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How To Pick The Right Financial Planner - Forbes

... believe it's more important to find the right person than the right business model. In our decades in this business, we can say that we have had disappointments and pleasant surprises with people under all forms ...

How to Prevent the Flu in the Classroom - Associated Content

I know this was previously mentioned but I find it worth mentioning again ... Make sure that they know that 'rinsing your hands' under cold water is not good enough. A proper washing consists of fairly warm water and ...

How to Save Money when Buying a Used Car - Associated Content

Find a car with a blown motor ... People can sometimes be desperate to sell a car but you can guarantee used car dealers have to make money off each car to stay in business. Advertise under the wanted ads on Craigslist.

To keep the 2010 midterms from repeating 1994, Democrats can learn from Reagan - Washington Post

they might even find inspiration in an unlikely place: President Ronald Reagan's leadership ... Unlike most people on Capitol Hill at the time, I knew from experience what defeat looked like. My previous boss,

The 10 Things the Government Could Do to Cut Unemployment In Half - Yahoo Finance

Companies with work forces under 500 create nearly half of ... It would allow many modest-sized businesses that pay people the minimum wage an opportunity to avoid layoffs or find capital to bring on new people. 9.

How the University of Oklahoma and Oklahoma State University handle football fan ... - Daily Oklahoman

... should leave and find shelter. At some point, emergency workers have to make plans to get fans under the limited space in the west end zone, Cobb said. "That's going to be a challenge to get that many people ...

How to Gain Confidence, Commitment, Courage, and Control - TradingMarkets.com

I soon observed that two people could take the same setup and one would profit while the other lost ... I christened these hard to find traders "Genius Traders". First, I learned to become one, and then I moved on to ...

On Months-Long Missions, How Durable Is An Astronaut's Mind? - msnbc.com

This simulated Mars mission is by far the longest-duration study of crew confinement under operating conditions attempted to ... The bottom line is that we did not find any effects of time," Kanas said. "Statistically,

Back-to-school event gives guidance, resources to kids under supervision of ... - Oregonian

The 52 middle and high school students who attended are all under the supervision ... Like other young people on probation, Scott meets often with a probation officer. She's working with Burgess to find a school that ...

Irreverent filmmakers bringing a zombie revolution to Cuba's capital - Washington Examiner

Preproduction got under way this week ... only to find that the undead are all over the city. State-run media blames the whole thing on government opponents backed by Cuba's archenemies in Washington, but Juan knows ...

Open Question: Do you find you have to ask your kids to behave more maturely than most of their educators?

I realize it has something to do with the low economic under-educated area I've had to move to, yet it's becoming far more evident this year. But you should see the quality of correspondence, class outlines & e-mail replies from teachers - I have estimated that the language, manners, vocabulary, and grammar averages out somewhere around the 7th or 8th grade levels. Research papers don't come back with constructive criticism, rather a grade and "smiley faces" drawn on the paper - in the later years of high school no less! The maturity and follow-up of teachers, bus drivers, educators, police, even the principal, is far below what is expected and tolerated by teens & kids. I used to laugh & shake my head thinking it was just a fluke from time to time, but I've come to the realization that it is actually the culture around here. I had a sheriff tell my kids that it is "normal" for his 3 and 6 year old kids to threaten to kill each other, and beat each other up on a daily basis. We had a Jewish English teacher insist that my son take any other suffering by any other group out of his paper. He wrote a paper that stated that Word War II exclusively happened to free only the Jews, no one else was persecuted, even with his research to back it up. He desperately came to me as he got his 2nd draft rejected because he felt it was unfair to refer to the Nazis as Germans, they are all not equal. We finally gave in, I wrote the paper with him, & he finally got his "A", by cheating and writing things he did not believe and were untrue. I had to step in, it would have cost him a passing grade. We had a Christian teacher who kept my son in her classroom during lunch for a week time for saying "Oh God" in class, and told him that if he reported this consequence, that he would be in further trouble. We had 2 girls on the bus doing drugs right in front of other kids - school would not address it, district would not acknowledge it, and I had to deal with it myself as these girls live across the street from us. I have had to hire and pay for a family counselor to unscrew my kids heads from this craziness. During all 3 incidences above, administrators & teachers strongly implied that we were to keep it hush-hush or the kids would suffer further repercussions. They quietly punish kids for not following their personal beliefs and do it in such an immature fashion, then their bosses and administrators cover for them and it's one (honor student and awarded musician of the year) kid's word against a slew of administrators, all the way up to our Superintendent. I don't know how to explain this to my kids! I can give you 50 more examples, but if you know immediately what I'm referring to, then you get it. I'd like to hear your examples. I'm no genius here, and all of my kids have struggled to achieve accomplishments they've worked hard for, but it seems that common sense is waning and we're all getting confused. Parents fear their school boards, and we have no right to have any input in our kids education nor development once they are within those walls, as the law mandates they must. The Union is protecting people that don/t deserve to have the privilege of educating our kids. Furthermore, we've discovered that our cupcake profits that are supposed to be going to sports booster clubs, are actually making their way down to D.C. via union dues and lobbyists - and no one else seems to have a problem with this? Anyone else see or experience this? I cannot be alone here - could use some suggestions and experience of another. more

Open Question: What is wrong with my Grandmother!! How can I deal with her!?

Me and my fiancee have a one month old baby girl and we take her for visits up to see my mum and grandmother. My grandmother lives with my mother and the other day when we turned up at mums for a visit, I took my baby out of the car and carried her inside..... She was asleep so I kept hold of her. My grandmother came up to admire her and I told her "she is asleep at the moment so....." So she walked away then she came back and stood really close to me with her arms out and said. "I don't care if she is asleep, give us a cuddle" So I had no choice but to give her to her. Inside I was fuming cause it seemed like she had no respect! This was today but similar thing happened except I passed her to my partner so he had our daughter she came up really close to him and said "Here, give her here" and I said "No she's asleep" so she walks off and said "Well you had her!" Then when we were about to leave she said "Well I will just go back to the caravan and cuddle my cat since I can't cuddle MY baby" What disrespect!! Another time was, my grandmother had a cold and she said she wouldn't hold her because she was sick. Fair enough, but a week later she came up to our house and she seemed alot better and she told us she was better, and she said she still wouldn't hold her just in case, BUT she was touching her and leaning over my baby while she was there?? She also slipped up and said that she's not visiting "relatives" of hers down the road because she wasn't completely better yet. Well what was she doing handling my baby then if she wasn't completely better. She knew we are trying to keep people who are sick away from our baby due to the fact she's so young and don't want her sick. My sister has two kids under 2 years old and both times when my sister got pregnant my grandmother said she should get an abortion. And when I got pregnant all through my pregnancy my grandmother kept saying somethings going to go wrong and i'm going to miscarry the baby! How can I deal with her, she's very interfering and she thinks she knows better than anyone she will turn up nearly every day and if the baby is in her bassinet she will just go over and pick her up without asking, how can I tell her not to hold my baby simply because sometimes I don't want her too? She's living with my mother because she's just moved over to the area and she's staying with her till she finds another place. She's 69 years old and quite capable of looking after herself. what do you think about her behaviour?? more

Open Question: How do I change when I don't know what I've done until I do it?

I'm really stuck and getting very depressed. Any glimmers of hope would be great. I ruined my last relationship cause I was a selfish idiot. I only have a one 'close' friend, who is v.selfish and only talks about himself. I have lots of aquantenses but they are nor close friends and find it hard to make them close friends. I changed jobs and got bullied by my manager, complained, got put under a new manager for a year, they are now leaving and going back under manager that bullied. I keep making silly mistakes at work as I have difficulties concentrating - big ones. Borrowed untold money to buy equipment to launch my business which I was going to run full time until I 'hit a wall' from working too many hours and developed am anxiety disorder and rosacea which is progressive. My mum is not well and I'm really worried about her. My landlady has 'had ebough' and told me to move out which will cripple me financially as here is cheap. Nothing horrible happened, but she is a trainer and therapist by trade and helped me out when I split from my ex and feels I don't help her enough or think of her needs. She also thinks I have adult ADD. I tend to annoy people and really try not to! But the thing that bugs me the most?? I say and do things that others wouldn't do resulting in bad situations for me. Like last night when I was meant to meet the girl I was dating, my landlady said she really wanted me to go for dinner to talk about thongs and cos she was upset. Turned up to meet her eventually, said 'your making me feel tired' and after I got back from the loo, she said she was going home and 'have a nice life'. I really am trying to be more of the person I want to be: successful, great friends, help others more, be a lot self-centred amongst other things. I'm a complete drew up at the moment and what makes it worst is I have no idea how to change it? more

Open Question: Is There a Cop on Here who can Help me out?

Ya See, I'm in this Drivers ed thing, And I have to talk to a Police officer about driving under the influence I have to ask Him/Her these questions; 1; What behavior the police officer looks for which may lead him to suspect a driver is under the influence? 2: What procedures are used in the field sobriety test? 3:When are most drunk drivers found to be on the road? 4: How does the officer feel about current laws & penalties for driving under the influence? What changes--if any--would he/she make? Now I'm sure there are some people who could answer these but i'm looking for an actual officer to do so, any friendly cops who can help me out? :-)) more

Open Question: how can i get out of violence?

Hello i am a 22 year old girl and i am currently on holiday in Australia, i been staying with this guy friend for 6 months. He is very violent and racist. His son warned me about him, but the thing is I have nowhere to go with no money (I spent my last bit of money on dinner for both of us and his birthday present.) I really want a job and to get out of there. Last night he bashed me up and slammed my head on the floor. He kneed me and everything. I ran to my next door neighbors (elderly couple), who i call my grandparents, and knocked on their door, i didnt mean to scare them but they didnt even answer the door or even try to help me. I slept on the streets last night and everything. Then i came cruelling back as always to go back to my bed, even though he kicked me out, he is 58! I am very greatful that he has given me a roof over his head and makes dinner and keeps buying me things, but at the same time he is violent. He came home from work negative (i try really hard to avoid negativety, but it seems to be very hard). Then one of my friend Ryan rang me , and then this guy marc got even more negative assuming its a new boyfriend of mine. Thats when he startedd shouting abuse at me and being violent towards me. I guess i am the stupid one because i keep going back and his ex wife told me to leave him last time and so did his son. I even found a letter from his other girlfriend about how violent he was to her. His son told me he has hit many of his ex girlfriends. The next door neighbors seemed to now looked down at me this morning and said that what i did last night was wrong and that i scared them (these are the people who said that they adopted me as their own and i call them nana and grandad), i apologised but i thought they would of helped me. i told them everything good about this guy and they say i am very lucky, and they see that he helps me and etc. But thats ALL they see, they dont know that he has a violent side and i havent told them that. The police wont believe because they came round because HE rang them and it made it look like i am the one who is the violent one and because i am under his roof, so the police did not help and told me i am not greatful and had the chance to live somewhere nice and they told me to get out. So i dont bother talking to the police never will. they dont do anything. my head hurts and i dont know where to get a job, earn and move out. :(i am alone in australia on a working holiday and i was brought up in fostercare, so i have no parents. nobody and i dont have a boyfriend more

Open Question: How to meditate with noise around you?

I feel so stressed out with school work. My parents yell at me just cause i got some bad grades, big deal some people have alot more than me. They want me to be sucessful and i work very hard and my parents think i should work harder. My little brother is seven and barely does anything! And my mom appreciates him for doing something he never done. I feel like punching my parents 100 times. I'm buhddist so i heard of meditating which i don't know how to do. I want to find a happy place to find all of my answers! I tried watching videos of how to meditate but i barely understand anything! PLEASE HELP IM UNDER ALOT OF STRESS NEEDING MEDITATING!!10 POINTS!! more

Open Question: I want somebody to have a nice look at the beginning of my story?

Here you go, it's a bit unconventional so far as the idea, and many of you will probably find it interesting. Sorry I can't give it all, it exceeds the 5000 character limit. The young boy ruffled his hot, red hair and squinted up at the high, burning sun; there were less people crowding the park now, and most were withdrawing to the little restaurants or concession stands dotting the zoo. The boy and his mother had brought their own lunch and stared down at the penguins sliding on their fronts before retreating to the healthy shade under a powerful and protective oak. The boy’s mother unzipped her pack and sat down, handing the boy his sandwich. The boy unwrapped the foil on his food before sitting down, and began to devour it hungrily. The mother took out napkins and said, “Wait;” the boy stopped eating dutifully and took a few napkins to place on his lap. She handed him his juice box and began to eat. The boy was done before her and lay back in the grass looking up at the oak’s leaves and branches; he wondered how the tree could take so much sun or cold or rain every day of its life. We can’t blame him; he was only six—almost seven! He would declare—years old. “Kevin,” his mother said, “is that a friend of yours from school?” Kevin sat up and saw that she was pointing at a boy standing perfectly balanced about ten feet above the ground on a tree limb about Kevin’s age, but a bit shorter and blond. “No,” Kevin said; “I know him, but he’s not really a friend.” His mother nodded absently, “I recognize his dad;” there was a man standing on the ground and supporting himself on the tree with one hand. Kevin rolled his eyes and said, “Yeah,” looking back up at the oak. Ever since his parents got divorced, he was noticing that his mother would notice other men much more. He would sometimes find the strange tightening in his stomach and heat in his face that was jealousy, which he was not at all used to. The blond boy walked on the branch to the tree’s trunk and hugged it, sliding down to a lower branch. His father took his hand off the tree and turned, walking in Kevin’s direction and toward the zoo’s main area and restaurants. The blond boy jumped down from the branch as high as his father’s head and jogged a bit to catch up to his father. Kevin’s mother’s head followed the blond boy’s father, and she seemed disappointed; Kevin couldn’t see why. The man put his hand on his boy’s head and ruffled his hair, the gold of a ring glinting in the plain threads of hair. The boy saw Kevin and said, “Hey!” He stopped and his father stopped; Kevin said, “Hey Alan,” softly, turning his eyes away. “What did you think of yesterday’s test?” Alan asked. “It was fine. I’m really good at science and math.” “That’s good; we all know that you can’t get anywhere without sc—” “Alan,” his father squeezed his shoulder and steered him to look at Kevin’s mother. “Where are your manners?” Alan started, as if she hadn’t even been there, and said, “Hi, I’m Alan Wild; Kevin and I are in the same class.” The woman nodded, “Hello Alan, I’m Meg, Kevin’s mom.” Alan said, “Pleased to meet you.” Suddenly he turned to Kevin again and said, “I’ll be a biochemist.” “You should work with parasites like yourself,” Alan’s father said. Alan looked up at him, “I told you, I don’t want to be a child psychologist!” Alan’s father laughed, Alan grinned, Meg smiled, and Kevin looked miserable. Alan’s father said, “Hello Meg, I’m Alan’s father Zach. I work on virulent agents for the Complex.” Meg stood, extending her hand, “Pleased to meet you, I wor—” Zach was about to shake her hand when she stopped and a thin stream of yellow fluid dribbled out of her mouth and onto her chin. Some of the fluid followed the curve of her neck and went into her shirt while some fell onto the grass. If Zach had worked as a doctor in the Complex, he might have stepped forward to see what was wrong; however, he worked on virulent agents and knew to grab Alan’s hand, turn, and pull him away quickly, running. Alan was startled as he saw Meg and Kevin quickly receding, both jerking violently and falling to their knees; however, his trust in Zach overpowered any natural survival instinct, and he let himself be dragged. After sprinting half the distance, Zach slowed and pulled Alan up to his side, picking him up and speeding up again. Zach heard cries and shouts, and pulled Alan’s head to his chest so that he couldn’t see the many people affected by the virulent genetic agent. Some had already become the pink-green goo that Zach had seen so many lab animals become, and a faint rotting stench became evident. more

Open Question: I got a job application paper, from a bar, wrinkled & dirty that I really need to apply for. What should I do?

This is how it all started... (If you hate reading stories, SKIP the first 2 paragraphs) I was having a drink with a friend at this local bar and grill. And it was pretty late... Maybe 12:30am. Not many people were there, besides this extremely drunken guy they had to escort out. I began to complain (to my friend) about how I didn't have a job and I've applied so many places. Still under my fathers roof, with him helping and supporting me, I'm desperately trying to find a job at least to show him I can do something right. Then the whole conversation with the bartenders started. One, who looked like Justin Chambers (Alex Karev, from Grey's Anatomy) and another who I can't remember, but looked like, to my friend, of another celeb. And then the convos grew and grew. They got to know more about me for my friend was a bit too tipsy to talks realistically. Despite that, apparently these bartenders don't get much kind contact because my friend and I ended up getting 3 free shots. 2 that were Hendrick's Gin. ^_^ That f'd both of us up. The Just Chambers guy drove us home in my friends car because she couldn't drive. And the other 'celeb look-a-like followed to make sure we made it to our destination alive. Then he whipped out an application and told me, "You are something different. A very kind, understanding, and genuinely real person. You'd be perfect bar tending here. I'll teach you." And he gave me an application. TO THE POINT, (I'm sorry, I love telling the whole story with everything ^_^) I was tipsy, not drunk, just tipsy. I shoved it in my purse, blushing and all, and the next morning found it to be covered in brown stains and very much crumpled. 1) It's a very simple application. The text looks like Verdana or a special Arial. 2) Could I just retype it if I found the right text? Would they notice if there was a slight indentation or whatever mistake on it? I can't possibly turn it in how it was. It would also be quite embarrassing asking for another one (giving away that I was too drunk to keep it wrinkle free) AND, this one is huge, the Justin Chambers look-a-like, found out I was only 18 and he had served, my 22 year old friend and I, 3 free shots plus the one we bought. Me gal accidently slipped that I was underage. And he seemed dissapointed, But he still didn't seem to have a problem with it. I was under control. And in the state of Wisconsin, you only have to be 18 to bartend. So I could get the job. :) Should I just ask for another one or retype it? (Remember, sorry for the long story, but there are other questions too ^_^) Thanks in advance! I will choose best answer to those who are honest with me. No internet trolls being verbally abusive please, for we all make mistake and do things that aren't right sometimes...By the way, one of the bartenders gave me his e-mail too :) I'm over 190 lbs. so I know he wasn't trying to hit on me. more

Open Question: Got an abortion - Is this how an abortion clinic should treat their patients? - What steps can I take?

The whole time I was there, everyone but the receptionist and the councilor made it feel like a huge guilt trip. The doctor, the nurse, and the anesthesiologist. They layed me on the bed, and the anesthesiologist started the anesthesia. She stuck a huge needle in my arm and I was in pain, she could tell I was in pain... her words were ``Whose hurting you? Oh are we hurting you? Or are you hurting yourself? Is the baby hurting you? I don`t know... is there a monster in this room we don`t know about?`` she asked me question about if this was my first pregnancy and when I told her yes she said ``don`t worry there are many more pregnancies to come`` At this point I was drowsy, the doctor came in and literally shoved a speculum up me and I jumped in pain, he was no where near gentle and I obviously jumped up in pain and kind of bough both my legs together, the doctors comment was, ``If you don`t want this abortion then you dont have to have it!`` then he made a comment to the nurse and anesthesiologist ``Thats it, she doesn't want the abortion, she wants to be pregnant`` Then when I said, ``I want to go through with this`` he said ``If you keep moving, we can`t work on you! now slide yourself down a little more and open your legs`` in the rudest tone. The whole abortion, the nurse and the anesthesiologist was talking about their kids and how great they were... and even this one comment slipped out of the nurses mouth while the abortion procedure was taking place, which was very painful, ``Now you know to use birth control`` One girl who went before me came out crying, balling her eyes out before she could of even had the procedure done. Now I know allot of you are probably against abortion, I learnt my lesson and would never ever put myself though that again. I know they were probably trying to scare us, but its like they hired pro-life staff at a pro-choice clinic. The only thing that traumatized me more then the abortion itself was that it felt like I was strapped to the bed and being ridiculed... while the abortion was taking place. I felt like I was in a horror circus. At the end they helped me get up, and at that point I was sobbing, all they did was look at each other and laugh/smile. This was a private clinic btw, if it makes a difference. Some people don`t believe me, so people will look at this as comical, or as if I`m a troll, or that how would I even respond to pain if i was under anastasia.. the only reason why im saying this is because, I`m looking for serious answers so heres the best proof I can find that I did go through with it... and that I`m not some troll ranging pro-life/choice trying to get my point across... http://i52.tinypic.com/2cpf3nm.jpg more

Open Question: Michelle McCluer, who is executive director of the Washington-based National Institute of Military Justice,?

Michelle McCluer, who is executive director of the Washington-based National Institute of Military Justice, is responsible for prosecuting our soldiers for doing what they have been trained to do, kill the enemy. We all know that war causes the loss of innocent lives, but what do we exspect, it's war. If we were in the shoes of the marines that are getting shot at or bombed on a daily basis, would we have done something different? I know I wouldn't have done a single thing any different than the marines did. Shoot or be shot. Do your job, kill the enemy. Train day and night and learn how to best kill the enemy. That is how a soldier is trained. Now McCluer wants to send and has sent our marines and soldiers to prison. It is sad that innocent people had to die, but isn't it also sad that our marines and soldiers had to die? They did what they were trained to do under very extreme conditions. Imagine finding a fellow marine or soldier that you have lived with, trained with, learned to do what you were told to do with, and bled with trying to be your best, imagine finding that person in filth ridin mud hut with his head cut off. How fast would you pull the trigger when you perceived someone as a threat to your life or your capture? If you don't react instantly you could be the one that falls first, or you could be the one that feels that dull blade sawing thru your neck, and I'm sure that sawing lasted forever. Our government told our millitary leaders to train the finest soldiers the world has ever known, teach them to take one shot and make one kill with that shot. So our millitary leaders did just that. Our soldiers and marines do not waste brass. Do you think McCluer should pass judgement on the marines and soldiers that are serving OUR country out there where you can see sand in every direction that reaches the horizon? It is not fair. Casualties of war, it will happen, and McCluer should know that. No questions asked, I have our marines and soldiers back. Can you say the same thing McCuer? more

Open Question: seriously is michael jackson still alive?

Proof #1 why Michael Jackson may still be alive: In this video, the man exiting the back of the ambulance looks like how Michael Jackson would look under the same circumstance, even though the footage is very grainy and unfocused. Evidence #2 why Michael Jackson could still be living: Faking his death would get him out of over $400 million in debt. Never mind that for the past many years, the King of Pop has been getting out of debt anyways, by simply not paying it. Proof #3 why Michael Jackson might still be alive: He had enough money to concoct and mastermind an elaborate scheme that would involve several physicians including Conrad Murray, household staff, the entire L.A. police department, homicide detectives, the coroner's office, the entire concert tour production entourage, and everyone else involved in the investigation of Michael Jackson's death. When you have enough money, you can pull off anything. Evidence #4 why Michael Jackson is still alive: He has trained his children to be superb actors, especially Paris. She was coached to give her tearful, moving speech at her father's funeral reception. Not only that, but the King of Pop's entire family was in on the hoax to fake his death, including abusive, greedy father Joe; subservient, frail Katherine; Janet and even Jermaine. However, guests at his funeral, such as Mariah Carey and Jennifer Hudson, were not in on the hoax because the King of Pop wanted some realism at the funeral reception. Evidence #5 Michael Jackson is still alive: Why not? After all, Elvis and Jim Morrison are still alive! And besides, the video of the King of Pop exiting the ambulance just happens to ironically zoom in on the license plate, after the two men go through the door. This is because, at the time the video was shot, the person taking the video had a premonition that eventually, there'd have to be proof that Michael Jackson was still alive, and what better evidence than matching license plates to the actual ambulance that took the King of Pop to the coroner's office? Michael Jackson kept an astonishing “death-hoax diary” explaining how he would fake his death of a heart attack and telling when he would come out of hiding, a family friend who claims to have found the journal “among Michael’s personal effects” tells derekclontz.com exclusively. ALIVE - OR NOT? You be the judge. ALIVE - OR NOT? You be the judge. “There’s too much pressure, pressure, pressure … pressure everywhere I turn …” a diary entry dated Nov. 17, 2008 is alleged to say in part. “I don’t know who I am, not anmore (sp). Maybe I’m just a father to my children. Maybe I’m washed up. “The drugs are (illegible) a toll … (illegible) … I’m not addict. But I can’t stop … “If Elvis … (illegible) … so can I. “I’ll have a ‘heart attack’ from drugs like he did (yeah, right!) “I’ll come back, but only when I’m ready. Bigger than Elvis in ’69. “Maybe 2009 at Christmas. Or maybe the New Year is better. “A back-from-dead tour, a real Thriller. But I have to rest. I’m tired. I’m not (thinking) clearly. “It’s the drugs. “A lot of fans still love me. (Some) people hate me. Thing (sp) will be different (after this) …” Jackson insiders declined to comment – officially – on the report. But as one privately put it, “We love Michael no matter what.” The friend who leaked portions of the diary also was tight lipped, saying only, “There are over 60 pages (of it) that I will release to the family through my lawyer and they can do what they want with it. It doesn’t belong to me. It belongs to Michael and his loved ones.” Other sources confirm that Jackson, 50, had spoken of a death hoax “on several occasions” in 2008 and also in 2009, although the reported discovery of the diary that outlines his plans seemed to come as a surprise to everyone contacted by derekclontz.com. A paint-by-numbers account of a death hoax, in the superstar’s own handwriting, could lead to serious legal problems, say legal observers, especially if the journal is perceived by insurance companies and the authorities to be a blueprint for fraud. “I hope to God the diary is legit,” said a Jackson confidante who requested anonymity. “If Michael really is alive, if he orchestrated all this, if he faked his own death, then nobody will be happier than me. As for fraud – nope, no way. “Michael wouldn’t commit fraud. He’s not trying to collect insurance. He’s protecting himself. He’s doing this for his children. I’ll guarantee it.” more

Open Question: What sites have the best variety/cheapest costume contacts?

I'm looking for costume contacts and I'm having a hard time finding sites that aren't total BS. I have a few different ideas for what I want, but I want to end up with like four sets of contacts. Some of my top ideas have been white out lenses, black out lenses Siberian Husky lenses, Goat Pupil lenses and then just some of the typical lenses like Manson lenses. Has anyone purchased costume lenses online before? Does anyone know of any good sites? P.s. Don't post here babbling about how costume lenses are the worst thing ever for eyes because I've done the research and they're not. The only times they've been known to damage eyes is when they're not properly taken care of, dirty, shared with other people or the user wears them for longer than they're supposed to. Which is just as likely to happen with normal contacts under the same conditions. more

Open Question: car restoration - how to know if unibody is too rusty?

I plan on bringing this car to a restoration body shop for an evaluation, but I figured some people could give me a summary of the important issues here, or links. My brother and I would like to restore our dad's 1964 Tbird. yesterday my brother crawled under there and pounded around with a little hammer (like a small geologist's hammer), and found that the body was in good shape except for it was really, really bad in front of the driver's side rear wheel. It isn't the cosmetic part of the body, it is the structural part, and about 1 foot of length is really really rusty & without structural integrity. There was some rust on the other side of the car in the same spot, but it seemed pretty good to him (he was trained as a machinist & not done any extensive body work before) Is there any way to repair this (have a body shop weld on a new quarter body or something?) or is our only option to go get a body from Arizona or just give this idea up? the interior of the car, engine etc. are all in really good shape, but it's a northern car & therefore was exposed to salt. thanks for ANY tips or insight or good links.If it was a vehicle for driving to work & back, I would junk it, of course, but this is a restoration of an antique car, for summer pleasure driving, so the economics are not the same as a commuting vehicle. Sounds like that wasn't clear to all answerers more

Open Question: Isn't it adorable how Conservatives want to claim Martin Luther King for themselves?

I have never, in my life ever heard the ridiculous claim that King was a Conservative until very recently, until Glenn Beck's little rally. Glenn Beck knows that King was no Conservative, and he knows how how uneducated his audience is which is why he gets away with it. He knows how much he is infuriating anyone who knows anything about King, and he is laughing all the way to the bank. This man thrives under hatred. Does this sound like a Conservative? "Communism forgets that life is individual. Capitalism forgets that life is social, and the kingdom of brotherhood is found neither in the thesis of communism nor the antithesis of capitalism but in a higher synthesis. It is found in a higher synthesis that combines the truths of both. Now, when I say question the whole society, it means ultimately coming to see that the problem of racism, the problem of exploitation, and the problem of war are all tied together. These are the triple evils that are interrelated." "We have deluded ourselves into believing the myth that capitalism grew and prospered out of the Protestant ethic of hard work and sacrifices. Capitalism was built on the exploitation of black slaves and continues to thrive on the exploitation of the poor." "...And one day we must ask the question, Why are there forty million poor people in America? And when you begin to ask that question, you are raising questions about the economic system, about a broader distribution of wealth. When you ask that question, you begin to question the capitalistic economy. And I'm simply saying that more and more, we've got to begin to ask questions about the whole society..." "But let what I have tried to suggest amount to this alone: that not only within present reach of human intelligence, but even within reach of mine as it stands today, it would be possible that young human beings should rise onto their feet a great deal less dreadfully crippled than they are, a great deal more nearly capable of living well, a great deal more nearly aware, each of them, of their own dignity in existence, a great deal better qualified, each within his limits, to live and to take part toward the creation of a world in which good living will be possible without guilt toward every neighbor: and that teaching at present, such as it is, is almost entirely either irrelevant to these possibilities or destructive of them, and is, indeed, all but entirely unsuccessful even within its own 'scales' of 'value'."@ TheBoogeyMan, any family can have a few bad apples, I have already said this. more

Open Question: How do I find lost family?

A couple years ago five of my siblings were taken from my parents by the county. My brother and I were able to be returned to our parents. I know they are all in the same county but I dont know how to get in contact with them. I dont have an address or phone number for them. I search on sites like facebook and myspace but cannot find them. I dont know the name of their adoptive parents. They are all under 18 so I cant find them on any people search engines. Any advice on how I can find them. more

Open Question: What do you think of my prologue?

PROLOGUE: Jade and I were as close as two sisters could be. There was trust between us and most people were not as lucky as we were. I could tell Jade anything and know that it would pass her lips again. Jade would tell me countless times on how wonderful it is to have fun, to be carefree and be a teenager. She trusted me with all her secrets, even the darkest ones that nobody knew, except for me. Jade turned to me for comfort and help, even though I could never give her any helpful advice, I was always too young to understand. She, however, was able to help me. She could give me advice when I had no idea what to do. Jade was my goddess. She saved me when I couldn’t save myself. When I got in trouble with my parents, Jade would just appear at my side. She’s hold my hand tight as my parents lectured me and when they yelled after I’d done something that was really bad, Jade stood up for me. Jade was my hero. Do you know those essays that teachers make you write in third grade or so? The ones where you have to write about somebody you look up to? I always wrote mine about Jade. I would say that Jade was my favorite person of all time, that my sister was the best thing in my life. She helped me when I was weak and she taught me how to be strong. I pretty much worshipped the ground she walked on. Jade was wild. At the young age of thirteen, Jade was off to parties that were held in houses of the kids whose parents were out of town. She befriended high school girls. Even though she was only in seventh grade, she was hanging out with ninth graders. She got the advantages that girls in seventh grade dreamed of. At the age of fourteen, Jade had her first boyfriend, only to break his heart two months later. After that, Jade was gone. She got high on the popularity in school for being so mature, so beautiful and for being the girl everybody wanted to be. Of course, she never blew me off, I was still her darling little sister, the girl who helped her through thick and thin. Soon, Jade began to sneak out late at night. She would stuff pillows under her bed covers and the first round object she could find would be her head. She found a wig at the costume store that matched her hair perfectly. That wig was what got my parents. When they saw her hair, they thought she was asleep. They never found out she had snuck out every night. Now, if my parents didn’t know that Jade snuck out, then how did I? Well, Jade would come into my room to tell me goodnight, and that she wouldn’t be home that night. Then, she’d tell me of the amazing parties she would attend, the boys she wanted to me and would hang out with. Jade told me the guys she liked, the girls she hated and whose party she was going to. She told me that she never drank or smoked as most kids did at these parties. The first time she came into my room, I was about twelve or thirteen and she was fifteen or sixteen. Jade stopped attending these wild parties when she met Adam. Adam Shilling, a twenty-three year old man who worked as a teacher’s assistant in the elementary school. Jade met Adam through Mayable Countryman, an elementary school teacher, and our neighbor. Mayable had Adam over for lunch one day and that happened to be the day that some of her mail was delivered to our house. Jade brought it over to Mayable and was introduced to Adam. They met several times after that before they officially started dating each other. Jade was only sixteen when Adam asked her out on a date for the first time. And not too soon after that did she tell me that she was in love with him. Jade continued to tell me everything about her and Adam. She told me of their dates and how much she loved him and the beautiful gifts he gave her. And then she told me that she had lost her virginity to him. I was shocked and angry when I heard this. I yelled at her and asked her how she could do this. “What? You act like it’s a crime or something.” She continued to file her nail. “It is a crime, Jade! He’s seven years older than you, for crying out loud.” I cried out. “Quit yelling at me! You don’t know what it’s like to be in love, Kylie! I love Adam, and sometimes it’s hard to hold back. Of course, since you’re only fourteen, you don’t know! So leave me alone!” Jade had gotten up and stormed away from me. We didn’t talk for three days until she forgave me. Sometimes, when Jade was getting ready for a date with Adam, she would let me do her hair while she polished her nails. I would sit there for a few minutes, just running my hands through her thick, honey blond hair. I had similar hair, but my hair was a bit darker. Jade hated her hazel eyes, and was constantly wearing colored contacts to hide them. Some days here eyes were emerald green or sky blue or even a deep purple. I, on the other hand, wouldn’t dream to use contacts. I loved my deep blue eyes with white specks. They were my best feature.“I envy you, Kylie.” Jade would tell me at random moments. “Why?” I would wonder. “Because you’re so beautiful, you know that?” I would smile at this and look at her. “I know I am, and so are you!” I would respond and leave it at that. I honestly knew that I was beautiful. I’m not one of those girls that would cry and complain because I was ugly, even though I knew I wasn’t. A lot of girls I knew complained about these things, just so somebody can tell them that they’re beautiful and some honestly don’t think they’re pretty at all. I pity girls like that. Why can’t you have self confidence and believe in yourself? Jade taught me this. “You are beautiful, Kylie, and don’t let anybody else tell you otherwise. Keep your confidence and you’ll fly through life with ease.” Jade told me constantly when I was younger.And it was why I found it hard to turn on her, to turn my back and never look back. It was almost like I was throwing all the memories, the lessons she taught me the secrets we shared right back at her. Why I left her alone when she needed me most. All because Jade ruined my life, ruined my chance of love, hope and dreams. Jade is where my story begins. I asked this before, but it didn't get many answers, so sorry if it bothers you. Let me know if you'll read on and leaves you hanging. Please don't mind the spelling errors and grammatical errors/ I can't edit something right after I write it. Thanks!!! :) more

Open Question: I got a speeding ticket in California?

Well, I got a speeding ticket on the freeway for going 82miles where the limit is 65miles, which is kinda dumb because I know a lot of people that go 80. Anyways, I'm 18 years old. It was my first offense, and the officer said that I could do traffic school. The car was under my parent's name, and his insurance. My question is what should I do? Will traffic school clear everything up, so that the insurance premiums won't go up? Also, if i do do traffic school, how much total will i have to pay? Is there anything that I can do to get out of the ticket? I wasn't really able to talk to the officer since he left immediately after issuing the ticket to me. I'm a college student working a minimum wage summer job to pay for school, and I was late for work which was why I was going 82. Do you think I should call the police station to talk to the officer face to face to try to ask for leniency? I have heard of officers giving verbal warnings for a first offense. And my last question is whether or not my parents will find out??? I would rather they didn't because we're tight on money as it is, and I don't want to give them unneeded stress Thanks more

Open Question: Military Waivers, the Lautenberg Amendment, Recruiting?

Here's the plain facts. Hopefully this will be answered by somebody(s) in the know. Perhaps someone from military recruiting... Or someone with valid experience. Here's the facts (devoid of the usual, "it was the cop", "it was someone else's fault" and bologna to that effect)... 5 years ago I was charged with DV. Was offered a deal I couldn't refuse, plead guilty to disorderly person, in 5 years (per my lawyer-stay good, as I was prior to-no runs ins with police before or since) there's a VERY good chance to have it expunged. Seemed much more affordable in the long run than fighting. Especially after being advised by my attorney (in Michigan) that it (DV) WILL be prosecuted, it HAS to be, by state law, to the end. No exceptions... except...The reason for the offer was a shaky prosecutors case. Nonetheless, I took the deal and do not regret it. The reason for the charge was in fact a domestic dispute. No injuries, no weapons, no hitting, kicking, no threats-we were both however wrestling with each other. No debate there. In all reality, people have been nailed to the cross for much less in DV cases, and guys that deserved much more have gotten away with it. (Re: Offer I couldn't refuse, alternative, I couldn't afford). It was a bad time and situation, but we have been together ever since (married w/children, NEVER another incident-EVER). Was simply a bad time for both of us, and we've moved on and grown together (not that that is pertinent, just wanted to get that out there). So, I finally made the big decision and went to the recruiting center. During the initial Q&A I disclosed my record for disorderly person. It lead to further conversation, and the original charge was disclosed. (I made no attempt to be deceptive about it, I knew it would likely come up anyhow). The recruiter was a complete professional, and sensitive to the situation and lowered her voice as not to embarrass me by others being able to hear the conversation. Obviously she recognized the stigma attached to this issue. Anyway, I was then told (professionally) that there was nothing she could do. I was, under current standards, disqualified and there was nothing she could do. Due to the Lautenberg Amendment (Act). I was quite stunned, seeing as only a week ago cable news did a profile on all the gang bangers that were granted waivers in years recent past, and how the military is diligently trying to weed them all out-but having little success due to many having a code of silence. Moving on... I thanked the recruiter, and left-pretty dejected. Now I know I am not subject to the fire arms restrictions under the Lautenberg Amendment-I was not convicted of domestic violence, and I have since legally purchased hunting rifles-with all applicable background checks. (Form 4473 etc). "Clean as a whistle", as it were. Now I also fully recognize that the military is not a revolving door employer, subject the to same rules as other employers, so I hear ya there if that's what you want to tell me. I know a charge of something big is equal to actually having been convicted. Just to get that out there too... So, hopefully I've given the full picture... Here's my issue. I understood what the recruiter said, but just for my own piece of mind (based on something she alluded to, visa-ve, "two years ago I may had been able to get you a waiver. Check back in a year)... I thought that was odd-because I was leaving with the notion that this was a done deal. Fate sealed. So I started calling recruiters in other states and telling them the full story of my specific situation. I called Army, Marines and Navy (no Air Force, nothing personal, just easier to find the others). I would say 60% told me the, to varying degrees, same thing as the one I went to in person. The other 40%.... VERY different story. One Navy recruiter two states over (not throwing anyone under the bus with this post) said quote, "Oh, no. You've been misinformed (tld him it was simply a friend that told me I was disqualified) you' need to request a waver. You weren't convicted of DV, and you are not disqualified from gun ownership or possession-there is no guarantee, but you are not automatically disqualified. That would be subject to approval from higher up". I see a lot of posts on here about very specific situations, but like my experience today, none have been able to answer my question. And neither did calling around to different recruiters in different regions. The closest I can assess from memory was 60% said "disqualified automatically", 40% said "not automatically disqualified". Generally, I would say majority rules, but, you've got to understand how disappointing this experience of not even getting my foot in the door was, then recieving mixed messages. Any experienced feedback would be appreciated. Thanks.The "conviction" (disorderly person, is approaching 5 years. My attorney was obviously careful to say, "may be able too", As for firearms, I have made three fully legal, from federally licensed dealers in the past 4 years. Most recently, 4 months ago. Mossberg short barrel. No issues whatsoever. So, obviously there even more mystery at the root of this all. Because before today, I'd never heard of this amendment. And I most certainly would have when I purchased a firearm months after my conviction on DP. I had it explained on another forum that even if it was expunged, the charge will still be found by the military-BUT one guy telling me ask for a moral waiver, another saying "you're done until they get desperate again". And the wheels on the bus... Thanks for your answers so far guy, sincerely appreciated from a total stranger. more

Open Question: Love of life addicted to drugs now I'm waiting for her to come back, wtf do I do?

History: I met my ex through a friend when she was 15 and I was 17. We fell hard for each other. Every day we would spend time together, or talk on the phone for 2-7 hours. Her family accepted me as a part of their family, and my family accepted her as a part of my family. I met her grandparents whom she was close to before they passed. We did not have a single verbal argument in the first 8 months of knowing each other. I felt as though she filled a hole that was missing in my heart -- possibly caused by the absence of my father? or just a hole for the desire to have a girlfriend, but is this part natural at that age? as time went on, my ex and I grew closer... feelings of closeness easily turned into feelings of distance though, we bounced back and forth. I questioned whether or not we were meant to be together forever, partly because her mother had said before "you'll never know if your meant to be together unless you spend time apart", but spending time apart sounded like the worst thing in the world... how could I stand to accept that somehow she would need time with other people to know that she wants me? I never heard that out of her mouth, but when a parent says a phrase like that, it sticks with you. It haunted me really. I never wanted to let her go. At one point, while I was quite depressed, I really required a lot of time spent with me by her. I thought about her nonstop and it truly was unhealthy. I did not have my own life going for me. During this bad time I became upset with her deciding to spend time away from me on a weekend night, and I broke up with her. This was my first time ever breaking up with her, and it was after us going out for over two years. During these couple weeks of us breaking up I decided to get back in shape and become healthier, so I started running and getting back in touch with old friends. My ex decided to start seeing this guy I knew from a while back, and took her first drugs at the time. A few weeks passed, and these weeks eventually turned into a month or two. We got back together under the premise of us realizing we both needed a place to move into, and it would either bring us closer or separate us even further. My mind has been messed up ever since moving in with her. Come to find out, she was snorting Adderall, Cocaine, Ecstasy, Oxycontin, Molly/Sass, and smoking ridiculous amounts of pot and cigarettes, her life had become quite uncontrollable. I didn't believe I was living with the same person I used to know and be in love with. After a while I couldn't handle it, she wasn't the same. I left her and the dog and the apartment and quit my job and moved back home. Two short weeks later I was on an airplane to Maui, where I spent three months escaping reality. (I thought of it as finding myself at the time) I stopped any communication between myself and my ex while I was in Maui. When I came back, I found out through her stepdad that my ex had just been shipped off a day earlier to spend a month in rehab at one of the nicest places in the country. Her parents realized she was on drugs, and disowned her if she didn't go. I still love her family so much, which makes it impossibly hard to let her go and just move on. She checked herself out of rehab half way through the month, spent a few days homeless trying to hitch a ride back to my state, managed to hop on a train and get back here, and has been living downtown with some kid she really doesn't care about just to get by. The ridiculousness of the story is that all she has to do is quit doing drugs, come back to her family -- who are offering her a full-ride at any college in the world she can get into, and she would be back on track. I forgot to mention that she's been 18 and I just turned 21. She's my first and only love, I lost my virginity to her and her to me. I wish the shit would just stop and we could be together again, should I give up? I didn't even pursue a single girl in Hawaii because I'm still in love with my ex. If she broke up with me because she doesn't like me, things would have been different and I could move on. I feel stuck because she has a drug problem and can't seem to get over it, and I'm sitting here waiting for her. What in god's name do I do? *we've met a few times recently, I looked her in the eyes and told her that I'm still madly in love with her and couldn't stop thinking about her while I was in Hawaii. She told me that she's still in love with me and that she's never stopped thinking about me. ... I don't want to give up on her. Funny how she just called me while I write this. I'm bad at writing about my emotions so if you have questions just ask me and I'll respond really fast.We just talked on the phone, she seemed very level-headed. Truth is, I myself have a wild side that enjoys partying, but I limit myself strictly to alcohol. She mentioned about how she's clean and asked me about becoming her sponsor for her NA meetings. Did god just answer my prayers? We have a date on Monday, we're going to AA/NA together. Does this seem like a good idea to ya'll? more

Resolved Question: How long will it take for the stitches to dissolve post circumcision?

Hi guys, I am 18 and I suffered from phimosis and the foreskin on my penis could not contract behind the head of the penis AT ALL, in fact i could barely get it half way! The doctor told me i should deffinitly get circumsized because the head of my penis under the foreskin was very dirty because i could not pull back to clean. Also having sex was a problem, I did a few times with a lubricated condom without pulling back the foreskin and didn't find it lived up to the hype so to say, felt just the same as masterbation pretty much and my girlfriend finished before me LOL. This is probably a beginners mistake but oh well to the point! I had the circumcision done and everything went smoothly but its been 15 days since surgery and the stitches are still in! The doctor said by 10 days they would be out, the stitches look kind of worn out so to say but i'm pretty nervous because I am headed off to university tomorrow with stitches in my penis that should be gone by now LOL! So I was wondering if this was normal and how much longer do you guys think until it is gone? I would like people who experienced circumcision to be the ones to comment. Thanks alot guys for the time... Ryan more

Open Question: Google adsense not working help?

Hi, I used to get loads of people clicking my google adsense and have recently been getting lots of website hits and not 1 google adsense click in ages, I think it has stopped for some reason and I don't know if its just people not clicking it and I cant click it myself to test because it doesn't work because I'm not allowed to click my own ads so please can some people click the ad just so I will find out if it has stopped working or if people do click. ok the link is http://iknowmypc.webs.com/makingmoney.htm and under the making money information please click like 2 or 3 ads. I will then wait a bit and check if it worked. when you answer the question tell me if you clicked the ad and how many you click then I will know who to mark as best answer. Thanks more

Open Question: Can two caucasian people, one being about a quarter native, produce a very dark, native child?

My good friend hasn't had his dad around much in his life at all, until recent years when he found him on facebook. He has always questioned whether or not he is his real father though, and I agreed with him, as I was under the impression that he dad was full native. My friend is really white and fair skinned, but h's younger sister is very dark, black hair, VERY obviously a large percentage of native. Recently, I saw a picture of their dad and he is REALLY white, light brown hair, not native looking at all. You wouldn't know by looking at him, and my friend told me he is only like maybe 25% native. So, I don't have a hard time believing he could be my buddy's true father but now we are wondering if its even possible that he could be his younger sister's real father. Can a caucasian woman & a caucasian man who is a quarter native and doesn't even look native possibly produce such a dark, native looking child? I mean she has very clear native features and everything. Both the parents have light skin and light brown hair, etc. I have no idea how genetics and etc work, so is it possible for them to have produced such a dark and obviously native child, when he is only maybe 25% native and doesn't look it at all???I want to know how though, like how does that work? more

Resolved Question: Erection in running shorts...?

Hey guys I have a pretty big problem when it comes to cross country meets. The running shorts that we were given are very short and they split on the side to be aerodynamic or some bullshit like that, and we have to wear them whenever we go to a meet and are not allowed to wear anything else under it. It never fails no matter how many times I try to not think about it I get a ***** on the way there, and my penis is 8 inches long which is longer then the length of the stupid shorts so my head is fully poking out of the bottom and it is very freaking noticeable to anyone who would look, the fact that the shorts split doesn't make it any easier on me seeing that there is nothing to hold it back. Great right? And everyone on the bus has to sit 2-3 a seat at times and its not uncommon that another female member of the team needs a seat and sits next to you, which makes this situation even worse. I ALWAYS sit near the window facing it to make it less noticeable, but there has actually been one occasion where the girl sitting next to me kept eyeing it like a hawk and now her friends kind of laugh when I walk by. When I get off the bus I make sure that I act like I'm looking for something in my sports bag and when I start running it goes away because all the blood flows back into my legs. I just need someone to tell me something that would help, anything would be nice, because even though its good for confidence and all that jazz, its pretty damn embarrassing when I start getting names for myself... Any type of music I should listen to or what type of underwear to wear? Thanks for even just reading all this. FYI: You probably found it funny, I get it. I am also not lieing about my size, I am not trying to brag in any way at all I just want some legitimate solutions for my dilemma. No point in trying to act superior to people on the internet who don't care in the first place. more

Open Question: How much does laser hair removal cost?

I would love to find a way to avoid shaving my legs and under arms. I have heard a lot of people talk about laser hair removal. Does anyone have an experience with this treatment? Can you tell me how it works and if it is painful? Also, what is the average cost ? Thanks! more

Open Question: I gave my friend a hand job and now he's not talking to me or my friends?

Okay, I met at him the end of last semester (freshman year of college) through a friend. I told him right up front that I found him attractive, he was like, okay, but found it funny. I told him what high school I went to and he told me that his girlfriend went to the same school. He told me her name and it turned out the girl had been in my a couple of my classes before. He told me that they had been together since middle school and that she was abstinent. But, literally, all he talks about is sex. We've hung out as a group a couple of times. He said that he wanted to be a part of our group. We aren't really that cool, but I guess he figures he fits in well with us, which he did. I liked him, everybody liked him. I still had an attraction to him but put it under wraps for a ton of reasons: my friend (who has a boyfriend) was attracted to him; my other friend (who is gay) liked him; he has a girlfriend; I kinda thought he might've been gay for a while (lol, because we are an all girls with one "in the closet" gay guy group). But this semester, he's been flirting very heavily with me. He would make suggestions, and I knew what he was getting at but I played like I didn't. Then one day he made me dare him to take his shorts off in the pool. I did. He did. Then he asked what I would give him for it. Well... You know where that lead. And since then, he hasn't been contacting me or any of my friends in our group. Our initial mutual friend says he walks right past her when he sees her. So she doesn't want to talk to him anymore. I texted him a couple nights after to see how things were going and at first he seemed all right, but then he seemed as though he didn't really want to talk. And today me and my guy friend (the gay one) were walking in the gym and he walked right past us, and I KNOW he saw us. I hate losing friends. I really only did it because I'd never done it (or anything sexual really) before and I would have rather it been with him than with somebody else. It didn't bother me the next day or the day after, but when three days went and he hadn't contacted any of us I started to figure something was up. Then me and my friend saw him in with group of guys and he completely ignored us. So... yep. I'm starting to feel stupider and stupider as time passes and I really just want the feeling to go away. I hope he didn't tell anyone. But, if he did, it was really my own fault for doing it in the first place. Just at the time it seemed so harmless. I really want to talk to him about it, but I'm afraid he'll lie about how he's feeling and just make me feel even stupider. Should I talk to him or let it go? Should I give him time? And just to make sure you understand how I'm feeling: About him: He's a cool person to be around, but mostly I hate losing friends. About the situation: I really want things to go back to being how they were. If they don't, he'll just be another person on my long list of people that I want to avoid. About myself: I don't feel like a whore because I know what my intentions were and why I did it. I was really just curious. I've never done anything sexual with a boy before and I figured he was a cool person and I was attracted to him so... I feel mostly guilty because he's not talking to all my other friends for something I did. I feel stupid because I should've known things weren't going to just go back to the way they were. I'm sure he feels guilty about sorta cheating on his girlfriend. So that's my dilemma. School's been in for a week and a half (our sophomore year), and this happened last Tuesday. It's now Wednesday. In case you wanted to know the time span. more

Open Question: Psychics, What can I do too be a good woman for my soul-mate/true lover?

So, I'm currently singe, I hate being single, and not having anyone to hold in my arms under a starry night, but I dream of love and how it will be for me. I cry sometimes, when I see people in love; It's like I'll never find true love because some people don't believe that it does exist. I see myself as different and there's a guy on my mother's couch who's kinda on my side sorta speak, but isn't my type. Nvm, he does weed. Anyways, If you saw me, you'll see that I'm not like everyone else; Nor, do I want to be like everyone else. It feels great too be different; I think some people envy this, but I don't care...What can you tell me about my soul/mate true lover and how he looks. Thanks. more

Open Question: I have to go to Court tomorrow for a Misdemeanor?

So I had a little party at my house a couple days ago with alcohol, mind you no one was over 21. My parents were out of town for a week so they had no idea I was doing this. So later through the night a cop came and I opened the door but closed it right behind me and she said they got a call for noise from the neighbors and she claimed she could smell alcohol on me(although I was not drinking) she said she could have everyone in the house in deep trouble or I could quietly get everyone home safely and she wouldn't do anything. So I apologized and started kicking people out. I got everyone out except for 6 other people. 2 were sleeping upstairs already cause they had planned on sleeping over and me and the other 4 were in my room just on the computer listening to music. Around 2AM the same cop and another cop came again and was like.. we got another noise call, sorry but this is how it has to go. So they came in found everyone, took pictures of a beer can that I forgot to throw away, went through my whole house. After awhile of talking about how i made a huge mistake she gave me a Slip that said Misdemeanor NMC 14-16.4, which is a noise violation and a court date to show up. My court date is tomorrow and I was wondering if I should prepare somehow or say certain things. I did what the cop told me and got people out but she still gave me this. This is my very first offense, I ve never done anything like this. Any advice?? And please nothing like" oh you're under 21 you shouldn't be doing stuff like this" I know that and Ive already gone through a lot. I made a mistake, I'm not perfect..I am 19 years old. No one was under 18 or over 21. more

Resolved Question: Getting an erection in running shorts...?

Hey guys I have a pretty big problem when it comes to cross country meets. The running shorts that we were given are very short and they split on the side to be aerodynamic or some bullshit like that, and we have to wear them whenever we go to a meet and are not allowed to wear anything else under it. It never fails no matter how many times I try to not think about it I get a boner on the way there, and my penis is 8 inches long which is longer then the length of the stupid shorts so my head is fully poking out of the bottom and it is very freaking noticeable to anyone who would look, the fact that the shorts split doesn't make it any easier on me seeing that there is nothing to hold it back. Great right? And everyone on the bus has to sit 2-3 a seat at times and its not uncommon that another female member of the team needs a seat and sits next to you, which makes this situation even worse. I ALWAYS sit near the window facing it to make it less noticeable, but there has actually been one occasion where the girl sitting next to me noticed, thank god she just looked away and kept it to herself. When I get off the bus I make sure that I act like I'm looking for something in my sports bag and when I start running it goes away because all the blood flows back into my legs. I just need someone to tell me something that would help, anything would be nice, because even though its good for confidence and all that jazz, its pretty damn embarrassing when I start getting names for myself... Any type of music I should listen to or what type of underwear to wear? Thanks for even just reading all this. FYI: You probably found it funny, I get it. I am also not lieing about my size, I am not trying to brag in any way at all I just want some legitimate solutions for my dilemma. No point in trying to act superior to people on the internet who don't care in the first place.Good idea stan, I might be able to do that and then just sit in the bus seat with both my knees on the seat in front. more

Resolved Question: Why don't you vote people?

Don't say you do... But for those who don't, here's my way of thinking... There are ALOT of people out there in the world who don't vote... Some can't and some won't, for those who can't it may be because they live under a government that still likes to hide things from them, they've always done it, (religion is a very blinding thing...). These, basically... Have little choice...... But for you people, in the land of the free, home of the pizza, now blinded by the computer screen, ahem, can, but er won't... How do you know what Obama actually says to his "colleagues" in the Whitehouse? Also don't they look like they are constantly talking out of their ass? Well you could find out... If you all put your heads together and asked for the whitehouse to become a reality tv show to SEE what these people do every day. If not... Why? more

Open Question: How do you avoid the death tax, please no smart alec answers from people that don't know anything?

Also no answers pertaining to personal situations, I am just trying to find the legalities behind the matter. From what I hear about the new plan initiated under the Obama Administration, it sounds pretty daunting.What I mean by no answers to personal situations I mean I am not looking for someone who just starts asking why the question is being asked. If you have a personal situation however that can relate to a positive outcome that would be great! I feel like this 55% thing is huge. more

Resolved Question: The vast majority of women are snobs. Do you agree or disagree with that?

I recently asked a question, "Agree or disagree - the majority of women are snobby." The vast majority disagreed, but I'm wondering why that is. Perhaps they consider snobs to be very rich people who like to make fun of the lower class. That is not necessarily the case. I found this general definition online for the term snob - "Anyone who thinks they are better than someone else based upon superficial factors (eg. appearance, wealth, social status, etc)." Doesn't that sound like the vast majority of women over the age of 12 and under the age of 70? To anyone who still disagrees, ask yourself this - how many attractive women do you know who would go out with a guy who is physically unappealing or socially inept (and isn't rich)? The majority of women will reject those guys, and the more attractive the woman, the more her decision is based on a) sexual appeal, b) wealth, and c) social status. Does he necessarily need all three? No. But very few women have any time for guys who do not excell in at least one of those three categories. I'm not saying that type of woman doesn't exist, but she is literally one in maybe two thousand. The rest, are snobs. Agree or disagree? more

Open Question: How do I get over finding out he cheated on me and was still sleeping with me?

So I had noticed over several days that my boyfriend was acting a little distant. This was a Sunday that I noticed a change. Tuesday (my bday) I asked him if he was having second thoughts about our relationship. He was completly offended that I would question is fidelity and intentions that it started a fight that proceeded the next few days. He would come visit me after work but didnt stay the next few night so we could have some space... but things got worse....finally on Friday I told him that we needed a break so that he could get his priorities and stress under control and then after this we could try again cause I coudlnt handle the constant fighting and arguing anymore. That night he told me he missed me and that he was going to straighten out his priorities and he wanted me back. Saturday we chated a bit but decided not to see eachother. That night I was celebrating my birthday and he asked if he could meet me out for it. I told him that if we could get along that of course he could meet me out....i never heard back from him that night. Sunday morning he called to ask how things went and we chatted and things seemed better, it was refreshing. That night he was busy with a hobby of his and his phone was off, he told me he would call me when he was done and possibly stop by after. Around 8pm I get a text from his ex telling me that they had been sleeping together since last Sunday, she proceeded to tell me when, where and more details then I needed to hear. She even told me that he was bragging about sleeping with her then proceeding to mess around with me afterwards without showering in between! Thats just nasty!! What kind of person brags about that! I'm disgusted right now. I sent him a text never to talk to me again, and he hasnt....not even a sorry. Yet I'm still getting texts from her asking me if he has contacted me since she told me what happened, like I owe her anything!!! How can people treat others like this? Not only do I have to deal with the lying, but now I have to think about the cheating and std's. I'm totally disgusted, he is not the man I thought he was. How does someone get over something like this? How can people be so sleezy and trashy? more

Resolved Question: Question about my records with SS and how it will effect my future?

NOTE: BEFORE ANYONE READS THIS I LIVE IN THE ENGLAND, UK. I appreciate advice from people in the US as well but I understand that the laws are different there so the info they give me may not be correct for where I live. Last year I had a baby that I gave up for adoption. It wasn't fully my choice and I only did it because I felt too much pressure from Social Services. I didn't feel as though I wanted to be assessed as they have tonnes of negative paperwork about me. I knew that I wasn't going to get the baby. I was abused as a child and my Mother was a mentally ill alcoholic. I was under child protection but for some odd reason was never taken into care myself. Yet it's still all on record that I used to get beaten up, I was underweight, I behaved oddly, I never had enough clothes etc. When I was 8 I was diagnosed with Aspergers. I was sent away to SS to all these special schools and units. At 18 I was sent away to a residential place for people with Aspergers and other disabilities. There I was psychologically assessed and they said that I did not have Aspergers, but Emotional Attachment Disorder and my odd behaviour as a child was all because I was traumatised. Whilst I was there I accidentally got pregnant. I thought I couldn't get pregnant as I have infrequent periods every 6-8 weeks instead of every 4 and my ex partner had lots of health problems. As soon as they found out SS was informed and I was treated like some kind of criminal. They came onto me and my ex real hardcore. He couldn't handle it and he went off leaving me all on my own. I was so sad because we were really close and I didn't have much to say for my family who are basically just strangers to me. I caved in and gave the baby up for adoption, because I knew that the odds were stacked against me. It was me against SS and the courts and all that poisonous paperwork. It was also in my records how I used to break down crying all the time and how I would self harm as a teenager. I also didn't want to get to know my son because it would be more painful to say goodbye to him when he would have to go. I want children in the future but I don't want this to happen again. If I moved away without the knowlege of SS and I got pregnant again someday would they find out about it? And how would they find out about it? Is there any way I could get them off of my back without moving abroad? As I know I will never amount to having thousands of pounds in my bank. I am already 22 and haven't had the chance to get any qualifications good enough. I don't want all this advice telling me fight them, as I am not prepared to face them again. I would rather just avoid having children all together. I just want a simple answer to my question. No bitching at me or telling me to kiss their a*$$es. I don't want to go through it all again. I miss my son and I will never forget about him and the pain will always be there. This experience has scarred me for life and it makes me hate my Mother. I am very sure that it will scar my son for life too. I always turn to this section for these types of questions as people understand and they are not so mean and nasty. Everywhere else I just negative answers putting me down which makes me more upset about the situation. more

Resolved Question: Are these Zodiac Flower Power Signs true?

Remember these aren't Decans. They're meant to represent the each Star Sign. Honeysuckle "My vines climb to great heights." March 21 – April 19 If you are born under the sign of the honeysuckle you are sweet to the senses of others. Meaning, you naturally entice others with your charm and grace. You have a smooth confidence that attracts a wide variety of friends and business partners. Just as bees can’t resist the lure of the honeysuckle – people can’t resist your energy. You are the first of the flower signs and so you are assertive and a natural leader of the vine. Honeysuckle people are strong and determined, weaving their way through any challenge, and are quite deft at finding innovative solutions. Poppy "I provide beauty to your senses." April 20 – May 19 If you are a poppy among the zodiac flower signs you love the finer things in life, and you love to share them with other people. You have a flare for design, a good eye for detail, and a knack for putting things together with style. Refinery comes natural to you, and you have a classy way about you that others find alluring. Poppy people are about pleasure: giving and receiving it. You enjoy security and comfort. Those with the flower sign of the poppy are very resilient too, and can weather any storm because of their patience and headstrong nature. Lavender "My beautiful expanse will inspire you." May 20 - June 20 If you are a lavender flower sign you freckle your landscape with beautiful ideas. You love to share these ideas with other people and get more new insights as you do so. You are expansive in your expressions, and you always seem to be able to find your muse. You are amazingly productive, creative and have an active mind. Sometimes you feel pulled in too many directions, but part of the lavender’s beauty is that it spreads itself far and wide for all to enjoy. Accanthus "Look to my petals for your nurturing." June 21 – July 22 Sensitivity is the watchword for accanthus flower signs. You are perceptive, and have high intuition in matters of the heart, and environment. You often react to others (even when they don’t speak their feelings, you still know what is going on inside their hearts), and your surroundings. You are warm and sympathetic, and a natural healer too. Accanthus zodiac flower signs are highly influenced by outside forces – especially the pull of the moon. A secure home life, surrounded by friends and family who love you and you love back often help ground you and keep you from falling prey to negative influences. Sunflower "I will brighten your darkness." July 23 – August 21 Sunflower signs are warm, open, and natural leaders. You rise to any occasion with confidence and assurance – you have no doubt that you are the perfect person for any challenge, and you know how to reach to the top. You tend to be the center of attention and others look to you for advice and mentoring. You are a loving, faithful and tenderhearted friend. You are generous and enjoy a wide range of intellectual gifts. Morning Glory "I bring you clarity." August 22 – September 22 Morning glory zodiac flower signs are thoughtful and reflective. You tend to think and plan first before you take any action. You are organized and very observant. You have a natural eye for detail, and can be very analytical. You love to help people, and often use your organization skills to help others who struggle in “getting their act together.” You bloom beautifully right where you are planted, and you have a neat way of making things right and tidy. People come to you for guidance and healing. Rose "I will balance you in my beauty." September 23 – October 22 The rose zodiac flower sign exposes the truth in all things. If you have this flower sign you have a unique ability to see the hidden meanings in things and expose the underlying evidence for what it is. You have an eye for classic beauty, and you love to surround yourself with beautiful things too. You are attracted to philosophy, poetry and art. Because you see the beauty and truth in all things, you do not tolerate injustice or cruelty. You are most happy when you are with friends and family – taking a walk and enjoying nature. Chrysanthemum "My mysteries are forever unfolding." October 23 – November 21 You have many layers to you, and just as soon as someone thinks they have you identified, you pop out with another blossom of surprises. You like clarity and honesty in all things. In fact, when situations are murky or unhealthy you are the perfect sign to come in and clear the air or heal the situation. You are focused and tend to be serious in your emotions, but you are very intuitive and help others identify areas they need to work on for their own emotional growth. You are active and amorous with no end to suitors.Narcissus "Escape into my dreamy depth." November 22 – December 21 Narcissus zodiac flower signs can be very influential and enjoy sharing their philosophical ideas with others. You are direct, to the point, trustworthy and honest. You are naturally wise, and you also are gifted with good luck. You come on strong, but have a sensitive side you don’t share with too many people. You have an active imagination and love to dream the days away. Carnation "Simplicity is its own reward." December 22 – January 21 Those with the carnation flower sign are beautifully adept at putting things in order, and organizing. You are strong willed and determined for others to see your point of view. You are a natural leader, and others look to you to lean on. You can be driven and determined and this makes you a strong personality. You are no stranger to hard work, and you like to get things done your way. You like security, particularly if you are building a comfort zone with your own two hands.Orchid "My uniqueness is my effectiveness." January 21 – February 19 Those with the zodiac flower sign of the orchid are curious and inventive. You can be contradictory but you know exactly where you are coming from. You have a dreamy persona and people are attracted to your unique, sometimes eccentric ways. You have a different way of looking at the world. You are a natural humanitarian, and love to unravel mysteries. You are also very good at organizing or completing tasks that allow you to establish order.Water Lily "My roots touch unseen knowledge." February 20 – March 20 Water lily flower signs are perceptive and deeply psychic. Water runs through all the flower signs but especially through yours and this accentuates your intuitive abilities. You are sometimes able to absorb ideas and thoughts of those around you. You can be emotionally swayed by other people's feelings too. Sometimes your emotions can run out of control, but you can turn to your natural creative abilities to help you get grounded. You are a natural artist, dancer, and musician. You are also an excellent communicator, and may be drawn to other languages too.The Black Zodiac is composed of 13 fictional zodiac signs which were created by Dark Castle entertainment and used in the movie Th13rteen Ghosts. There are some speculations that circulate around the net about the real version of The Black Zodiac, no proof has been found.That's the point, them matching the original Zodiac. And there's no such thing as the Black Zodiac.The Necronomicon is a fictional grimoire appearing in the stories by horror writer H. P. Lovecraft and his followers. It was first mentioned in Lovecraft's 1924 short story "The Hound",[1] written in 1922, though its purported author, the "Mad Arab" Abdul Alhazred, had been quoted a year earlier in Lovecraft's "The Nameless City".[2] Among other things, the work contains an account of the Old Ones, their history, and the means for summoning them. more

Open Question: How to end an unhealthy relationship?

I am in a relationship that can be best compared to an emotional meat grinder. I feel a little silly asking for advice here, but I feel as though relatives and friends are biased. I need to include a little background information, so bear with me. He and I met a little under a year ago. I am 19, he is 24. There was an immediate connection and incredible passion from both sides. He and I both had fiances in different countries whose visa applications were in the process. He lived with his fiance for 5 years, while my relationship was not as serious. Quickly, I broke things off with the guy overseas, only to find out a few days later about his fiance's visa being approved and her coming in 2 weeks. He was extremely regretful and justified it with "I promised her, and after all these years I can't just give up on her. It wouldn't be fair. I will probably send her back after a couple of months anyways." He broke things off three days before she flew over. I was completely destroyed, very immature of me considering the three months of being with him. Very slowly I started to see my friends and eat normally. Exactly two months after breaking things off, I get a text message at 4 in the morning asking to see me. I saw him and he told me that his fiance was lying to him and having an affair with her boss. He told me how much he wanted to call me and how he spent the night in my parking lot in hopes of seeing me get in my car. Everything seemed genuine and I couldn't wait to get back into having a relationship with him. I couldn't trust him for a while, but then I decided to stop and just forgive him. It's been seven months since, and our fights became more frequent and damaging. This relationship is an extremely new experience to me. I never let someone in so close and I feel like I am paying for it big time. Our fights usually start when one of us doesn't live up to the expectation of the other, or when things are taken out of context by him. Very simple things that presumably would be resolved between people who truly care about each other. We can't seem to solve them because we fight not about the spark of the problem, but by how we react to each other. He is used to being with a woman who sacrifices her emotions and pride for his, allowing him to feel in control even when he is absolutely wrong. I have never been like that and I feel like I am turning into that image. He is the kind of man that will guilt trip, accuse, and use sarcasm in a fight without ever for a second thinking about how much it hurts me. He can only stop until I am bawling my eyes out from feeling so cornered. Sometimes it seems as though he is trying to achieve exactly that. When I ask him to see things from my point of view and be considerate, he says ok, and answers with an accusation. For me, fighting is an extremely stressful and unnecessary task. I would rather sit down, figure out whats wrong and fix it. For him on the other hand fighting, mind you fighting that ends up with me in tears and him in rage, ain't a thing. He denies this, but to be honest, its obvious that while initiating an argument (the initiator is 95 percent of the time is him) he does not take into consideration the emotional implications it will bring. Its not so much the fact that there are little things to argue about that bother me and discourage me from continuing this relationship. Its his complete lack of consideration for my feelings and the need to be right at all costs when we fight. I sometimes stop and listen to his words, thinking to myself - "How did you ever end up with someone that makes you feel so low?" There is no proving anything to him. I broke up with him multiple times, but always came back after being guilt tripped and convinced by him that I am running away from the problem (while he, the good one, is trying to work it out) The problem is not something that can be worked out. Its his aggressive, controlling personality that keeps making me feel like I am mentally unstable. He demands to see me every day, which I was okay with until I realized that I lost literally all my friends. Now if I don't see him for a day because I want to hang out with old friends, he gets angry and suspicious of me. When we are not fighting, things are great, nothing short of perfect. One insignificant thing, like me not wanting to have sex in the morning will set him off and he will have no problem initiating an argument to prove how selfish it is of me. He stops at nothing until I hit complete hysteria and start doing physically self-destructive things. The jealousy and suspicion from his side has been ridiculous lately. I know I am not a perfect girlfriend. But to set off my temper and pride takes some real effort. I realized that I can't change his self-righteous attitude. With every fight I feel like I being pushed further and further into a corner. He is not a man I want to have a family with. more

Open Question: How do I get over someone?

So here's my problem. I'm 17 years old. I've known this girl for 8 years of my life, 6 of those 8 we have been great friends. I've always had a slight crush on her, nothing major, but as the years went by that crush transmogrified into something much more. It wasn't until we were around 14 years old that we started "talking". When I say that I mean we talked online. A lot. In fact, every single night. And we have done up until this day. She got a boyfriend at this time, and they very recently just split up, yet even when she had this boyfriend, we talked online, flirted and exchanged our thoughts for one-another. For 3 years this continued. It wasn't until the last 3 months or so I've realised I'm actually in love with her. She's the first thing I think about in the morning and the last thing at night. To me, she's the most beautiful person alive, no other girl looks attractive to me compared to her, no other girl occupies my thoughts apart from her. We're very close friends, extremely close. We hug all the time, and spend a lot of time hugging, the furthest we've ever experienced with each other is a few kisses, I always wanted more, and I was under the impression she did too with all our "talks". But unfortunately, recently while being told by MANY people that she liked me, I found out she didn't. At least not in that way. I had confessed my love for her, and after being told she didn't feel the same way, trust me, I was heartbroken. devastated. And I know she'll never feel the same way for me that I do for her. And so I ask you, please, tell me how to get over this. It's slowly killing me inside (I know that sounds depressing and emo-ness yada yada but it's honestly the way I feel) I just want a way to get over her. Please help me. H. x more

Open Question: Unlocked Iphone problem?

I have an unlocked iphone 3g on tmobile and i have had it for over 6 months and it has been running smoothly. Since yesterday though i have not been able to send or receive any text messages. I brought it into the tmobile store and one of the people told me to call customer care and that he thought i needed a code entered into something under the network settings. So i called customer care and they tried to troubleshoot the phone and of course they found nothing and to do anything else they needed my mom, who is the account holder for the phone, on the phone and she cannot or for a few more days be on the phone with me. Now im stuck with no texting and that is my primary way of getting in touch with people. i just wanted to know if anyone else has ever had this problem or knows how to solve it. I would really appreciate the help :) thank you! more

Resolved Question: I think I harbor hatred for "different people"?

You know "different people" (I'll elaborate in a while) always say that hatred towards them comes from ignorance. This is more often than not the case. BUT, I am a very curious person and I have spent a great deal of my 19 years of life researching their kinds, yet still feel a strong dislike towards them. Religion: I for sure am not fond of muslims. I find it a very disturbing and strict religion, especially in its extreme aspects (like Taliban for example, that kill people just because they "betrayed their religion"). I have to admit I have not really gone into deep research for that, since I'm not sure I want to learn much about that religion. Christians, well, do not even get me started about them. I was raised as a Chrstian, still am as a matter of fact, but I do not like how Christianity has evolved. In my country for one, it is generally acceptable to insult God and other divines, yet go to church every Sunday and be considered a good Christian. Satanism (not sure if it's called a religion) seems a bit over the head. In all religions, there is so much going on about the "evil" and Christianity deems Satanism to be it. Even the name they bear scares the shιt out of me. Sexuality: I do not even know how to get started on this. I myself am a gay man. BUT I do not even like gays! I mean the feminine men, that say one word and start shaking their pelvis in the beat of California Gurls and bend their wrists in unimaginable angles. I believe feminines give a bad name to homosexuals in general, making us all seem like shaky boys that love pink, glitter and OMG fashion. (I don't have a problem with lesbians though, and although bisexuals strike me as undecided, I still have no problem) Trans[..] people. I can't imagine why somebody would alter the sex they were born with (maybe because I never felt the need to do so). It seems so wrong to me to cut off or add a penis (I know it's just not about that, I'm just symbolizing) because "I feel that way". How can a man be attracted to men, yet not define himself as gay, but go through the whole process of changing their sex, only to still like men? Shemales (do they fall under the trans category?) seem just wrong. Wrong wrong wrong. Bearing a pair of boobs, yet still have a penis? How can that be possible? And why do they dress in women's clothes? Is it just about the breasts? General Society: People with mental retardation, I do not hate. But I avoid them. I just can't make a conversation with them (I used to hang out with one, and I had an uncle 30yo that acted like a 5yo. Not sure about his vital status right now.) I don't think I could stand it if someone near me were born with mental deficiencies. I just can't speak with these people. Disfigured people make my stomach crawl. I feel badly for saying this, and I know how devastating it would be if I were to become a disfigured person after an accident. However, I just can't stand the sight of a person with an ear and nose missing, I want to run away screaming. Yet I just try to walk past quietly, even if my brain is shouting RUN! Dark asian races is a common sight in my country. Actually, nearly one third of our capital's population consists of immigrants. These people usually leave under horrible conditions and just try to make some money to send to their families without causing trouble (usually, but there are many cases of immigrant criminals in my area, but whatever, my country's people become criminals too). Of course I understand that concept and it seems right, but I would feel better if they were all back to their countries. Being born in the West, my aspect of beauty is totally different from theirs, and since I only desire beautiful faces around me, I just don't like them. (this sounds just so wrong) And a bonus: having changed to vegetarianism, I came to dislike nearly every meat eater, simply because they hate me. Many times I've found myself in a dinner where no veg food existed, because the host was too bored to make veg food. Also, when I accidentally eat meat and get disturbed, I am usually told I'm just a whiner that likes to make a big deal. I do not like me hating people. I used to think of myself as an altruist and a person who loves everybody, but growing up and discovering all these people is making my brain a mess. I do not like them but I hate that. I have tried to make myself "just like them" but it's impossible. I want myself free of hatred, but I just can't do it. I've read several texts and literature aiming to make you an altruist but they haven't affected me. What can I do to free myself of this hatred?Andorable, I'm not even sure about that. Thank you for your insightful, yet otherwise useless comment anyways. more

Open Question: What should I do with my future?

First off, I'd like to thank you for clicking this question. I'm a 16 year old boy who is going into 6th form (for the American's out there, once you finish 10th grade, you go back to school to study more), and my family are all nagging me saying I should know what I want to do at this age. To be honest, I'm one of those people who don't know what they're good at so it is going to be a struggle to figure what to do. Basically; I find it hard to cope under pressure, I am not so good at listening to instructions, and I am generally unreliable. Knowing this, I thought to myself 'why not go self employed?' but I would worry too much about what to do. I think to myself now, in like 20 years or something when I see people who are my age on television, that I could of been him/her, but I am not so good at singing, and when I say to my parents I want to act, if I am a bad actor, I know they wouldn't say that to me and then I would feel stupid because I would think I am doing okay, but my parents wouldn't if that makes sense. I did my GCSE's and got the average C's, and a B in my English Lit. This may not be good enough for university, so what do I do? I have a dream where I want my parents to be proud of me when I'm 30, with a house with a view over a beach (yeah it's my dream). Someone who's unreliable like me; how would I get that rich, a career which I can retire at the age of 30? Jokes lol. But seriously now what do I do? I'm thinking of being an interior designer for houses, but I'm no good at art, and I didn't take it in my studies for GCSE. I took Business (C), Media studies (C), History (D), and Product Design (C). In 6th Form I'm taking Law, Film studies, Sociology, Business. What now? more

Open Question: Career help for a teen?

Open Question: Your thoughts on the recreation of man. What is afterlife?

Your thoughts on the recreation of man. What is afterlife? I have taken sometime to conduce and conclude the afterlife. I have come to several conclusions throughout the topics from The Formation of the Planet, The Stars, and The Phenomenons. Earth being the most complicated, even this eventually falls into place. I suppose all we are energy compiled from others smaller energies, Thoughts and conclusions from sights and hearing. We go through a process of amplification, Regulated and structured through other human-beings. Forming a person in which different aspects and perspectives are built from. We then resubmit these in portions to create new dynamics. We also create these in finer forms of purity and from different positions of the world. The question becomes are we not useful to man if the same perspective is applied to and from positions rich , poor , stressed , leisure, tough, feeble, build, height, gender, and every variation of any characteristic and composite of man. The worry becomes are positions being held through a mechanism that holds perspective while believable applying it to reality with a holding energy that does nothing more than live a basic transparent life. Formulate by a network wearing costumes holding ranges of positions that would otherwise hold meaningful and purposeful people. Maybe we have defeated ourselves as a people by creating something in our minds that overrides natural laws of nature or maybe the propriety of certain individual becomes impulsive hyenas. We are one of the few species that will adapt our standards and boundaries for one another. The issue becomes the segregation. How do we know we aren't ultimately being judge on the most ridiculous details? We separate by country, state, county, town, by car, housing, gender, , color, height, features, lifestyle, when do we go too far. The boundary for man to succeed is to find a standard and stick with this. Let some peak above, below to the left and right, but when do those in positions of mans created power go too far. When one moves to succeed, and this what most are trying to do, to succeed from a bounds of control and find stability on their own, how do we know those who hold the key aren't judging us on ancestry of 100, 500, 2000 years ago. How do I know I am not condemned for being related to Victor Emmanuelle II Emperor of Italy or Alexander the great or down the minute details such as my eye color, choice of music, the phone I use? While these actions comprise and represent who I am they are not ecstatically bound. How do I know the Queen hasn't damned us for any one of these acts and if she has would she mind being a bit more explicit? One large concern is that most people do not how they judge they float until they find the next thing that we give them and no one is willing to give anything meaning to those who don't seek it. Don't grasp it. Don't understand it. The question becomes what are people in our situation to do? Do we wait for the other side to act correctly, do we control the breeding process until we can balance the equation, Something compels me to believe that so much has been created my grave is nothing more holding cell and the power that be will recreate me during a more appropriate time. I hate to think I let the duchess, my princesses, and queens down, warlords, squires, and fellow man down for another century or two. Though if I rose the way under the current condition I may be compelled to kill you all or possibly. Maybe they find comfort in under a Queen. Anyhow what are your thoughts on the afterlife? I'm looking for collaboration to confirmation, a difficult situation to come by anymore.Esthetics* more

Resolved Question: How do you feel about abortion? Does it trouble you? All those innocent lives....?

"There were 3,369 infant deaths (deaths under 1 year) registered in England and Wales in 2008, giving an infant mortality rate of 4.8 per thousand live births. In 2008, there were 3,617 stillbirths and 1,763 deaths at ages under seven days registered in England and Wales giving a total of 5,380 perinatal deaths."- http://www.statistics.gov.uk/pdfdir/ipm0909.pdf From figures found: according to Department of Health there were 193,700 for UK women 15-44 abortions in 2006, that's 18.3 per 1000 births, nearing 2%. http://www.dh.gov.uk/en/Publicationsandstatistics/Publications/PublicationsStatistics/DH_075697 Over half of pregnant under 16s are aborted. That means from natural deaths we can say there were about 8,700, unnatural 193,700. I know people have reasons for abortions, but this overall figures do you feel are justifiable, moral, defence-able?This is a general moral religious question. Please keep away from legal or health issues.Ah! How sweet you think abortion happens to women only if they want it? The clearest example of this being not quite true is that over 1% of abortions come under Section E of the Abortion Act, where if the mother has refused all persuasion is forced to undergo abortion. The mother is isolated from all family and friends and the child- who would be born handicapped - is terminated, killed off against an intransigent mother's wishes. There is anything from £440-£1700+ made per abortion depending on age of the unborn. It's a multi-million pound business- er- service. There is no money made to any charity if a mother decides to keep a child.Is that an argument Delilah - because there is suffering in the world we should kill babies off? Where would that lead to? All tyrants have argued the same way as you're putting forward?Summer Daze calls unborn babies- parasites??????????? If this is your opinion please don't have ever be with children, nor be left in any room with any baby nor elderly person nor handicapped. According to this kind of reckoning even a patient asking for help in a hospital could be termed p"parasitic". Did you get educated in some special place I wonder.Dayzie - like all pro-choice advocates - ignore the fact the victim dies for another person's choice. If that is extended logically onwards to society as a whole, as some are advocating here, it means mass culling/extermination isn't seen as extreme. Goodbye to civilization and human rights, back we go 70-80 years. more

Open Question: why is she being so nasty towards me?

hi there-its a bit of a long story but will try to keep as brief as possible.basically i need advice about my sister and the way she is being with me.we have always had a sumwhat difficult relaonship but we have both found out that we are pregnant and due more or less at the same time. i found out 1st that i was expecting and couldnt wait to tell her and alls i got was a bad reaction.she had a face on with me,saying oh its typical you have to get pregnant first.then she said oh well im not going to try to get pregnant now.and when i asked her why she said oh i dont want us to be pregnant at the same time.we had our last 2 children 4 months apart and she is paranoid that everyone compares them but thats not the case. two weeks later she thrusted a positve pregnany test under my nose,i am happy for her but the way in which she did it was like to say ha ha whatever u can do i can do better,which i no sounds childish but thats the way my sister is. but since she foud out she keeps on having little digs at me and my lifestyle. unfortunately at the same time i fund out i was pregnant i fond out that my contract at work was nt being renewed,so i am now without a job,which that in itself scares me.and my sister knows this but also keeps refering constantly at how she will have a great maternity package from work,but thats not all. as i have recently been employed i am eligible to claim maternity allowance once the baby has arrived. now this maternity allowance is equivilant to £125 a week,which is nowhere near what i used to earn,but i was told i could claim it as i refused to claim job seekers allowance and income support.now i told my sister about it and she started moaning saying oh its ok for people who dont work being able to claim everything under the sun but she hs to live off basic maternity pay for the last 3 months of her maternity leave.this left me really angry as she earns a good wage anyway. now this is the first time i have ever been out of work and i feel really bad that its my husband who is the sole breadwinner.i have never claimed benefits in my life so i cant understand why my sister is bothered that i am going to recieve this maternity allowance.she comes out with comments like peopleshouldnt have children if they can afford them and oh how will yo manage with 3 children when i dont work. she doesnt understand how much she is hurting me with her comments and i really dont understand why she is like this. i have 2 children already with my husband and although we are not well off that is because we put all our money into are children.we moved out of council property and now rent a 4 bedroom house for £800 a month which we really cant afford but we moved here for our children and to give them somewhere nice they can grow up and play safely.our kids are our life and i really dont think i should be judged for wanting another child,just because we are not rich.my sister judges everybody o what they earn and what they are worth.everything revolves around money with he but me and my family are different. i really dont no what to do.she is mking me feel uncomfortable when im around her,but i was really looking forward to us being pregnant atthe same time and doing all the shopping together etc.but she is making me feel so bad about myself.why is she doing this to me? more

Resolved Question: Can someone help me answer these questions?

1. Which phrase best defines economics? a.The study of rational choice under conditions of scarcity b.The study of how people earn and spend money c,The study of how the government distributes scarce goods and services d.The study of how people spend their money 2. Which statement best describes why garbage is not scarce? a.It is costly and hard to dispose of. b.Most people think it is an unappealing good. c,There is more of it than anyone wants. d.There will never be a shortage of garbage. 3. Wendy wants to buy a new car that is advertised for $25,000. At the car dealer, she finds out that there are very few available and if she agreed to pay $34,000 for the car she could be put on the waiting list. What example is represented by this scenario? a.Opportunity cost b.Rational choice c.Profit d.Scarcity 4. Which of the following is the most likely the opportunity cost of taking a job as a lifeguard? a.Suffering bad sunburns b.Not taking a job mowing lawns c.Earning a lot of money d.Not having a job outdoors 5. Yeni has $20. She can use the money to get a new book or buy makeup. She checks her makeup case, and it is full; nothing needs to be replaced. She goes to the nearest bookstore to buy the book. This is an example of: a.rational choice. b.production. c.scarcity. d.opportunity cost. 6. Which of the following people works in the service sector? a.Jenelle, who produces microprocessors for Dell b.Jill, who assembles cars for General Motors c.Julie, who washes hair in a beauty salon d.Jana, who checks packaging at a chicken factory 7. Which statement best describes a model? a.It should present clear directions for students of economics to follow. b.It should describe how the economy is affected by every decision an individual makes. c.It should describe only aspects of the economy that are relevant to the problem being studied. d.It should show how economics affects both businesses and individuals. 8. Economics that is descriptive is known as: a.judgmental economics. b.normative economics. c.positive economics. d.negative economics. 9. Which of the following would an academic economist most likely do? a.Make projections about sales of certain products b.Develop models of the economy c.Study how companies can reduce costs d.Analyze the best combination of resources possible to produce a product 10. Which of the following might a government economist do? a.Collect data on the profitability of selling products in foreign countries b.Collect data on unemployment c.Make forecasts used to launch new products d.Collect data for use in marketing products Please and thank you :) more

Resolved Question: Why are people reacting like this to me?

To begin with, my class was running on the subject of honesty, so I decided to say something, rather than being so placid while time flies. In this case, I said, "Speaking of honesty... Deep beauty may cloak such artful deception." My classmates went into a labyrinth of confusion & started to have different injustice reactions for me as if I was an outsider. In addition, at one point, my classmates asked me a concise question about how many friends do I have currently. I found myself with chide in thoughts & said, "Lonliness will set my mind in hopes of knowledge." Maybe they were under siege or had reverence. Either way, prejudice precisely exists. Please explicate with sensibility. more

Voting Question: how much would a vintage chair from 1979 be worth selling for?

I have 3 vintage 1979 chairs in [what i would consider] good condition. I would like to sell them but i have no idea what model or design they are. I looked under the chair and all i could find was a stamp on each one which has the date of june 4th 1979 and the numer 23 right under neath it. I cant find a designer name or model. Ive been doing some research and most chairs in that year and similar to nime are sold for up to hundreds of dollars how ever I cant find a chair exactly like the ones I have. How much can I sell my awesome vintage chairs for? i have pictures of the chairs if any one would like to see and help me figure out the value of the chairs. PLEASE ONLY PEOPLE WITH REAL INFORMATION AND KNOWLEDGE IN VINTAGE ITEMS NEED REPLY. THANK YOU :) more

Voting Question: need help summarizing please!?

Doctors who are atheist or agnostic are almost twice as likely as their religious counterparts to make medical choices that can end a terminally ill patient's life more quickly, a new British study reveals. "The religious beliefs of British doctors influence how they provide care for dying people," concludes study author Clive Seale, a professor of medical sociology at the Centre for Health Sciences in Barts and The London School of Medicine and Dentistry at Queen Mary University of London. For example, "religious doctors are less likely to report having taken decisions which they expected or partly intended to shorten patients' lives, such as withdrawing life-sustaining treatments," Seale noted. "[And] in the few times they do take such decisions, they are less likely to say they discussed this with the patient." Seale reports the findings in the Aug. 26 online edition of the Journal of Medical Ethics. To gain insight into the issue, Seale analyzed nearly 4,000 survey responses regarding end-of-life care and religious beliefs, completed between 2007 and 2008 by working doctors residing in the United Kingdom. Those polled included representatives from a wide range of fields, including neurologists, general practitioners, public health physicians and specialists in elder care and palliative medicine. Each doctor was asked to reveal his or her religious background and beliefs, ethnicity, opinions regarding the use of sedation, and stance regarding the ongoing legal debate concerning assisted dying. Each was also asked to discuss their experience with the most recent patient who died while under their care. Seale found that those doctors who focused on elder care were somewhat more likely to be Asian and to identify as Hindu or Muslim. Those in palliative care were more likely to be white, identify as Christian, and describe themselves as "religious." General practitioners, Seale noted, did not appear to be more likely to hold strong religious beliefs in general. This finding stood in contrast to prior research that focused on the backgrounds of American general practitioners and found that as a group they were more likely to be "religious." Although ethnicity did not seem to play a significant role in the decision-making process regarding controversial ethical issues, in general white physicians (who were the largest group) were the least likely to describe themselves as having strong religious beliefs and the most likely to support legal changes that allow for physician participation in assisted-dying scenarios. Non-white and non-Asian physicians were more likely to stand in opposition to assisted dying, as were palliative care doctors as a whole. Regardless of specialty, those doctors who described themselves as "very or extremely" non-religious were generally more likely to have incorporated sedation into the treatment of dying patients, and twice as likely as religious doctors to have been involved in decisions intended to hasten the end of life. Doctors in hospital specialties were about 10 times more likely to say they had been involved in a decision that was expected to hasten the end of life than palliative care physicians were. In fact, the latter group, irrespective of religious stance, was the least likely overall to have engaged in such decisions, Seale found. As has been observed in American research, Seale observed that very religious doctors of all ethnicities were less likely to discuss options intended to help hasten the end of life for their patients, even if the patient was capable of having such a discussion. Seale suggested that all doctors, whether religious or not, should make a greater effort to consider how their personal perspectives might impact both doctor-patient interactions and the overall decision-making process regarding treatment. "I believe doctors and patients need to be more aware of the part played by care providers' beliefs and values when they plan care towards the end of life," he said. Dr. R. Sean Morrison, president of the American Academy of Hospice and Palliative Medicine and director of the National Palliative Care Research Center, agreed that a doctor's personal perspective matters. "Physicians have feelings," he said. "Physicians have beliefs. And those feelings and beliefs can influence some of the advice and decisions they make. But the key is not to let those feelings and beliefs guide your care, but to recognize when it's happening and how it might be in conflict with the patient's best interests." In that regard, Morrison, who is also vice chair of research in the Brookdale department of geriatrics and palliative medicine at Mount Sinai School of Medicine in New York City, noted that medical schools have begun to address this issue, to sensitize physicians to such conflicts of interest. more

Open Question: Mexican Occupation of America?

Do you believe that the Mexican Occupation of American is a threat to American society? Everything is coming out with duel languages from milk to toilet paper, to store advertisements to restaurant menus, to DVDs and crayon boxes. I can understand people who can not read English need some extra help, but to replace or add to what we see in daily life all over the country is crazy. The money used on merchandise for extra printing, and extra printing of Spanish makes the English words smaller to read. Is this money and ink worth using? You got more illegals here and Obama is allowing this, to replace the legal people who deserve more priority. You see the evidence all around if you live here. Not only in what we read when buying things, but with all the American citizens out of jobs because of illegals taking them. We all know it. We all know people affected by loosing a job and not finding one. We all are tired trying to read something important but having to skim to find the right line in all of the Spanish words present on the labels/manuals. Nothing against Mexicans or people who speak Spanish. No. Nothing wrong with people coming to this country to gain a better education. Nothing wrong with that. The problems the people coming here just to use up our resources and society. I know of some areas with almost a dozen illegals live in the same house and they all do jobs that teenagers or out of work adults should be doing. They (not all, but easiest pronoun for me at the moment) can not speak or read English (I saw a guy go into one of those driving schools with an interpreter to read road signs!!), get jobs that out of work citizens need (outsourcing is just as much fault as illegals), and taxes are used to support them. Would you even consider this a prejudice issue or an issue of American heritage and standards? Heck, this country was founded under Christian principles and you got people building monuments of false gods, slapping the families of 9/11 in the face with it. Now, I need your thoughts and opinions about this please. Curious how some Yahoos will consider this country’s status. Thank you for your input. more

Voting Question: What Do I do about an Evil Mother In Law?

Okay so i have a pretty major issue here involving a mean and negative mother in law that I am living with. 1. The first 3 weeks after I had moved in with my boyfriend she started making comments about how I was a bad mother. Around this time she also complained about me doing laundry on the wrong day. And then stated that I walked around like I was the queen of the house (not sure how this is true when I stayed in my room the whole time just to avoid her). And after those comments she even has the audacity to call ME disrespectful because I allowed my bfs niece (who btw is allowed to do whatever she wants anyway) prank call the mother in law. 2. She is always mean to my bf when she does not get her way. When he would not drop her off at work one day when he had to stay late at his work she cynically replied "oh that just figures now that you are with her". okay well its not my bfs job to shauffer her around she is well capable of driving but does not want to because she is "scared". well in that case it should be her husbands job to haul her lazy butt around. 3.She complains about EVERY little thing that she can find. I cleaned the kitchen extremely thoroughly for her and she complained that I threw out her moldy food. Well i wouldnt have to be the one cleaning the kitchen if she got off her lazy butt once and awhile and did something. 3. The father in law ALWAYS has to be cooked for at lunch time so I can never cook for my boyfriend (I really enjoy cooking) and the kitchen is too small and always cluttered for two people to be cooking. I wont eat her food because she cooks everything in lard and I would rather not get heart disease since it runs in my family. So I guess ill be sticking to eating sandwiches. 3. It has been getting worse. For the last couple of days she has been complaining every little thing I do. I accidently left the oven on for an extra 10 minutes and she said "why do you leave the oven on you dont pay the gas bill". Yesterday I left the colander too close to the burner and it melted a small hole in the top. She took the colander and held in front of my face saying "you see this? NO GOOD!" (Btw her English is really bad) then threw it away. then she started calling me a retard and cussing under her breath. When I wasnt looking she took the colander out of the garbage because it was perfectly usable still and she just wanted to make look bad. She has even called me a ***** before. 4. She controls my boyfriend. When he grew a goatee once his mother said "men in my family dont have those" (uhhhh okay?) When he shaved his mustache off once she said "you do everything she tells you. you look stupid". She mooches off of him and tells him what to do with his money. When he was going to give me money one time to go get clothes for HIM he had to take me outside so that she would not see him give me money. 5. His mom always goes crying to his sisters when something does not go her way (btw she cries quite frequently to get the family to feel sorry for her). So his sisters gave me an hour long lecture pointing out as much sh*t as they could find to make me look bad and even implying that my bf could do better than me. 6. He always wants everyone in his family to be okay with him even if that means that they are getting aways with murder. His siblings mooch off of him even though they make good money and he will not say anything. I love my bfs nieces but my bf is paying for them to eat everyday almost and his sibling do not even help him pay for the food (his brother owns two $50,000 dollar cars btw yet he cant help my bf pay for HIS kids food). His youngest sisters car is under my boyfriends name and she rarely makes the payments on time and does not seem to care that she is ruining my boyfriends credit (why would you have a car that you cant afford in the first place). He never says anything about this either. His siblings seem very selfish to me. These leechs are sucking my bf dry! 7. I got along amazingly well with my ex mother in law. So I KNOW its not me because even when I ignore this crazy ungrateful B*TCH she still finds ways to treat me like **** as well as my bf. I kid you not in the 3 months I have lived with my bf I have seen this lady smile ONCE and I think it was fake. I am currently going through a divorce because of domestic violence and life is hard enough without being harassed constantly. I really am not sure what to do because my boyfriends name as well as the mother in law and father in laws names are all on the house so we cant move. If my boyfriend moved out and gave the house to his parents they would not be able to make the payments and the house would go to the bank. Right now I am not sure I want to stay with my boyfriend because of all this. Its just more stress than i need. I love my boyfriend and he is an amzing guy but I am just not sure if it is worth it anymore. more

Voting Question: So how do I address my parents about my possible bladder problem?

Okay so I guess when it comes to peeing and pooping (I'm too lazy to go and use all the scientific forms) I've never been perfectly healthy... Well, usually when it comes to pee, everything is fine... but when I poop, sometimes and it's a really big one and it you know... takes an effort to get it out... I'll often see some blood swirling around in the toilet. My moms a nurse, and I was super embarrassed when I asked her about it but she told me it was just cause the poop was large and painful, and yeah... But I'm 13, and I don't know if it makes me sound like a pervert, but I get kind of horny or whatever, super easily. At least that's what I thought... and I masturbate like, twice weekly... maybe more maybe less sometimes... Okay so when I masturbate I never insert things, I just don't enjoy that, I go under a water faucet just turn the water on lukewarm and let it hit... it feels nice but I guess unlike most people, I stop shortly after my orgasm begins... I guess I don't like the feeling... A few seconds of it is great but then after wards I just hate it, it feels overwhelming and it's also when the whole, I'm a Christian, I don't even know if I should be doing this, thing hits me... But then in a few days I'm back doing it again and the cycle repeats and repeats... It's the same with cyber sex, which I do once a week or so, and also sometimes I even enjoy it more than masturbating, it makes me horny... and I don't know... But anyways, when lately I get this tingly feeling that usually indicates I have to go pee, and then I sit down on the toilet and hardly anything comes out, I was thinking maybe I'm just getting horny and mistaking it for the fact that I have to use the washroom... But how could I get horny while I'm just eating supper with my family, or petting my cat, or watching SpongeBob on tv??? And also, when I actually for real pee, after a few seconds of it coming out, I get this tingly horny feeling... Today it annoyed me and usually if I just get horny when I'm sitting somewhere around the house or something I just sit on my heel and kind of jam it into my vagina... Kind of what someone does also when they're trying to hold in their pee... Only today I just used my hand covered in toilet paper and just pressed myself hard... and my nails aren't long and it wa sin toilet paper... but now, I keep getting this "have to go pee" sensation like every 5 to 10 minutes, and then when I go, I pee the smallest bit, and there's often a bit of blood, and the pee looks cloudy. This is the adult symptoms for urinary tract disease.... And that's also what someone on here informed me I might have... and that if I don't do someting about it, it can turn into kidney disease... My vagina doesn't hurt, it just tingles and it's annoying, feeling like you have to go pee almost every second of the day, and I just peed a little like, 15 minutes ago, and now it feels like I totally have to go again, but I'm not even gonna bother... How am I gonna do this when school starts? I can't go to the restroom every 20 minutes... I really want to ask my parents, specifically my mom about this, but I don't really want my dad, or especially my older sister to find out... she's the kind who would write on facebook for everyone to see "HAHA! I just found out my sister has problems with her bladder!" once she shared with everyone about how my mom had just went into her period and was being all cranky. Speaking of periods, I also haven't had mine and am not expecting to have it for another year or so... when I'm 14, just like my mom and my sister. and also if I go to my doctor, who is a male... will he have to examine my butt or anything????? And also, I don't want to tell my mom that this might be because I'm masturbating, because we're a Christian family, and even though I'm not sure if it's okay for Christians to masturbate or anything, I do it anyways, and my mom might get mad at me if she found out I did... I don't want my mom thinking I'm some horny kid or anything... But I'm gonna stop masturbating... but for now...how do I tell my mom about this so I can get seen by a doctor before this could possibly turn bad? By the way, the have to go pee sensation but then not really actually going has lasted for like 5 days, only today it's at it's worse... and I haven't masturbated in a while... and also I've masturbated for like a month but have only been seeing problems for a few days, like I said. And the bleeding has only been for today... So I might wait a while to see if it continues before telling my mom.Sorry it's so long but one more thing... I can't really remember the last time I had a bowel movement??? more

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