk to me about my problems. He even gave me relationship advice. I have been thinking about our relationship and how wonderful it was until he admitted he cheated. In many ways he was right...I have never found anyone that has loved me like he has. Many of the guys I've dated since have cheated on me. Most of the people I meet just want something for me. However, my ex actually use to invest in me and WE made plans for OUR future. He even changed his career focus in college because the career he wanted would have caused him to work long hours and keep us apart. The more I communicate with my ex the more I think that maybe I made a mistake. We have not seen each other since we've been back in touch, but I seriously have been considering asking him out to lunch. Am I making a mistake by considering this?He has not shown interest in me. I am the one that is feeling interest in him again. The only attention he has shown me was to ask me a question about my job, and the occassional joke email or text message. more

Resolved Question: is this mean to do to a friend?

okay i'm 13, and i have been bestfriends with this girl since like kindergarten. we have ALWAYS been bestfriends, until when we went to different middle schools 2 yrs ago. people always told us we looked like sisters, and always got us mixed up. she was one of my best and only friends, and when i started middle school i was sooooo soooo sad about not being able to hang out that much. her parents got divorced, around when we were in 4th grade.....so i cant really see her much anyways because she is mostly with her mom which is like 40 mins away. but her dads house is like right down the street but she is barely there......so we dont talk very often.....she always has sooo many different phone numbers...so i cant exactly call her because idk which # to use.....and i have a cell but i cant text a whole lot. since middle school, shes really changed....well i guess i have to a little, but not as much as she has.....she is more along the popular crowd and has a ton of boyfriends.....plus shes started to go SCENE. o_O i have never had a boyfriend.......and i just kinda hang with the normal crowd......plus we have both always been smart....and i found out she got like 3 "D's" on her report card!!! we just have nothing in common anymore.....a few days ago she called just to see what was up.......(but i suspect her mom made her call bcuz i have a feeling she doesnt want to talk to me either...) and we talked for like 5 mins about whatever and i wanted to hang up sooooo bad....and i was about to but she was like gtg.....so i knew she didnt rly wanna tlk either......i feel so bad bcuz she was like my BFF and i really want to patch things up with her and hang out more.....but were not going to the same highschool after this year either....so idk how......i made a bunch of new friends and a new possible BFF......but i dont wanna jus 4get about her ya know?? arent u supposed to make new friends but keep the old???? but we just have nothing in common anymore....and since we dont go to the same skool we have nothing to talk about.....should i just not be friends with her anymore...i dont wanna be mean........god what do i do?? srry it was sooo long btw. =( more

Resolved Question: Is giving a guy your number "old fashioned?" How do you do so?

(This looks long, but you only really need to read the first two paragraph things. The third is just an explanation of my situation which is not really needed to answer the question.) It seems to me that more often than not, people don’t give out their phone numbers anymore. It seems that if someone is interested, they’ll just find you on Facebook or something. Is giving someone your phone number outdated? Also, if it isn’t outdated, how would a girl give a guy her phone number with out him specifically asking but she can tell that he wouldn’t say no to having her number? This last weekend, I was at a party and I met a guy who is friends with a few of my friends from their college. We talked quite a bit that night and when everyone was leaving, he asked me for a hug, so I gave him one. That night, not even the next morning, I got a friend request from him. He met a lot of people at that party and the only people he became friends with on facebook after it was me and a guy. He seemed pretty interested in getting to know me better at the party. However, I’m not interested in having a relationship right now, especially with someone who will be about 2 hours away when we’re both back at school. However, this situation has made me question about whether giving phone numbers is outdated and how I would go about that when I meet someone else who seems interested. Thanks! more

Voting Question: Relationship dilemma and boyfriend.. God, parents, family.?

Hey everyone, I need your thoughts on my problem. i'm rachel and im 21 years old, final year college student I met Adrian back in late February.. We knew eachother through Facebook in which he is the cousin to one of my long lost friends back in the days. Not knowing that he would come to my city to work and to live a little over a mile away from my home, we decided to exchange numbers and meet for the first time. Later on I found out that he is also cousins to my childhood buddies from sunday school in church.. What a small world huh? Anyways, we met for the first time and started texting over the phone frequently for about 2 months till a point in time we actually liked eachother and confessed our feelings. Mid May he proposed to be his girlfriend and I accepted. As a guy, he told his family which wasn't a problem for him as his family are very happy for him. However for me, I really want to let my family know that I have a boyfriend.. but knowing my parents, I'm close with my parents but somethings like this, love, relationship talk, I never encountered this with them and it feels odd. My bf and I are both Christians. And my parents are Pastors. ( I have this theory or so to say, that your own parents can be helpful to other people when it comes to certain matters but not to their own children because other people apart from your own parents can be helpful in advising me) He attends my church occasionally whenever he doesn't have to work on Sundays. He told me everything bout him and his pasts from ex gf and whatnot. So I know who he is but my parents dont know much. We occasionally hang out for a movie or lunch without my parents knowledge. One night the Holy Spirit told my mom bout Adrian and how I happen to be 'sneaking' out with him to hang out. Somehow they found out that I like Adrian. the next morning, my parents told me that I should not be in a relationship now since it can be a distraction to me given that i'm in my final year of my studies and it can be the devil's trap to bring me down at this crucial point of my life. Having to obey my parents, later that day i text and called Adrian saying that I can't go on with this relationship after listening to my parents.. but I told him that we should pray to God bout us, and to pray that this would be the will of God. Till today we both fast for our relationship every Friday but we love eachother very much and I cry to God telling Him that I don't want no one else and hope that this is of His will because I want to be with Adrian. I don't know how to face this with my parents. Everyday i think of telling them that I like him but it is just impossible if not hard if not weird to tell my own parents on matters of love.. like I said, its easier to tell someone else that is of my parents age, to talk to them about this but not my own parents.. So I'm leaving this dilemma to God and pray that God will show my parents that he is the one for me. Because they usually pray for my churchmembers who has a bf or a gf and God would show them if they are the right one or not. You see, it is so easy for my churchmembers to talk to their pastors ( my parents) bout this and their love life/relationship. but it is so difficult for me to talk to my own parents about this Adrian is pretty much my very first boyfriend. I had some other guys that had shown interest in me but I did not respond cos I didnt feel the same way as I did with Adrian. Some of you may say I just have to confront my parents, but it is soooo difficult and I'm afraid they would detest.. I've left this all to God but still I think bout this everyday. I wish things were simpler as how many other couples could just go to their parents and say, " Mom.Dad. I met someone I like and we are together" more

Resolved Question: Hey people I need some advise... My old crush found me on facebook and feeling a little jealous he is engaged?

So 6 years ago I met this guy in my country I was visiting so was he, I live in NJ and he lives in NY... We exchanged phone numbers and he called me when we got back... We met and went out he also came to one of my families reunions and all... We kissed a couple times and had a nice time... But because of distance we couldn't have something serious... We talked on the phone every night I remember waiting for his call with my heart going crazy! To make things short he tried one again with his ex and he stopped calling me like he use to ... I got mad and decided to go out with this other guy he was trying to get with me for like a year and a half... I ended up marring him and love him but now that I see this other guy engaged makes me feel sad and angry ... He has been with his girl for about the same time I been with my husband.... What to do? sometimes I feel like letting him know how I felt before... When I post something on my facebook of photo he is always on top of it ALWAYS makes me wonder ... I really suffer for this guy... and now he comes back into my life... not cool lol more

Resolved Question: calls from 01625 870600 & 01625 870610 SCAM?

I've been called by these two numbers for the past month. I'm not here to ask any questions, but a general warning that these numbers are scams. They say they are fresh start finance, and they are not professional on the phone. I've done some research on this and found comments such as: Keep phoning me, apparently a company called Fresh Start Finance. I am not in any financial trouble which I have told them many times but they still keep ringing and hanging up. When you try and call back they cut you off, even phone me at 6am which I was not best pleased with. I Just had a call from this number. Told him kindly i didn't have any debt issues and he started being very cheeky and rude on the phone. I told him to take my name of his list. Very Unprofessional. Be wary. Im getting so sick of this company!!! for a month now, constant calls! they don't care what time of day or night it is either. They either call and hang up or if they do decide to speak, they ask for fake names. How these people have got my number i have no idea as i can count on both hands how many people have my number. Ive complained to TPS an that hasn't helped so I've located the company (fresh start finance)'s website an found that you can anonymously contact them, which I'm going to do start doing from now on, every time they call harassing me I'm going to contact them through their website an harass them with messages about contacting solicitors over them...........see how they like it the fools. This is just a warning, leave comments if you have been affected so we can all sort this problem out, as you can probably guess most people are fed up of being called when they haven't signed up for any debt help or financial advice. Thanks. more

Voting Question: Need some relationship advice before I ruin it.. =/?

I know posting this people are going to say rude things, so if that's the case, keep your "answers" to yourself please. I'm just looking for some honest, yet nice advice. I'm not some 17 year old girl who's insecure or any of that so just please try not to be judgemental or rude. Haha this problem seems immature, but I'm over 20 years old, and I'm scared I'm ruining my relationship. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now, he's never ever given me any reason not to trust him. I was in a relationship in the past (a few yrs ago) that was very controlling, we saw eachother far too often, it was one of those break up and make up a million times type of relationships, he cheated, I stayed with him (stupidly), he used to hide girls numbers in his phone under family members names, it was a big mess. i finally got out of that destructive relationship. but my current boyfriend is total opposite of my ex and he's never cheated, he's such a good guy, we only see eachother 2-3 times a week (so we remember what it's like to miss eachother)...it's great. But lately I've found myself being so "needy" almost, and getting all worried about nothing. I'm pretty much being annoying. I know it's my problem, I just need some direction as to how I fix it. I'm worrying over nothing, if I don't get a text, I think something's wrong..If he's not being super affectionate, I think something's wrong..if things aren't picture perfect, I think something's wrong..If he just wants to have some time to himself, I think something's wrong, etc. It's so aggravating! When he goes out with his friends, I find myself texting him more than usual. I'm just constantly worrying over basically nothing, and I can't even figure out why. And he's constantly telling me to stop worrying and assuming things are wrong because they're not. Idk, I feel like things were so much more "cute" and "affectionate" and better in the beginning of the relationship, and because I got so used to how things were, if anything's different or not as "good", I automatically assume something's wrong and start worrying and being all paranoid. It's really starting to affect our relationship. I'm not even sure what type of advice I'm looking for...but anything would be helpful. I really don't want to mess this up. Please help! Thanks so much. :) :/ more

Voting Question: Need some friendly relationship advice before I ruin it :/?

I know posting this people are going to say rude things, so if that's the case, keep your "answers" to yourself please. I'm just looking for some honest, yet nice advice. I'm not some 17 year old girl who's insecure or any of that so just please try not to be judgemental or rude. Haha this problem seems immature, but I'm over 20 years old, and I'm scared I'm ruining my relationship. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now, he's never ever given me any reason not to trust him. I was in a relationship in the past (a few yrs ago) that was very controlling, we saw eachother far too often, it was one of those break up and make up a million times type of relationships, he cheated, I stayed with him (stupidly), he used to hide girls numbers in his phone under family members names, it was a big mess. i finally got out of that destructive relationship. but my current boyfriend is total opposite of my ex and he's never cheated, he's such a good guy, we only see eachother 2-3 times a week (so we remember what it's like to miss eachother)...it's great. But lately I've found myself being so "needy" almost, and getting all worried about nothing. I'm pretty much being annoying. I know it's my problem, I just need some direction as to how I fix it. I'm worrying over nothing, if I don't get a text, I think something's wrong..If he's not being super affectionate, I think something's wrong..if things aren't picture perfect, I think something's wrong..If he just wants to have some time to himself, I think something's wrong, etc. It's so aggravating! When he goes out with his friends, I find myself texting him more than usual. I'm just constantly worrying over basically nothing, and I can't even figure out why. And he's constantly telling me to stop worrying and assuming things are wrong because they're not. Idk, I feel like things were so much more "cute" and "affectionate" and better in the beginning of the relationship, and because I got so used to how things were, if anything's different or not as "good", I automatically assume something's wrong and start worrying and being all paranoid. It's really starting to affect our relationship. I'm not even sure what type of advice I'm looking for...but anything would be helpful. I really don't want to mess this up. Thanks so much. :) :/ more

Resolved Question: Windows 7 Phone Call Scam?

I am pretty much the computer tech of my family, but this one kind of hit me by surprise. My girlfriends mom got a new laptop. I put windows 7 on it for her. It has the most up to date Norton possible (I checked the updates.) She gets a phone call a few months after I put it on from a guy who claims he is from "Windows 7." First of all, I know Microsoft does not make house calls... ever... My question is how did these people get her phone number. I try to keep my family pretty up to par with how to stay out of trouble on the internet, so I don't think she has a virus because I didn't notice anything out of the ordinary and Norton has not found anything. Any other ideas? The guy kept calling back from different phone numbers and pretty much harassing her. She had to change her phone number because they could not track it. Ideas of how I can make sure this does not happen again please?Windows 7 copy is legit/genuine. They called and said her computer was giving out viruses and asked her to boot it up. Knowing it sounded like a scam, she hung up. more

Voting Question: How do I get my girlfriend back?

We met in a really crazy way in an connecting airport on July 1st and hit it off had dinner, made 2 hour layover seem like 2 seconds. It ended up that we sat RIGHT next to each other on next flight!! I switched my seat earlier in day to get near front of plane to get off quick and meet a buddy for a beer. Flight was a blast, we already exchanged numbers, she was going to come out that night but couldn't respectfully leave people who picked her up at airport. I was home for 11 days for vacation she was there for 2 month project and back to 40 mins away from my current city. We spend 9 of 10 other days together and fell harder and faster than ever before for both of us. She is 21, I am 30 but age didn't come up at all, she is mature for age. Long term stuff was said and she was my girlfriend after day 5. 11 of most amazing days of my life. Most amazing girl i have ever met. Made promises that I would make return trip in like a week from now actually and not see other people, then she woudl be back to 40 mins away a week after that. Everything was great, messaging insanely intense, couldn't wait for next meeting. Messaging got a tad dry by end of week 3 after I came back without seeing each other. Then I blew it. Basically overworred or overreacted when I hadn't heard anything from her in 1.5 days after we hadn't gone 3 waking hours without a message before. Knew it was something stupid and turned out to be, don't know why i worried so much, but it was combo of our routine, the fact that I figured she was out for drinks when contact was lost and the distance where I felt helpless to do anything if she was in an accident. Left messages at house where she was staying, 1 normal, 2 likely a little overconcerned and a few IMs. Anyway she apologized 3 times when finally heard from her and thought everythind was fine.she was sorry she worried me and explained the silly circumstances, maybe she could have found an alternative way to let me know as I likely would have, but no big deal. I am not usually like that usually really easy going but likely from how crazy I was about her and the distance. I apologized after that and was embarassed. But got message at end of day that she needed to talk. Feared the worst, but never though after how crazy we were about each other and it was 100% genuine, that this could cause a 180 degree turn, but message didn't sound good. Went day and a half without hearing from her and then she broke up with me by IM, saying it was a red flag and it would definitely be a constant. I know it wouldn't be and wrote a lot of messages trying to replace a phone call to tell her what I thought and that this was drastic, can we not talk it out and now I would for sure never do that again, knowing how much it bothered her. Never could I believe we could not make it until my trip 2.5 weeks later, she knew it was booked as well. We hadn't messaged for 9 days except yesterday I sent a message for both our peace of mind that i respected her decision, seen where she was coming from and accepted her apology for her decision which she asked for but did not expect to receive. I did this because it was truthful, but also because I did not want her to be in same boat of how I feel really confused and wondering what she thinks of me now after being SO into me. I did not want her to be thinking he likely hates me now. Could never imagine not talkting to her again. I feel she is definitely worth trying to win her back somehow but do not know what to do?? I guess i will still make my trip, but I dunno. And she is back to within 40 mins of me in less than a month... any advice? I really love this girl! Very short term and crazy I know, but that doesn't change my feelings. Thanks. more

Voting Question: how do I find a home phone number for someone?

I have the full names and address I just haven't got the phone number. I tried white pages but it just keeps coming up with the address, I want the phone number but it's trying to make me sign up and pay for information. I'm not in America so I haven't got access to local phone books. Is there another website I can try? how do most people find phone numbers? more

Voting Question: I have a relationship question. I met this guy last year over myspace, it's not your average love story.?

I added him and we began to talk. We had so much in common, like our love for art, punk music, I mean everything, you name it. We had so many things happen when we began getting to know each other. I live in the state of ohio and i found he did, too. Just the other side of ohio. And we sent each other message after message over myspace, even though myspace is lame. turns out he was my age, && we were going to see the same Green Day concert in July. We thought it was too good to be true. Going to meet in person in Pittsburgh, we love the same things, everything was working out so well. we fell in love immediately. we swapped numbers even though he was so scared to call me at first. we began dating before we even met in person and for some reason I just had this good all around comfortable feeling talking to him. We talked every single day on the phone. He even stayed up with me the nights i got upset. the only issue was the distance between us. he lived four hours away from me and it upset us a lot but through our whole relationship, we never fought. when we met in person finally, after almost a month, on July 22nd, 2009 in front of the Mellon Arena in Pittsburgh to see Green Day, I swear it was love at first site, i felt the spark when i finally got to kiss him and everything. that was the best day of my life. I saw my favorite band and my best friend all in the same day. (I considered him my best friend because I could tell him anything). the next day when we talked on the phone, he called me crying his eyes out because he missed me. he went on and on about how much loved me. he called me beautiful all the time. he wasnt like most piggish saying like, "oh you're hot" he used proper meaningful words like pretty and beautiful and gorgeous. but he said those words even when i looked horrible. about another month passed and it was my brithday. My friend stayed at my house for a week because she became interested in my boyfriend's friend. We'll just call him Bob and her Pam. Well my boyfriend begged his mom to drive him to my house on my birthday, four hours away. and she did. little did I know his real birthday present for me was a spray painted portrait of me. It was the best gift I ever recieved. We did so much together on the two days they were here. He was such a sweetheart. I can't explain the love i felt for him, but it was unconditional and still is. You make think it's dumb because we weren't together that long, but I promise you, I was in love. People told because we were long distant we weren't going to make it and we promised each other we'd prove those people wrong. and then out of nowhere, he began questioning himself about pulling through with me. I was so hurt. We lasted a couple days after that, but we evetually broke up about a week later after two days of no phone call from him. At the time, he was confident we were going to get back together soon, but the he sent me an email saying he didn't want to be with me ever again. He just couldn't see it happeneing. I swear I was heart broken for months. it's been a whole year now, and I'm still not over him. there's a lot more to this story, I mean, important deatils so if you want to know just ask, but this was the basic story. we are facebook friends still, but for some reason he is a real jerk towards me now. he was so sweet before. he got a new girlfriend, who happens to a senior that just graduated and he's only going to be a junior. and let's just say she is the complete oppisite of me. Blond hair, pretty, preppy, you name it. seems to be way out of his league. i just talked to him again tonight and things were fine, he was being nice and everything but he has changed so much. i'm still in love with him and i don't know what to do. I desperately need help. I swear, I've tried everything to get over him, like dating other people and nothing has worked. please, I just need to know what I should do. should I let go or wait for him? he plays games with my mind, makes me think he wants me still, but he does it so subtley. He made it so clear that he wanted nothing to do with me in that way ever again, but i don't know. PLEASE IGNORE THE LENGTH OF THIS STORY. please just read this. and like i said there is more to this story and if you want to know, just ask, but I just need help. xoxo Justine more

Resolved Question: Question about people on the Internet . . . Advice?

Hi! I'm confused about something and was hoping for some advice. Here's the story: Back in January, I went to a Richelle Mead book-signing with some friends. While we were waiting in line, I heard Richelle say, "Oh, thanks Linda," to the girl who made her a bookmark. I remember this because I was so excited, I sort of rushed forward while Linda was getting her books signed, and my friend had to hold me back. lol! When I got home, I checked Richelle's blog and found a picture of Linda next to Richelle like I'd seen last night. I don't pay much attention to it until I was commenting and saw that Linda has commented as well. I commented to Linda saying hi and asking what quotes she put in her bookmark. I told her I was standing behind her in line and she said she was pretty sure she remembered me. We got to talking and eventually I gave her my email. We've been chatting even since about books and such and she even helped to edit a short story I did. Anyway, the point is, I know she is a girl, a real person, and not some crazy stalker. So, I thought maybe we could exchange numbers. She gave her number, and I gave her mine. We're going to talk whenever I get my phone charger back (it was left at my grandmother's lol!) I see nothing wrong with calling her . . . and yet I still worry about my parents finding out. Why is this? Asking permission would make me feel better, but how am i supposed to broach the subject while not freaking my parents out. They'll think I met some crazy person on the Internet! Won't they? They, er, have trouble listening once they hear certain words and then they yell. At least that's what usually happens. Just so we're clear, we are both minors, her parents know about me and said it was okay with them after Linda explained who I was. I am just nervous about my own parents getting the wrong idea. Any advice?William: You're right. Thank you very much! You've made me feel a lot better. Lamia: Vampire? lol! Really, though, where'd the name come from? more

Resolved Question: How do i improve my social skills, it's really affecting me bad!?

i'm 22 year old guy who is very much lacking in social skills. I have friend's, but i even sometimes find it hard to communicate with them and keep conversation flowing. I have always been pretty quiet and i think that has been my downfall when growing up, and trying to make friends. I want to be able to make more friends, but i'm not the best conversationalist. I have got to a point where it is affecting my social life and making friends, and most of my friends don't contact me anymore. I have even turned down invitation's to go to parties etc because i don't feel comfortable interacting with people i don't know, and this has caused my friend's to not bother contacting me i guess. I have phone numbers of friends i haven't spoken to for a while, but i'm afraid to contact them because i'm afraid of social interaction and not knowing what to say etc. more

Resolved Question: i give up on girls...............?

I don't get it, I have such bad luck with girls. I think I am a fairly decent looking guy who works hard in university and eventually pursuing my Masters in Chicago later in my life, I cook, I clean, I earn my own money, I'm great with kids, I love to listen but love to make people laugh, stay in shape and I know how to stand up for myself and not being a pushover, plus I don't do things that turn a girl off like being cocky, horny or stupid. I've had girls say dirty stuff to me, i've had girls strip on camera for me, i've had girls who have given me their deepest secrets and passwords like facebook and msn and also I've had many pretty girls give me their phone numbers and email addies... So I know how to spark convo's with girls. Obviously I'm being myself I'm not doing anything differently and people have to understand its not about self confidence...in a little way it is, but it's not make or break and it's not about flirting with her 24/7...because if a girl has a b/f or likes another guy she's not going to care about you flirting with her. I just need advice to get to that next level of being with a girl, and it's hard to find mrs. right. Don't rip on me because this is 21st century, women are just as accountable as cheating on guys or doing dumb things just like guys do, and just because I am a virgin doesn't make me any less of a man...some girls like the fact that a guy would stay pure and loyal, while other girls will laugh and say hah! u dont have experience...Point is, I just figured I can't win so f-it and let me reiterate 100,000,000 times I am not a push over, I am not a super dooper nice guy and it doesn't matter about flirting with girls because if they have a b/f or like another guy theres no point on doing that...the guy is only hurting himself at the end. more

Voting Question: The reason why I don't care about girls and relationships.?

I don't get it, I have such bad luck with girls. I think I am a fairly decent looking guy who works hard in university and eventually pursuing my Masters in Chicago later in my life, I cook, I clean, I earn my own money, I'm great with kids, I love to listen but love to make people laugh, stay in shape and I know how to stand up for myself and not being a pushover, plus I don't do things that turn a girl off like being cocky, horny or stupid. I've had girls say dirty stuff to me, i've had girls strip on camera for me, i've had girls who have given me their deepest secrets and passwords like facebook and msn and also I've had many pretty girls give me their phone numbers and email addies... So I know how to spark convo's with girls. Obviously I'm being myself I'm not doing anything differently and people have to understand its not about self confidence...in a little way it is, but it's not make or break and it's not about flirting with her 24/7...because if a girl has a b/f or likes another guy she's not going to care about you flirting with her. I just need advice to get to that next level of being with a girl, and it's hard to find mrs. right. Please don't rip on me because this is 21st century, women are just as accountable as cheating on guys or doing dumb things just like guys do, and just because I am a virgin doesn't make me any less of a man...some girls like the fact that a guy would stay pure and loyal, while other girls will laugh and say hah! u dont have experience...Point is, I just figured I can't win so f-it and let me reiterate 100,000,000 times I am not a push over, I am not a super dooper nice guy and it doesn't matter about flirting with girls because if they have a b/f or like another guy theres no point on doing that...the guy is only hurting himself at the end. It just seems nowadays, girls are so self absorbed on themselves and what their girl friends tell them...hey, I'm all for a girl who is strong and has morals and ethics and works hard to, but when shes a flirt and talks crap...i hate that, and that's why I'm starting to resent girls. more

Voting Question: I give up on girls and relationships...?

I don't get it, I have such bad luck with girls. I think I am a fairly decent looking guy who works hard in university and eventually pursuing my Masters in Chicago later in my life, I cook, I clean, I earn my own money, I'm great with kids, I love to listen but love to make people laugh, stay in shape and I know how to stand up for myself and not being a pushover, plus I don't do things that turn a girl off like being cocky, horny or stupid. I'm sorry if I had to list all that stuff but I just don't get how I can't get a girl and meanwhile I look at my cousins and guy friends and they don't do or achieve as much as I do but yet they do get the girl at the end. I'm so lost and confused, I don't even have the passion to look anymore, since I dealt with 5 years of pretty girls with drama and ego issues. I've had girls say dirty stuff to me, i've had girls strip on camera for me, i've had girls who have given me their deepest secrets and passwords like facebook and msn and also I've had many pretty girls give me their phone numbers and email addies... So I know how to spark convo's with girls. Obviously I'm being myself I'm not doing anything differently and people have to understand its not about self confidence...in a little way it is, but it's not make or break and it's not about flirting with her 24/7...because if a girl has a b/f or likes another guy she's not going to care about you flirting with her. I just need advice to get to that next level of being with a girl, and it's hard to find mrs. right. Please don't rip on me because this is 21st century, women are just as accountable as cheating on guys or doing dumb things just like guys do, and just because I am a virgin doesn't make me any less of a man...some girls like the fact that a guy would stay pure and loyal, while other girls will laugh and say hah! u dont have experience...Point is, I just figured I can't win so f-it and let me reiterate 100,000,000 times I am not a push over, I am not a super dooper nice guy and it doesn't matter about flirting with girls because if they have a b/f or like another guy theres no point on doing that...the guy is only hurting himself at the end. more

Voting Question: Question for girls - I don't get how to get her.?

I don't get it, I have such bad luck with girls. I think I am a fairly decent looking guy who works hard in university and eventually pursuing my Masters in Chicago later in my life, I cook, I clean, I earn my own money, I'm great with kids, I love to listen but love to make people laugh, stay in shape and I know how to stand up for myself and not being a pushover, plus I don't do things that turn a girl off like being cocky, horny/stupid, or nerdy (e.x - collecting comic books and playing videogames 24/7). I'm sorry if I had to list all that stuff but I just don't get how I can't get a girl and meanwhile I look at my cousins and guy friends and they don't do or achieve as much as I do but yet they do get the girl at the end. I'm so lost and confused, I don't even have the passion to look anymore, since I dealt with 5 years of pretty girls with drama and ego issues. I've tried everything with girls to try to succeed on that level but i've always failed and the competitive nature I have to excel in my academics and athletics...I hate to lose or get rejected. Now, it's not like i've had no success whatsoever, I am confident...I've had hot girls who I personally know through school or met on local charooms who stripped on camera for me without asking, ive had girl say some dirty stuff to me without me even sparking the convo to say anything back, i've had girls who have given me their deepest secrets and passwords like facebook and msn and also I've had many pretty girls give me their phone numbers and email addies... So I know how to spark convo's with girls. Obviously I'm being myself I'm not doing anything differently and people have to understand its not about self confidence...in a little way it is, but it's not make or break and it's not about flirting with her 24/7...because if a girl has a b/f or likes another guy she's not going to care about you flirting with her. I just need advice to get to that next level of being with a girl, and it's hard to find mrs. right.To Jeff, I know I'm not perfect man, but if I leave anything out...then u guys are going to rip on me about either being gay or having no confidence...I'm just stating the truth. more

Voting Question: What info can you get on people who have court?

If somebody has court for committing a crime, how can you find out if the person got put in jail/prison or not? Are you even allowed? And if the person doesn't appear to court, can you call the authorities to give them info on the person? (location/phone numbers). more

Resolved Question: Isn't that a pyramid Ponzi scheme?

There is a new company ( or they claim to be legal company ) 2401 Langley ave , Pensacola Florida , their head office (probably only 1 ) for sale just google it Company named mpbtoday website : http://www.mpbtoday.com Scheme works as follows They have cheap online grocery store I can copy in 30 seconds by by the way they claim to have physical grocery store in Florida , they do not have that either anyone can copy their internet grocery store You must buy $200 grocery voucher supposedly which is not voucher at all , they send you internet nonsense and not a legal voucher and their shipping is 40 % of bill by the way :) well after you pay them $200 they want you to find 6 more people who will pay 200 supposedly for groceries plus $10 for copy of website after you get them 6 people they will send you $300 bonus and they convert your voucher if you still have it into Walmart card they have bunch of their videos on youtube they never sign their email so you never know who are owners and who you really deal with their phone numbers do not work and they do not answer emails only first time when u pay them They use Free groceries sales pitch but in reality they collect money for being a middle men in pyramid ponzi scheme if it is not a ponzi scheme and it is legal how come they do not ave competition ? how come walmart not evolved in it or any other big corporation they literally collect money for nothing you bring them 1470 and they pay you 300 :) I would like to hear from lawyers or business intellectualsit is obvious that groceries just cover up it could have been massage or flight to the moon for that matter more

Resolved Question: Do you find this to be SHOCKING Utah Emulates Nazi Strategy Hitler Started Campaign Against Jews With Lists?

Utah may be diving head-first into a “race to the bottom” with Arizona to make the state as frightening as possible for people who look or sound “foreign.” Last Monday, a group calling itself “Concerned Citizens of the United States” issued a list of 1,300 Utah residents it claims are illegal immigrants. The list of Hispanic names, birth dates, workplaces, addresses, phone numbers and Social Security numbers was sent to law enforcement agencies and news media demanding that those included be deported immediately. Women who are pregnant are noted along with their exact due dates, and the list specifies that steps should be taken for their immediate deportation. The names of children are also included in the list. The accuracy of the list is dubious, reflective of the myth-making that often fuels anti-immigrant sentiment. By Wednesday, at least two women on the list and contacted by the The Salt Lake Tribune reported that they were actually in the country lawfully. In a letter accompanying the list, the unidentified authors chillingly state that they have been observing the individuals in “our” neighborhoods, streets, stores, schools and public welfare buildings. They claim additional information was obtained through infiltrating the “social networks” of those identified. New lists are promised on a continual basis, presumably until every last “illegal” has been hunted down and many thousands of innocent people have been spied on and harassed by vigilantes. Notably, these anonymous “Concerned Citizens” make no effort to account for their own identities or the legality of their collection and dissemination of personally identifiable information. On Friday, state officials announced they have identified two Utah state workers who illegally accessed state databases to help compile this list. They’ve been put on administrative leave. Attorney General Mark Shurtleff promised an “immediate, aggressive, formal investigation.” The ACLU of Utah commends the swift action of Gov. Herbert and AttorneyGeneral Shurtleff in responding to investigate the release of private information once the list became public. It was critical that many senior state officials and legislators spoke out againstthe breaches and intimidation tactics. These security breaches also make clear that the government must do a better job of restricting access to and protecting databases containing such highly personal information. While this list is a disturbing new development, this apparently private action is symptomatic of what has been frequently condoned by government – This racial profiling, is swelling beneath the tourist-friendly, family-values face that Utah presents to the rest of the World and nation. State legislators have promised to introduce a bill modeled on Arizona’s S.B. 1070 in the upcoming legislative session, drawing encouragement rather than discouragement from the Justice Department lawsuit challenging Arizona’s law. In 2008, Utah passed an omnibus anti-immigration bill, S.B. 81. Arizona’s new law has Utah and some other states wondering how they can copy it and make things even worse, and Gov. Herbert has signaled that he will sign yet another ill-conceived immigration bill. Hopefully Utahns realize, as their leaders now seem to do, that the list went too far. The anonymous compiling of personal information and the watchful, spying eyes of vigilante groups is cowardly and antithetical to long-established American ideals of liberty and individual sovereignty. In a few weeks, Gov. Herbert is convening a roundtable of Utah legislators and community leaders to discuss immigration. This is the right time to responsibly address the intimidation and rising fears of a significant and diverse part of Utah’s population. Rather than follow Arizona’s lead to the bottom, Utah can shift course to reclaim its reputation for compassion, integrity and a respect for all. http://lezgetreal.com/2010/07/shocking-utah-emulates-nazi-strategy/comment-page-1/ more

Resolved Question: jet blue technology issues?

Meltdown at JetBlue THE BUSINESS PROBLEM Until the Valentine’s Day storm of 2007, JetBlue Airways (www.jetblue.com) had been a success story. Although the company had been in operation only since 2000, by the end of 2006 it had posted $2.4 billion in revenue, and it operated 500 daily flights to 50 cities. On that day, freezing rain and sleet virtually shut down northeastern airports. While most other airlines canceled dozens of flights in preparation for the storm, JetBlue management opted to wait out the bad weather. The airline’s policy was to do whatever it could to ensure that a flight was completed, even if it meant waiting for several hours. Consequently, the airline sent outbound flights to the runway at John F. Kennedy (JFK) Airport in New York City at about 8:00 A.M., to be ready to take off as soon as the weather permitted, while incoming flights arrived and filled up the gates. But instead of improving, the bad weather continued. Under federal aviation guidelines, planes cannot take off in icy conditions. Very soon, planes and equipment were literally freezing to the tarmac. By 3:00 P.M., JetBlue gave up hope of getting the planes sitting on the runway off the ground, and it began calling in buses to bring passengers back to the terminal. By then, however, the damage was done. Airport terminals, particularly at JFK, were filled with passengers who still expected to get on their flights. They were now being joined by hundreds of infuriated passengers who were getting off their planes. Some JetBlue passengers were left stranded on planes for as long as 11 hours. THE IT PROBLEMS As passengers were bumped off planes or arrived at JFK and other East Coast airports to find that their JetBlue flights had been canceled, they had only one option for rebooking their flights: call the Jet-Blue reservation office. JetBlue does not offer its customers the option to rebook their flights via its Website, nor can passengers rebook using airport kiosks. As a result, the Salt Lake City reservation agents were suddenly deluged with calls from irate passengers looking to get on another flight or to find out what compensation was available. JetBlue reservation agents primarily work from home, using an Internet-based communications system to access the company’s Navitaire Open Skies reservation system. However, the Navitaire system was configured for JetBlue to accommodate up to only 650 agents at one time, a number that more than met its requirements under normal circumstances. As customers’ wait times on phones began to exceed one hour—if they could get through at all—JetBlue urgently called Navitaire to see if anything could be done to increase the number of agents using the system. Navitaire was able to boost the system to accommodate up to 950 agents at one time, but it could not add more agents without degrading the performance of the system. Even with the 950 agents, JetBlue was having difficulty finding enough people to staff the phones. Managers with JetBlue’s reservation office began calling in off-duty agents to assist with the unexpectedly high volume of calls. Off-duty crews and airport personnel volunteered to staff phones, but they were not trained in how to use the system. As passengers struggled to get through to reservations, their bags piled up in huge mounds at airports. Surprisingly, JetBlue did not have a computerized system in place for recording and tracking lost bags. The airline does have a data warehouse that stores reservation and check-in information, such as the number of bags checked in by a passenger and the bag tag identification numbers. What was missing was an information systems component to record which bags had not been picked up and their location. There was no way for a passenger agent, for example, to look up by computer if a lost bag for a particular passenger was among the pile of unclaimed bags in New York. Not having that functionality had not been a problem in the past. If bags were left over at the end of a flight, airport personnel figured out ownership by looking up a passenger record. JetBlue dispatched a technology team to JFK to help with the problem of bags. The team ended up hauling most of the bags to another location where the bags could be sorted and identified. Over three days, programmers cobbled together an application that would permit personnel using a handheld device to scan a bag tag and identify the passenger. Agents could then access the database to provide passengers with information on the location of their lost luggage. The airline used a planning application to help figure out the best way to emerge from flight disruptions. The application allows operations planners to enter a number of scenarios: in order to determine which actions will get operations back on track in the quickest amount of time while minimizing passenger disruptions. However, the planners were unable to transfer the planning application’s solutions into the compan more

Resolved Question: what should i do to make him feel what i felt?

ive been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 yrs and we are expecting a little girl next week. before we started dating, he was just sex for the both of us but after we started being serious. before we became a couple, i found out that he was engaged n he ended everything with her. we dated for a year n half then we moved in together that's when i started to see so many things,like condoms, in his car, pockets, we didn't use condoms. he told me he had them from his past relationships, so i asked him to throw them away n he said no that he paid a lot of money for those. so after i got pregnant he stopped taking me out, spending time with me, i found so many receipt of restaurant, movies, when he told me that he was going to the library or to his parents house.he would take other girls out and he will tell me that he rather stay with other people because they just don't stay home doing nothing. when i started confronting about it he started throwing away the receipts so that i wouldn't know. and he did the same thing again 3 days ago n i found out because i checked his credit card statement and he had told me that he was helping his fraternity that night. he even called me telling me that he will be done around 10 when in fact he went to the movies and then to dinner and he came home like nothing happened. he tells me that he never slept with any of those girls but i don't believe it. he even flirts online all the time. i found emails that he sent to girls saying that he was single.he gave his phone numbers to half of myspace and tagged and facebook. how can i hurt him the way he hurt me before i can let him go. i want him to suffer just the way i suffered.we have not had sex in 4 months and we dont kiss the way we used to. he doesnt like when i hold his hand in public except for when we are around his family, mine or at his church. he doesnt talk to me sometimes. he doesnt call to check on me or the baby at all. i set up the nursery all by myself without his help. when i text him at 12 he texts me back at 8 or he doesnt sometimes. more

Resolved Question: How should I deal with my boyfriend and ex's?

I don't want to be the jealous boyfriend, but I think it's bull my boyfriend hasn't deleted or stopped contact with any of his ex's. I don't always want to make it a big deal when he spends his day texting them more than me and inviting them to hang out when I'm working so he can have 'friends' . I especially get mad when he does these things doesn't tell me he invited them but says they talkand then will forward me text messages of what they conversed about (his idea, not mine) and thats when I found out about his inviting. The reason it never worked between any of his ex's was because theydidn't want a relationship they only wanted sex, and he did and now he has one with me. I don't want to sound insecure or immature but I still think it's wrong for my bf to do stuff like that, and I appreciate his honesty since I wouldn not want him doing that behind my back but how do I deal. I don't want to be indifferent cos I want him to stop doing stuff like that, and none of his ex's respect my relationdship with him because they constantly tell him things like, "hey stud", "i'm in town, what time you gettting off work" and when he says things about being with me to them they reply " I wish I was him" "i wish I was there" . and I guess I'm crazy jealous and pissed off cos I'd like him to stop communication with people who have one intention, and clearly it's not being friendly since they have an unfriendly attitude towards me. I just don't want to keep arguing about this with him since it's exhausting, jealousy kills romance but so do ex boyfriends blowing up his phone. He's my boyfriend, i'm not competing. He also has ex boyfriends stuff around the house like underwear and hats and I refuse to wear those things cos they meant something to someone else and I threw them away since he'd never see those boys again and he got them out of the trash said they weren't mine to throw away so I littered our anniversary picture with them, they've been there for a month now, and he says he leaves the underwear and ex's stuff on the frame to remind him of what he has with me is better than what he had with them. I mean I want to talk to him about it so things will change but how should i approach this? Cos headon he always accuses me of being jealous and insecure and I tell him that all the stuff I fret over demeans our relationship. He was in a 5 year relationship, his partner passed away, so for 2 years he met a lot of guys just to fill the void in the night, but now he's with me and I don't like what I see even though he has nothing to hide. He also has all these explicit pictures of the guy from two years ago and he won't delete them, and he asked me to move in with him so I did. I asked him to delete all these past "horrifying" trophies, like the numbers and photos and he said he would once I moved in and that was 2 months ago. He has deleted about half of the numbers but has kept every photo and communication with these disrespectful ex's. He has negative opinions about my friends so I talk to them at a minimum now cos I respect his opinions. He invites ex's to hang out and he'll get all closed and upset when I haev an opinion on them but I'm also viewed as doing him dirty if I go and hang out with friends while he's working, friends who don't send me vulgar text messages and don't want me to cheat on my boyfriend. and I told him how I feel about all those stupid guys and he just accuses me of being immature and insecure ? How should I appraoach and deal with him, any pointers on what to do and say? I'm not willing to break up with him, can I get over my jealousy and accept that that is who he is, should I just shut up and never have an opinion on these other guys? I don't really think so cos I think he's so wrong for doing that stuff to me. One time he had an ex over while I was at work and I didn't get off until close so for 8 hours they were alone and my mind went wild but I didn't say anything and this ex text me off his phone and drove his car while I was at work . that was a long time ago and I'm not worried about it. I just think I deserve more respect and ex's less privledges. I doubt he'd ever cheat on me, just piss me off but he's not being the best boyfriend. Also when I ask him " why can't you make new friends if ya'll had no chemistry as friends and it was all about sex? Why do you want an ex's company so bad?'' He just says I'm insecure and just cos he wants to hang out with someone doesn't mean he wants to sleep with them more

Resolved Question: Why would illegals have Social Security numbers?

An anti illegal immigration group in Utah released the names of 1,300 undocumented illegals. If these people are illegals, how do illegals get access to Social Security numbers and housing and an account with the phone company: The list contained Social Security numbers, addresses, and phone numbers of people it accused of being in the country illegally. Social Security numbers are being stolen from American citizens as illegals have no way of applying for their own. Also, if Jose Mendez is caught with a drivers license with the name Joe Smith on it the Supreme Court ruled that it has to be proven that Jose didn't know the license belonged to an actual person named Joe Smith. A 5th grader could figure out the license is clearly stolen but Jose supposed doesn't know his name isn't Joe Smith? A woman in Michigan applied for a job at Target and found out her Social Security number was already being used and was traced back to an illegal. The ironic thing is Americans with Hispanic names are the most likey to be targeted for theft. My question is why is the Obama Administration choosing to ignore the fact that illegals not only are breaking the law by being here but continue to break laws to stay here and why is he working against AZ? Identity theft by illegals is more than stealing a Social to get work. It's ruined credit scores, put Americans people into debt over purchases they didn't make and cost them hardship and anxiety over trying to reclaim who they are. I'm not pro or against Obama but why do you think he has blinders on about these problems and fighting a Governor who is trying to uphold the law in her state of AZ? more

Resolved Question: Boy boy boy, did I tell you republicans how much I love you?

http://www.foxnews.com/us/2010/07/13/list-containing-names-purported-illegals-mailed-utah/ Most of the names on the list are of Hispanic origin. The list also contains highly detailed personal information such as Social Security numbers, birth dates, workplaces, addresses and phone numbers. Names of children are included, along with due dates of pregnant women on the list. "My phone has been ringing nonstop since this morning with people finding out they're on the list," said Tony Yapias, former director of the Utah Office of Hispanic Affairs. "They're feeling terrorized. They're very scared." LOL You really made a case for your hate of hispanics. I'm sure you guys aren't expecting the hispanics to come to your party. After all, no hispanics allowed, right? See you in November, adios amigos.When those responsible get tracked down, they are going to wish they weren't born. LOL@ Jamie I'm half hispanic and irish. What the hell are you talking about connecting? What do you think hispanics are, pets? Babosa more

Resolved Question: Should I transfer or just deal?

I transferred once already in the fall of 2009 to a school 14 hours from home. I love the location, love being by the beach, love that there is so much to do and find the school absolutely breath taking. Within the first week that I transferred schools, I was almost raped by this kid from Boston. My friends at the time left me alone with him knowing that I felt uncomfortable. That started the downfall in not only my behavior but the year. I got into a huge fight with one of my roommates and ended up moving out. She was making fun of my scar on my eye that I received from a car accident telling me I was "special ed." we ended up getting into a fist fight and the cops were called. I moved out. Then I got my own place. I was so desperate to make friends that I pretty much took whoever would talk to me as my friend. I was having parties every weekend, people would walk in and out of my apartment when they pleased and they would even just take my food without asking. I'd have movie nights etc. I never went to anyone else place. I began sleeping around with about 3-4 different men during the course of the year. Not one them actually had an interest in dating me or used me and made it seem like they wanted to date me. I felt so ashamed. My real friends did some things that were uncalled for and I blame myself for letting them happen. My 2 best friends came up to me and asked to borrow my phone - they took my phone deleted there phone numbers and all of their friends phone numbers (people that we both knew) and cursed me out. Other people defended me and couldn't understand why they were acting this way. I never heard from them again. My other friend sat there and talked about me through text message about how much she couldn't stand me while I was standing there but SWEARS she is my friend and was just having a bad day. Another friend of mine stole my car and I had to call the police on him. Now, I'm left with no housing. I had an off campus house but, the landlord "accidentally" leased out my room to another student. He lost the paper work and is re-embersing me my money stating that because I was living with 2 males he gave the 3rd room to a male and he had no other vacant apartments with males in them only females so he couldn't move the guy. Now, I'm stuck with NO housing and 90% of students have found roommates for the fall semester already. If I wanted to go back I'd likely have to get my own place and take out a loan which would cost me about $1,000 to $2,000 a month for rent. Should I take a semester off? I'm supposed to be graduating in the spring!! HELP!! more

Resolved Question: How can I meet genuine people who really wanna get to know me?

I grew up in Michigan and always had a steady small group of friends. None of them were really close but I knew them for years. It just always felt like they were acquaintances and didn't really know me. I never had real friends before. I decided to move out west when I was 20. I moved to Los Angeles, CA by myself and did well. I lived there till I was 24. I made a large group of friends and still met new people all the time. Everyone was always nice and I created a lot of close friendships with people for the first time in my life. But I had to move back to Michigan right after I turned 24. I am almost 26 now and have been living here for almost 2 years now. I plan to move back to CA in a year and I'm still really connected with my friends out there. But those are actually the only people I talk to. When I moved back to Michigan, everyone I thought I knew, I found out never liked me. I'm not aloud at anyone's house and the only reason why people wanted me around was because I'm an attractive female. The guys and girls all ganged up on me and said they don't know why I hung around for as long as I did. That happened immediately since I came back. I haven't talked to any of them since. I've tried meeting new people and still haven't made a friend. People tell me I have no personality and I'm really annoying. I don't know why because everyone out west really likes me. I'm intelligent but don't brag about it, I love music, art, festivals, people and I'm just pretty normal. I'm attractive to traditional standards or above average but I'm not really into my looks but I keep myself well groomed and in good higene. I've met like-minded people in Michigan who share interests in music and art amongst other things but none of them cared for me too much. I often hear from most people there is just no connection even as just friends. I try every day to meet people and get phone numbers from potential people but I always hear "I'm too busy", "I don't use the phone much" or just "no thanks". It's really weird and I don't know why people don't wanna meet me. I'm pretty laid back and not really talk too much. I try to get to know people. Most of the time if I walk up to someone and talk to them to make conversation they just walk away or don't respond. People give me a look like "why the hell are you talking to me?" Even at the bar, if I make small talk at the bar with someone standing next to me, they don't say anything. If I make small talk with any stranger they ignore me. I have no friends and haven't made a single one since I moved back here. I have no Michigan phone numbers in my cell phone except for family members. I am really lonely. Are there any tricks or places to actually meet genuine people who really wanna get to know me? The only people who talk to me are guys who wanna hook up with me but they are rude and obnoxious about it. Other than that, nobody tries to make small talk. I am really bored and lonely. It's Saturday night and I haven't left my house for a few days. I'm starting to give up. I also work at home so I don't have co-worker friends. I've tried getting side jobs but usually get fired after a few days because they don't need me. I live in Michigan and nobody hires too much around here. I've also tried taking classes and pick up hobbies but everyone I've met seems more into the subject and to not communicate at all. Where's the best place to meet people and not have them thin I'm weird to start conversation? Nobody comes up to me unless they say something rude. Unless it's someone really old, old ladies talk to me when I walk my dog, haha. But I live in the downtown area with a lot going on walking distance from me. I live by the beach, shopping and night life. I have a sweet house with lots of entertainment and nobody has been in my house to kick back. I just want people to come over, listen to music, chill and play games. I have a lot of cool art to look at too and I thin people would have a good time. I have a back yard with a fire pit and a party would sound awesome but I can't make a friend to save my life. Where should I go meet people? It's 11pm where I'm at and I'm sick of watching tv on a saturday night, watching shows I don't like and sitting on the couch. I feel I need to get out of here right now. I don't wanna go to the bar/club because I hate going to those places alone. I used to go to raves a lot out west but there are none here. I am thinking about going to bed early to wake up early and hopefully I can meet a potential friend somewhere. Where should I go? I have met 4 people total on my own who actually did seem interested and gave me their numbers. When I called I made plans to hang out and met up with them and was ditched by all 4 people. The only people who gave me th more

Resolved Question: Has anyone else had very bad customer service?

I found that bad cus ser used to be limited to a handful of known companies...but most banks etc seem to employing pimpley teens who think they are still in the playground and are just like vikki pollard...they chew gum and slurp coffee down the phone and speak to you like your under 5...b.t are far the worse...where they dont know their own terms and conditions and argue with each other while cus are on the phone...expecting them to be the referee!... foreign call centres think a enquirey is all about haggling and a slanging match were they have to goad the cus into somekind of nervous breakdown... i recently found that one particular bank would not allow me to contact or speak to the local branch who held my money excuses where (1) We dont employ enough advisors to be bothered answering the phone for personal cus ser (2) Branches are not permitted to deal with customers over the phone reveal their phone number for customers to enquire about their money etc (3) All telephone systems will be phased out of our banks so that cus do not have direct access to their branch ..and time cannot be spent with few employees on cus help desks..or tills.The bak is natwest..and after discussing this with me the advisor panicked realising he should not have revealed natwests intentions..and expressed that in yellow pages every branch has a branch phone number listed which isnt exactly honest advertising as all the phone numbers are the same and they do not allow direct contact with your branch..and slightly dishonest advertising is acceptable!...HOW STUPID IS THIS..what do you think...this is the 3rd bank i feel ive been bs by..and they are getting nastier and more dishonest..a friend of mine was accussed of fraud and yet he was able to prove the wallet was his!!!..and they still had a go at him!!!.....i am sick of banks treating people like we are all terrorists!..sorry..lol...had to moan to someone.!!CHOICES: Thanx your right,i have made a complaint but they have stated policy is they cannot change these rules and cus will not be permitted to contact their local branch regrading their account by telephone...if they are disabled and they cant.t walk then its tough!...their attitude is stuff you..so i cancelled my account with the comment from them 'millions of cus like the way we do things'..yer right!!! ..its impossible to change arrogance. more

Resolved Question: How do people's details get found by others online?

I was wondering how it is possible for people off websites like 4chan can get people's personal details? Is it a mundane way of finding one on Facebook or the phone book, or is it something harder? I hear a lot about people who have had YouTube accounts and people off these sites have managed to get their telephone numbers and the like. more

Resolved Question: Are these legal practices, and if so, who owns my debt?

(For a bit of background, I moved out of an apartment complex before the end of my lease in early March, and never heard from them - I was expecting to get a collection letter.) A few weeks ago, I got a phone call from a collection agency called US Collections West. What was explained to me was that their client, my old apartment complex company, had received a judgment against me for wage garnishment and that the courts were reviewing my assets. The collection agency was contacting me on their behalf to give me a chance to avoid the garnishment process by making a 10% down payment of 457 dollars, and set up monthly payments afterward for six months - after which they wanted to settle the rest of the amount owed for 3,000. He led me to believe that this garnishment was for 25% of my paycheck, straight up, and I explained to him on multiple occassions that if the apartments garnished for that much, I would be left with nothing to live on (I was already living 1 to 2 paychecks behind, and owned NO liquidatable assets), and would be forced to file bankruptcy or quit my job and leave the state - an option that, for ME, would have left them with no paper trail to follow. Still, he insisted that they were going to do the garnishment ANYWAY and strong-armed me into setting up a down payment. (I later discovered that this was wrong, and that they could only garnish 25% of disposable income, which would net them a neat 5 dollars a month.) In hindsight, the numbers were fishy. I did my own math and I owed the complex 3,000 dollars in backrent - not 4,300. The collection agency would also not tell me what my interest was nor any details on what I owed. I called every court in my area until I found one with a judgment against me -- it was the eviction notice. Long story short - my paycheck bounced due to an accounting error. The "down payment" never went through. Mr. Collections called me a liar when I explained the issue, and I gave him my boss' cell to verify the issue (I was at work and he was running an errand). I made it extremely explicit that the number was to not be recorded and was to only be used for the purposes of verifying my claim about my paycheck. My boss stuck up for me, and the agency called me back and told me to LEAVE WORK and come in, and when asked why, they said to sign a promissory note. I said no. By now, I had gotten wise to what was going on and told them that I think he was lying to me about what I owed, they were trying to bully me, and I would not authorize any more payments, and would never sign a promissory note. I wanted the apartment complex to send me a letter with a itemized list of all these "charges" and proof that a garnishment was being made. He said he would call my boss to get the information he wanted -- a lot of personal information -- and that, "Too late," I had "already given him the number." He also noted that they were just going to go ahead with the garnishment. I received a letter packet from the collection agency, not the apartment complex. In it was a copy of the collections request from the apartment that I never got due to the bad mailing address, a copy of my rental agreement, a room checklist, and a copy of a paycheck. It shows that the apartment wanted me to pay approximately 3,000 dollars as expected, but if it were "transferred" to a professional collection agency, they would add a +50% collection fee (an extra 1,500), plus 10% annual interest. These people have my bank account information. I am afraid that they will still trying to withdraw payments even after explicitly telling them that they have no authorization to do so. I also do not know who actually owns my debt, since that was never made clear. If the apartment complex still owns my debt and does a garnishment, how can they garnish for the extra 1,500? (Assuming their "judgment" came prior to the collection agency?) If the collection agency owns my debt, how can they pursue wage garnishment without filing a suit and sending me a summons? Can you even transfer a judgment like that? Lastly, what can I do to protect myself from the mess already created by this company's lies? I do not want my original payment setup to be some admittance to debt, because quite honestly, they got the payment through lies and scare tactics (basically, give up my entire livelihood or find them 450 dollars - and no, there was no time to investigate!) before they would even tell me what I actually owed. I also don't want them using my bank account info. Any help would be appreciated.Dusty is the closest to even being at all helpful. I'm not a deadbeat - I signed the CHEAPEST lease I could find and lived in a craphole with rotting walls and black mold, and I lost my job and had to run even further into the ghetto. I also agreed to pay back what I owe, but not at the expense of becoming homeless. If you're going to be a smartass, don't respond. The point of making such a long post was to show that the collection agency LIED to me on several occassions to collect a debt far larger than I knew about. more

Voting Question: How slow is too slow?

back in october last year when i went to uni i started talking to my friend (from home) brother. We quickly exchanged numbers and communicated constantly til xmas where we met a few times but nothing happened. Now we kept in touch over the next two terms but were both busy at our seperate universities. About a month be fore we came home we started txting/msn a lot and this included quite a lot of flirting and invitations. We have since met up 3 times in the space of almost 2 weeks, we went out for a few drinks, we have been to the movies and i went over his tonight and we chilled and stuff as his family have just gone away. But at the end of every time we meet we only hug! I cant understand this, he is very cheeky and we flirt a lot by phone and online but the flirting dials right down when we meet. So guess i just want to know what people think? Have i totally misread the situation as im really looking for a bit more than friendship but the flirting is there and i think he cares as he always txts in his lunchbreak and seems generally interested in me, i sometimes think he can be shy but what can i do to make him feel at ease but also find out what he wants? Do you think that i stand a chance though? Do you get the impression he likes me more than a friend? more

Resolved Question: why cant i get out my cell phone contract if i have every reason to do so without being charged an etf?

Ok so below are all my problems with my tmobile g1 acccount: I have absolutely no signal at all in my new appartment. (What if a fire occurs I'm stuck or I get in major accident) I have a mandatory internet web service included in my plan which recently stopped workin in other words the only way for me to conect to the web is thru wifi only. (I can get lost on the road not being able to get direction) I was recently in a small accident and my phone did not work I tried calling 911 and dint go thru at all I had to restart my phone (5minute wait- from what I know it takes seconds to loose a life luckily wasent that serious but wat if it was? I get so many dropped calls, if I'm callin person or if person calls me by the time I answer phone call drops automatically. In some places I don't get service I recently lost all my numbers (very important numbers which took me years to even get connected with some of these people top music producers/engineers a list celebrities and friends good lawyers etc which I have no contact of anymore) < I'm loosing moneyyyyyy Now tmobile reps couldn't find any conclusion to help me get any number that I lost back, they sent engineers to my area but is not withing their budget to improve quality of service, tmobile reps sometimes are very rude, they won't waive my early termination fee claiming that my area already has excellent service coverage therefore they can't waive it and ill have to pay 400 to get out, I need anwers I need help how can I avoid this, this is ridiculous I'm screwed I'm about to file all types of complaints to fcc and bbb for their bullshyt I've tried all of their solutions nothing work or will work its so ridiculous that people that even work for tmobile say I should be let out but supervisors won't let me out? What the hell is going on I'm not going to be calling every month for a refund for internet neither am I going to b going out of my house just to make a phonecall or to wait and c if 1 magically appears. more

Resolved Question: I need to teach this guy a good lesson. How?

Ok so recently I have come across a guy who thinks girls are tools for enjoyment and...basically sex. I've seen him trying to flirt and coax large numbers of girls to go out with him just so he can have a nice little fling or a booty call. He even lies and says he's dying or one of his family members are dying to get extra points with them. Even he confirmed it himself when I asked him about it. So I tried to take revenge, I borrowed his phone and tried to text as many girls as possible to warn them about him. Didn't work as half the girls didn't even know who he was. What does that tell you about him when he has a contact list full of people who don't even know who he is? So yea, now hes found out and hes thrown some of my stuff into the canal we live near before he bragged about how every girl still loves him. So yea, I'm pretty bitter. Basically I just want revenge and I want him to learn from his mistakes. No violence. I just want to teach him a lesson that girls are NOT toys. This properly seems a strange question I know and some of you may think I've gone ott aready but I just can't let it go since hes tried it on with so many of my friends as well.. more

Resolved Question: A girl is on the other line while...? PLEASE ANSWER!!?

PLEASE ANSWER: so me and my bf have been together for 1yr & 8mths(: its been great, but there is a rather big problem right now:( theres this girl, who likes him, knows i go out with him, and still insists in talking to him! he told me about her because he didnt want me to find out by other people and get mad at him. (he rather tell me himself;; and i like that) MY PROBLEM IS: i dont know what to do about her??? should i ignore her?? (ive tried but its always in the back of my mind) shes a bitch!, siriouslly you guys... she has the fukin gutts to talk to my bf and still request me on myspace and tell my bf that he knows who i am and dosent care, because she likes him! :| im not to worried about him leaving me for her... but i dont like the fact that she is talking to him ...... some nights, my bf and i r on the phone and she calls him! he has told her that he is on the other line with me and she tells him to leave me there and talk to her, he has hug up on her multiple times and he says she calls him from different numbers so he dosent know how to block her calls. thanks in advance more

Resolved Question: Is it wrong to have back girls/guys?

Let's say a person decides to think smart and get like 4 or 6 girl's phone numbers just in case girl #1 might be a tease or a ho. Some guys would pathetically sit by the phone and wait for that one girl to pick up the phone. If girl #1 is playing mind games with me, I would have another girl as a back up. I'm too old for that "playing hard to get" stuff. A girl can play hard to get all she wants....meanwhile...I'll be taking girl #2 to the movies lol. Girls, would you have back up guys if your crush playing games with you. Technically it wouldn't be cheating if you are not in a real relationship yet, it's not yet official. Additional Details I hate how people are moaning over that one person. It's best to get other people's numbers. Let's say there are early signs she will diss you or tease you. You decide to think smart. You're not being a player, you're just trying to find out which guy or girl is good for you. If I find the right one, I would drop the other 4 or 6 chicks or put them in the friend zone.Sorry I mean "back up" girls and guys on the tittle.Okay let's put this in another way.....Let's say I'm 26, looking for a miss right and a serious relationship, but most females these days play games. One day, I meet a girl and get her number. The next day, I meet 3 girls. I decided to get the 3 girls numbers just in case girl #1 might screw me over. If girl #1 does screw me over, I would kick myself in the butt for not getting the other 3 numbers, know what I'm saying? more

Resolved Question: I meet two guys in the same day? Advice?

Do you feel a competition for her should she move on? I grew up with 2 boy cousins, 2 boys as friends in my life as my neighbors. So I'm comfortable around guys. Relationships is a little confusing for me. I have fallen for my ex's best friend. My ex wasn't that great to me at times and I had a great sense that he wasn't going to commit to me. His friend SEEMED available but he wasn't either. Even more so than his first friend. They're both Aquariuses if it makes any note. Anyways. I have had to move on. After accepting that I wasn't happy in these situations my mindstate was to really just move on and find my own happiness. I met two guys online in the same day who were both living in the same house. It was a coincidence because the second guy I approached hours after meeting the one guy that approached me to start a group to do a dungeon with others. We chatted for a few hours. The next day in a dungeon I offered asistance to a person. From there we easily became friends and he was telling me about his life. I felt like really like I wanted to know more about this person. Well that night the first guy asked if I met his roomate. I said I dont' know his roomate. He had told him about me. The next day he came on and said that I could have told him that I actually was also talking to his roomate. In this game I really only meet few people that I talk to outside of the game. So it was strange. Do you think that one of them decides to not get any more involved? Because the guy that I approached has completely backed off. He said we should meet sometime but not for a year I said yes. Soon after that I didn't hear from him again. We eventually talked on the phone which I liked but I was laughing a lot, that may have put him off even more if he was already irritated. He sent me a lot of pictures of himself I sent only a few back and besides I think that isn't what he wanted I think he wanted to get to know me but it was difficult for him to explain that. But he isn't talking to me any more. Why do you think he won't talk to me any more. I don't enjoy feeling dominated but that is the sitation it feels like the one guy acts as if he wanted to be with me more but that may not even be true. I knew that I was really putting myself out there. the first guy I met has a lot of female friends. The second guy has one sister and one brother and a dad who he says "doesn't know how to act". I sense this as he is a bit dependant on him in a way. Anyways. I E-Mailed his dad or who I thought is his dad cause I found him as there was a picture of what looked like him in it on facebook. The guy said that I will "be ok" and he blocked me. Before that he said he did all he could to get him to talk to me and to take it easy. I knew then he was either annoyed or unsure. I wrote a long message after he asked Again how do I know his son? That's when he said I will be ok and he blocked me from writing any more. Anyways I just can sense that he actually told about me to his family. After he ignored me the second time, he was sending me a bunch of random messages from different phone numbers. I called asked him to stop that on a voicemail the next day it was no more just one person from his work who also says he "barely ever" talks to the guy and hasn't been able to give the mesage to call me. Why are they doing this? I was texting his roomate the other day who said that they dont' talk any more since he moved out a few months ago. How am I supposed to believe that. And besides does it matter, when they can easily get a hold of him? How do you think he sees me, a little too needy cause he seemed to like that about me??? * 23 minutes ago * - 4 days left to answer. Additional Details I want you to understand that he was sending me tons of messages 10 minutes ago but tons I mean that he went out of his way to tell me about himself, tell me about his past relationships, that i actually loved to know about. He then got some of his friends to send me messages from their phones. I said am I needy but I wanted to knoe if that is true then why because he was sending me so much messages, wanted to know if I met the perfect guy and I dunno I didn't realise it was all this complicated so tell me what you read in what I really said here. more

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