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Mike Bianchi: College-football scandals pale in comparison to FAMU band case

Running off at the typewriter ... Sadly, the FAMU band-hazing death that took place during last year's Florida Classic at the Florida Citrus Bowl is, tragically, turning into the biggest intercollegiate-sports scandal this state has ever seen. Band ...

NCAA college athletics department finances database

The best way to use the data is to compare a school's expenses over time to see how ... NCAA staff members have worked with the National Association of College and University Business Officers for formulate definitions for each category.

DoubleClick co-founder targets publishers with content-meets-commerce service

Backed by $6 million from Kleiner, Perkins Caufield & Byers, FindTheBest is a comparison engine for everything from gadgets to sports equipment to financial advisors and colleges. Powered by a combination of proprietary technology and human ...

College-football scandals pale in comparison to FAMU band case

This is disgraceful. How can the leaders at Florida A&M have so little oversight over the one entity — the Marching 100 — that the school is known for worldwide? Can you imagine Florida or Florida State having 100 football players on their ...

Study finds setbacks for young autistic adults

CHICAGO — One in 3 young adults with autism have no paid job experience or college or technical education nearly ... employment or education beyond high school. Those figures compare with 26% of mentally disabled young adults, 7% of young ...

N.C. gov race: Democrat Dalton challenges GOP’s McCrory to series of debates

Speaking at Central Piedmont Community College in Charlotte, Dalton said voters could compare their respective plans and records on jobs and education by watching the debates, including one at CPCC in September. These face-offs would be in addition to ...

College meerkat’s beyond compare

TARANTULAS, cobras and an armadillo were among the stars of an animal encounter day at Askham Bryan College. The event on Saturday aimed to showcase the creatures, facilities and courses at the college, and featured opportunities to handle various reptiles ...

The Legacy of West Virginia Basketball Head Coach Bob Huggins

Huggins should be talked about more in comparison to the likes of Jim Calhoun ... always remaining competitive in one of the top conferences in college basketball. Huggins is WVU basketball and he brings a great deal of pride to the state of West Virginia.

Writer: 'Texas A&M's new athletic director needs two coaches to succeed'

two sports struggled on the national stage in comparison. Football and basketball are the major components of any athletic institution with credibility these days and as Robert Cessna of The Bryan-College Station Eagle writes, it will take success from ...

Open Question: 2005 Audi A6 vs 2004 Infiniti G35x vs 2007 Lincoln MKZ vs 2003 Jaguar S-type R vs 2006 Chrysler 300C need help?

please help me choose the best car from the cars i listed above. Hi, I'm turning senior year for college this September, and I decided to buy a car. My budget is 10K (excluding maintenance fee), but because I'm only going to drive it for 10 months and then will sell the car (i'm an international student, so i will sell the car after i graduate), i thought why not buy the best bang for the buck car under 10K. Because I have a baseball practice every weekend and will need to pick up members, i need a mid-size sedan with a reasonable amount of trunk space. Because I'm going to drive less than 10K, I decided not to worry about the mileage that much. So I looked at various used car websites and came across these cars: 2005 Audi A6 3.2 quattro with 100200 miles for $10,000 2004 Infiniti G35x with 110800 miles for $9,500 2007 Lincoln MKZ with 92850 miles for $9,990 2003 Jaguar S-type R with 94000 miles for $9,300 2006 Chrysler 300C with 96000 miles for $10,000 Cars are all stock - no modifications All cars have been serviced regularly - which means regular oil changes, regular dealer maintenance and those stuff They all have clean title, but G35x and S-type R had an accident before These cars all look fabulous for me, but I did some online research and found out some pros and cons for all these vehicles. I know that Jaguar has low reliability but I'm really attracted to that V8. Chrysler has low reliability too but I want to experience that HEMI engine before i go back to my home country G35x is an all-round car but the styling is too normal A6 looks awesome and has really nice high-tech toys but i heard its unreliable after 100,000miles Lincoln MKZ's V6 3.0 engine is underpowered compared to other cars that I'm thinking. in terms of reliability, i know that infiniti is the best, but i cant decide. I have a part-time job so i don't care about the fuel economy or small maintenance fees - i will cover that with my money and love. I just want to know if I can choose one of these and I will be safe for another 10000miles without any major breakdowns. I'm planning 2 long distance trips also - from Indianapolis to Boston and from Indianapolis to Atlanta. So I don't want my car to break down in the middle of highway and end up having to pay alot of money for repairs. So, please help me decide - which car in your opinion, is the best? Which car do you think will go safe for another 10000 miles without major repairs? Currently the car that I'm interested the most is Jaguar S-type R, but what do you guys think?? Oh, and please don't say stuff like - just buy a toyota camry or chevy covalt or sth like that- this is my only opportunity to spend 10K on mid-size luxury sedan and I don't want to miss this chance. Thank you! more

Open Question: are these or significance in a custody battle?

man Your Question I'm seeking full custody of my son I am wondering what all I can use in court to show that I the better parent? I will keep this as brief as I can while comparing and contrasting. I have joint custody of my son where I get him 3 days a week every weeks. I have never failed to get my child and never ask the mother to deviate from the designated meeting point of which we have agreed. She has on many occassions showed up 30 mins or more late or has failed to show to pick up or drop my son off as she is supposed to. She is currently on trial for a felony for a concealed weapon that she tried to hide because she hangs around "thugs". She doesn't have a stable living environment for my son and is very ghetto and disrespectful. I go to school( college) and am a veteran receiving the post 9 11 gi bill currently with a 3.6 gpa and have a steady income while living and maintaining the same living quarters for the past 15 months. I have tried to reason with her to have her focus on the "child" and not make everything about her and have been forced to go back to court because she simply won't hold up her end of the joint custody deal and I feel that she is not financially, emotionally, or spiritually stable enough to take on the task of raising my son. A more important note is that she has twice now performed custodial interference and kept my child from me. The more recent event concluded with me calling the cops and her being very apologetic. Also, its has been 15 months of me having joint custody and the order is not "officially complete" because she refuses to turn in her financial information and consistently changes her number and is hard to locate because she moves around. Are these issues something that can be in my favor? Can her having a record of her negligence of turning in needed information of importance a factor in my case? Finally, would me not having a criminal record of any sort have any impact that would benefit me in the judges eyes as opposed to the mother already having a record including a felony charge and not responding to citations? Any input would be greatly appreciated . Thank you all!on the 30 mins late or more issue for the most part she always asked me to drop him off to her because she is at a hotel party or hanging out with friends which I find unacceptable. However, her not having a job or pursuing her "GED" or "high school" diploma deliberately I feel puts my son in an at risk status due to her choosing to live below low income. more

Open Question: what can work in my favor in court(full custody of my son)?

Open Question: I'm seeking full custody of my son I am wondering what all I can use in court to show that I the better parent?

I will keep this as brief as I can while comparing and contrasting. I have joint custody of my son where I get him 3 days a week every weeks. I have never failed to get my child and never ask the mother to deviate from the designated meeting point of which we have agreed. She has on many occassions showed up 30 mins or more late or has failed to show to pick up or drop my son off as she is supposed to. She is currently on trial for a felony for a concealed weapon that she tried to hide because she hangs around "thugs". She doesn't have a stable living environment for my son and is very ghetto and disrespectful. I go to school( college) and am a veteran receiving the post 9 11 gi bill currently with a 3.6 gpa and have a steady income while living and maintaining the same living quarters for the past 15 months. I have tried to reason with her to have her focus on the "child" and not make everything about her and have been forced to go back to court because she simply won't hold up her end of the joint custody deal and I feel that she is not financially, emotionally, or spiritually stable enough to take on the task of raising my son. A more important note is that she has twice now performed custodial interference and kept my child from me. The more recent event concluded with me calling the cops and her being very apologetic. Also, its has been 15 months of me having joint custody and the order is not "officially complete" because she refuses to turn in her financial information and consistently changes her number and is hard to locate because she moves around. Are these issues something that can be in my favor? Can her having a record of her negligence of turning in needed information of importance a factor in my case? Finally, would me not having a criminal record of any sort have any impact that would benefit me in the judges eyes as opposed to the mother already having a record including a felony charge and not responding to citations? Any input would be greatly appreciated . Thank you all! more

Open Question: am I a loser? I don't know...I feel so crappy right now...?

I'm 22 years old. I still haven't graduated college, and I will be in school for a while, because I took a semester off (because I suffered a bad stroke and seizure in December) and I turned in my portfolio for the graphic design program, and I didn't get accepted. It was a huge blow, but I am going to try next year and people keep telling me how strong I am to even complete my portfolio after my health incident. My parents, friends and boyfriend are trying to tell me it's not the end of the world, and to keep fighting for it if I really want it. Which I do. It's my passion. A lot of people tell me I am talented, and not just the ones who are close to me. I just don't take rejection very well. Graphic design at Sacramento State (where I currently attend school) is also super competitive. Everyone tells me that I am still young and have a lot of time, but I guess I compare myself to the people our age that have graduated in 4 years from UC schools and are very successful academically. My boyfriend is going to graduate at UC Davis from being in college for 5 years, but that is still better than taking 7-8 years like I am (I'm also taking long because of my health issues, and my dad's health issues...). Also, I have lupus. It's gotten worse over the years, and I have had to take this drug called prednisone for a while. I hate how it's made me gain 20 pounds (I'm 5'6" and weigh 140), made my hair really thin but gave me more facial hair...I mean, I already have really low self esteem about my looks but my lupus makes me feel so much uglier. It has made me feel better health wise, but the side effects are taking a toll on my looks. I always feel that whenever people talk about ugly people being discriminated against in society, I always wonder if I am one of those plain/ugly people. I was bullied a lot when I was younger, especially in middle school. But I can't be that bad if I have a boyfriend and had a lot of exes in the past right? Sometimes people tell me I'm pretty but not all the time anymore. My driver's license has been suspended ever since I had that seizure in December, and since then my dad and boyfriend had to drive me everywhere to my school to be able to talk to my professors about my work and to get critiques, they had to take me to my doctors appointments and errands, and basically everywhere when I could've easily gone by myself. My doctors didn't tell me that by law (in California) that getting a seizure means an automatic 3 month suspension. My rhumetologist keeps saying that she will let me drive in a few weeks, but everytime I see her she wants to keep delaying it for a few months "just to be sure I'm getting better". I know it's for my own safety and for the safety of other drivers, but I feel so helpless with having to be driven everywhere now, especially because my dad has cancer (and that is why I am taking longer to finish school, so I can help take care of him and helping him with my autistic sister) and often times feels very weak and in pain. With the way my doctor keeps delaying me getting my license back, I feel like I will never ever get it back again. Also, I try to be friendly and not overbearing. I just feel bad because I don't have a magnetic charming personality that makes friends easily (like my boyfriend's sister, or my sister). I mean I have a lot of acquaintances but a core group of close friends. It takes a while for me to get to know people and become really close. I do have a lot of friends, but I am not super outgoing. I try not to be too nice because I don't want to feel like I'm trying too hard, and I don't want to trust others easily. But I also can't help but wonder if I give off the vibe that I lack confidence...that's what one of my friends said a few years ago. That I am really quiet and give the vibe of being so unsure of myself. I don't know... I am trying to look at the positive things about my life...I am getting better health wise, I'll be going back to Sac State in the Fall and not being in the design program allows me to work on my portfolio for next year and take some required general ed classes, I had lots of people try to cheer me up when they found out I didn't get accepted...but it still really hurts...it's also really hard to find good qualities about yourself when you've been bullied and hurt by people you thought were your friends, or guys you thought "loved" you, or when your well meaning mom criticizes you (she says it's to build me up and pushme to be better, but sometimes the way she says it hurts me crazily and makes me feel never good enough) I just hope it's not too late to achieve all that I can and still be the best I can be... :( sorry this is so long...all these answers are really good. Thanks everyone. I've just been feeling very down, but I know what doesn't kill me make me stronger. The fact that I turned in my portfolio even though I got sick, even though I had to redo a lot of my projects by myself (because my school is 20 minutes from where I live, and I couldn't go there all the time because of my suspended license, and my boyfriend and dad were not able to take me all the time), really says something. I'll also remember the times in my life when I failed but was able to get back on my feet and try again (ex: when I didn't get my license the first 2 tests, but barely passed on the 3rd test...not getting on the cheer team at my community college the 1st time I tried out, but finally getting in a year later) more

Open Question: Is a 15 year old not suppose to drink bud light ?

So I went along with my 19 year old brother to a party,cos I was bored with the typical 15 year old parties;soda,pools,kissing only ,and pizza,and loud music , and I wanted something more grown up.my brother let me come along with him and his buddies and I kind of got lost the second we stepped in the house because other Guys I dont know pulled my brother away so I was just wandering anywhere with my phone out to look distracted,lol xD I looked so pathetic compared to those "adults" anyway this weird looking guy with a varcity jacket offered me bud light and said he will give me five bucks.i just said ok because I don't wanna look uncool,u know ... I just drank not all of it and I spotted my brother and I just scooted my way I him and literally clinger on. I got to see college girls strip dance, live :D I feel manliest than myfriends. Anyway, I forgot in the 17th were getting our yearly blood tests so will it show up?alzo in my pee (DAFUQ?!) an is it illegal? I didn't feel different after drinking that :POh my god will the police search for me!!!!!damn lol but I dont regret anything ~_~ college girls ... more

Open Question: Is a 15 year old not suppose to drink bud light o.o?

Open Question: Job doesn't fit my personality. Should I stick it out or find something else?

I've been working for my insurance agent in his small office for the past 3 weeks. It's supposed to be for the summer. When I took the job, I underestimated how much talking to people I'd have to be doing--and the problem is that I don't really like talking to people that much because I'm more of an introvert. I have to call people and tell them that they owe us money (basically collections work, which isn't terrible but not the most fun either). I'm one class away from graduating college. And I haven't had a job for the past few years so I've been scraping money trying to get by. I know that I need to have a job. And it's nice to have some extra spending cash now. But my feelings about this job are bi-polar; one day I think it's not so bad, the next I'm frustrated and stressed out. I know this job is good for experience, but the way the office runs and how I was trained is too sporadic for me. I feel so insignificant when people call and I can't answer their questions because there's a lot that I don't know or can't help with. Ideally, I'd like to work with animals. And there's this other job working at a kennel that seems like it would be more enjoyable. The problem is though, that it pays crap(compared to what I'm paid now which isn't so bad) and it's a job that a high schooler could do. I feel bad doing that when I'm almost a college graduate and feel like I should be aiming higher. I feel like if I went for that job it would be a 'grass is greener on the other side' thing. I'm really stumped on what to do. I don't really know what I want to do after college for work. Any advice would be helpful though. Thanks. more

Open Question: Gay friends jealous and overreacting over my girlfriend?

I am gonna be blunt. I am pretty much wrapping up college and am on year 5. I really enjoyed school and must say it was god compared to my social life in high school. I only have on problem that came up as of late. Now to start when I started college at 19. I was sexually curious since I was 12, so I figured it be great to explore in college. I made a lot of gay friends. Not to take advantage, we just became good friends because we talked all the time. Pretty much me and 4 other guys. Now to save time and to keep it PG13 for this question. In my first two years of being with them. There was a lot of sex. It was only for fun and we did it maybe about a good month or two each time. It was a polygamistic relationship. But I will say it was 110 percent worth it. I've been a pitcher and a catcher and it wasn't meaningless sex. I honestly enjoyed it because of the people I slept with and not just because they had a penis and a nice @ss. Now the last two years I have had a girlfriend and we recently had sex. I love her and I believe this is the person I want to be with after school is over. my friends are not so happy with me. I am no cheater and honestly think they wanted me for sex and don't respect my choice of having a relationship. One guy told me that he thinks I'm hiding behind a woman for social reasons and don't wanna be with a guy. That's funny because these men have no boyfriends. They always screw each other. I used to do that with them, but times change. I will still be their friend, but they need to understand I am with someone right now. Simply I've matured. Enjoyed my time with these guys. But I found someone whom I can spend my life with and maybe have a family with. I'm a grown up now. I will hang with them, but the sex days are over. more

Open Question: LGBT: College drama my friends vs my girlfriend?

Open Question: Becoming a Freelance Architect?

I have some questions about working freelance, or beginning my own "firm", in architecture. I have always aspired to be an architect but did not like anything that would require me to have a boss, be on task with other workers, etc. in the long term. I was leaning towards being an entrepeneur, but then realized that a freelance architect may be the choice for me after a cousin who is extremely successful in his own business told me "do what you love". I just have a couple questions regarding it. -Can you do freelancing right after college, or should you first work in a firm no matter what? -This one might sound a little materialistic, but-- How is the pay compared to someone working for a company? -Generally how hard is the process? If I learn some about business and get my B.Arch or M.Arch, will it be hard, or even possible? -How many architects work alone? Thanks everyone! more

Open Question: (For those who got into Stanford,MIT,etc ) How can you practice writing a college admission essay as ?

I know it sounds weird but I am a freshman and obviously have college aspirations. I am seriously doing the best I can as a freshman to prepare for a competitive college. I know that a good admission essay is crucial for getting into a competitive university, but for those who got into the top US universities, what do admission officers really look for in these essays ? Can a freshman like me start practicing these kinds of essays ? Also, did your university look at your freshman grades and compare them with other applicant's freshman grades ? I ask because I had a very high B+ in Honors Freshman English last semester and I am anxious if this will mar any of my college aspirations.Last semester, I had A's everywhere else except for English to clarify that second to last sentence more

Open Question: 13" MacBook Pro Specs vs. 15" MacBook Pro Specs?

I am near purchasing a Mac (don't tell me not to, that's not what the question is about) and am debating whether or not to purchase a 13" or 15". As far as price goes, I'm in a position where that will not affect my decision. What I am considering is the performance of each computer. I'm not dumb enough to believe that I'm going to experience major "lag" in "basic" applications such as Garage Band based on my choice, however, I would like to play games on this computer. The selection of games may include (but isn't limited to): Skyrim, Minecraft, and Portal 2. What I'm wondering is, based on my selection of MacBook Pro (13" or 15") would the specs be varying to the point that there would be a noticeable drop in performance, as far as gaming goes? Also, the reason why I'm considering buying a 13" over a 15" is because I've heard from family members that 15" laptops don't fit on a desk in college, during which I still intend to use my MacBook. Thanks! Also, if you need it, here (http://www.apple.com/macbookpro/specs-compare.html) you can find the specs of the laptops, side-by-side. Although I should probably just analyze those, I can't really add 2+2 when it comes to understanding computer specs. So, please, do it for me, and I'll give you a best answer.1. Broken linkThe actual link ishttp://www.apple.com/macbookpro/specs-compare.htmlI accidentally added a parentheses.2.I know screen size has nothing to do with performance, but the different models are released with different specs, I believe, to some extent, or else Apple wouldn't create a page solely for comparing models of the MacBook Pro.3.I don't care if Mac is a ripoff.4.I don't have the intention of purely gaming, I have the main intention of working and becoming educated, however, as I said, the difference in specs wouldn't affect, say, how well my word processor performed; however, it may affect how well a game performs, and I am intending to do some amount of gaming on my new mac.5.As I said, I'm terrible at analyzing specs. Which I why I posted for answers here. I thought the idea of this community was to post questions about topics you didn't understand so those with knowledge of how that thing works could provide the answers for you, sim more

Open Question: My mom won't get me a dog and I KNOW I can take full care of it. How can I convince my mom to get me one?

I really want a dog and I'm going to college in 4 years but my littler brother could take care of it. She says she doesn't have enough money to keep it but I think I could go online and compare prices. Also, it will help me get back in shape and it will keep me company. The dog would cost 225 dollars from a local pet shelter and we still need a fence. Is it worth it or should I drop it, but if I drop it I would keep asking. What should I do? more

Open Question: Film and Animation double major?

I was wondering if there are colleges or universities that would allow me to do this? When i mean film and animation i mean them as separate degrees as in i study film and animation separately, they may interconnect and benefit each other, but it's not one degree, it's two just to clarify. And also how much would it cost for the double major compared to studying one degree? By the way i want to do hand drawn or traditional animation not 3d, and i also don't want to do classes online, but you are welcome to put any suggestions you want. And i would also prefer schools around New York, New Jersey, and Pennsylvania, but i'll be happy to take other suggestions from other schools in other states. Thank You more

Open Question: This is what a former navy seal said?

Jesse Ventura. This guy admits to smoking pot. Even says it should be legal. So how come when a college grad wants to take a puff, everyone thinks they're a loser? Or how come in some states, it is a felony just for having a little bit!!!! And the punishment is worse for having a small amount of pot, compared to beating someone nearly to death!?He was a Navy Seal and Governor too ya know more

Open Question: Jesse Ventura? Navy Seal, Wrestler, Politician?

This guy admits to smoking pot. Even says it should be legal. So how come when a college grad wants to take a puff, everyone thinks they're a loser? Or how come in some states, it is a felony just for having a little bit!!!! And the punishment is worse for having a small amount of pot, compared to beating someone nearly to death!? more

Open Question: Jesse Ventura? Navy Seal, Wrestler?

Open Question: What Health Career should I go into?

I am a freshman at a good community college and plan on transferring to UCLA, Berkeley or some UC. HOwever, I am not sure what I am going to major in or do when I am older. I know that the health industry is a good one to get into right now because health professionals are needed. I am not sure though, what I want to do. I will give some background info I am 19 I guess ethnicity counts-- I am black and mexican I have a 3.8 gpa --- 1 B that messed up my gpa :( I want to volunteer at a hospital (hopefully the UCLA care extenders program) I have taken physical anthropology, art history, geography, english 2 (AP CLASSES psychology, sociology, world history, english 1), I am taking statistics and theater history right now. ( I will most likely get A's in both) For the summer/fall semesters I plan on taking art,bio, chem, nutrition, Child psych, and poli sci. Do you think I am on the right track? I am thinking I want to become a physicians assistant, or if I really could do it, a physician, The only thing is that I know it's time consuming and I am afraid I can't compete with other people. I have had a lot of people tell me I should do one of the two, but I have the tendency to compare myself to others and it doesn't help the situation, I was hoping you guys could give me an unbiased answer for me Thanks more

Open Question: i feel like a failure in life?

Hey , i'm 16 ,nearly 17 and today i was thinking on the way back from the gym on the bus about my life , how my college is going etc compared to everyone else i know . Im in the first year of college and im doing a sports fitness coaching course. I consider myself as a bright lad aswell as others say i am aswell . Due to several reasons im sort of not doing well , i joined the course late because i left a games design course which i thought wasn't right for me so i left quickly so i still had a chance . I was already behind work due to that but then i got a 'STY' on my eye , which i had for six months and it made me self consious , so i started to not come in at days at a time which made me even further behind work. I had an operation tog et rid of the cyst which was left behind recently but another reason i didn't bother coming in was like 'whats the point? im too far behind anyway' etc and i dont go in that often but recently i have started to get back on track , but im only going for passes because i wont have enough time as college finishes in a month and a half. I will probably finish it but then i dont think i will do it next year . Which leaves me stuck? i dont have a clue what i want to do . my best grade in school was a 4 D* in media which is basiclly 4 A*'s but i look around and i want to make something out of my life , i want to have a nice house in a nice location , be able to afford the things i like ,when i have children give them a good life and not have money problems,i feel stupid compared to my girlfriend because shes really bright and is doing her A levels and i just feel really dumb. I seriously dont have a clue what to do , another college course,apprentaship,job, i dont have a clue , can anyone just help me here with options and just re-assure me? thanks :) more

Open Question: pressured into marriage, what to do?

The amazing thing with this relationship is that I WANT to get married to my girlfriend. We've been dating for nearly 4 1/2 years( I am now 27, her 26). I have been very happy with her, as we helped better each other through school ( her through college, me through law school). I literally passed the bar exam 2 weeks ago, but at this point I do not have a job. I do not have the finances to buy her a ring yet, but once I get a job I intend on saving for it, and I want to get the best ring I think that would fit her. I was hoping that by the end of this year, assuming I get a job while living at home still I can save the money, and then 1 1/2 to 2 years later from THAT point we can get married. I luckily do not have any student loans to pay as my parents took care of those finances for me, yet she is stuck with $50,000+ in student loans to pay off, which she has refinanced and will likely double that by the time is all paid off. Jobs are scarce at this point, even in the legal field. Note although I have passed the bar, I will not be admitted as a full fledged attorney for a few more months. The real problem lies with her family and her home life. My gf, her father, &mother live together in one home, but they do not have any serious money to pay for a wedding. Her dad is a total jerk who does not pay for any expenses other than the house, electric & plumbing. He does not provide food nor anything else. Her mom does not work and collects disability as she has cancer (stage 4). My gf really wishes for her mother to be at her wedding, which I cannot argue at all as I would want the same. Her mother's condition has not gotten worse, but its unclear how long she may last. She was diagnosed with this level of cancer 2 years ago. I am not opposed to getting married, but it is simply the timing of it. Her mother's health weighs heavily on her, & on me. I have tried to compromise by saying we would throw a large engagement party (almost wedding-like) so that her mother has the opportunity to see her daughter engaged. I even gave her the option ( which I'm not even crazy about) to get married in city hall first and live separate & apart until we have the real large religious wedding with family & all so that at least her mother can see that, assuming we are engaged first ( I find it extremely stupid & pointless to get an engagement ring AFTER you have been married by law already). The idea on my end would be her mother would rest in peace knowing her daughter is in good hands for the future, meanwhile it allows us both save money for a potential large wedding & the financial flexibility to buy a condo. I do not believe renting out is a smart financial plan, knowing the money is being thrown away while also paying off her student loans & other expenses. Her father has also stated he plans on moving out and selling the home once the mother passes, leaving my gf with no where to go.Note also my family is quite large compared to hers ( think "my big fat greek wedding"). I do not want a quick throw together wedding. I want the large wedding with all my friends, family & all included in the special day. I want the best for us, to start off right on a good note with no serious debt, with the opportunity to save money from the time we get engaged. I do not want to rent out an apartment as in roughly a year and a half from now as she thinks is possible (unrealistic). My gf works herself, but does not make more than $25,000 clear money a yr. My parents at this point are financially unable to help. They are in the midst of building a brand new home ( which they've held off on for 4+ in order to pay my law school). They would be financially able to help eventually but within the next year and a half would be quite tough. As I understand, most weddings are paid off by the bride's family, but in this case due to her dad being an awful human being, and her mother in her unhealthy state, plus the fact that my family trumps her family on the potential guest list (200-300 total people, a 5 to 1 ratio my side vs her side), my parents are willing to help to make it fair. I would also help out with whatever potential money I would save AFTER I have paid off her wedding ring. My gf & her mother have saved nearly $18,000 in preparation for a wedding in the future ( but also afraid this money would end up being spent for her mother's funeral arrangements, ugh, awful to even say that). My parents, once they have built the new house, would allow myself and my gf to live in the old home for a short time in order to save money. I am not mentally nor financially ready to get married. Her idea is to be MARRIED by Sept 2013, in hopes that her mother lasts that long. I simply ask that she wait, take a step at a time, raise up money, let me get a job, get engaged first, plan correctly and save $$. She wants kids IMMEDIATELY as well ( I want to enjoy married life for a yr first, she doesn't w more

Open Question: Could passing CFA level 1 helpful for non-finance student who want to get a entry level finance position?

Background of the question: I am going to graduate in Spring 2014 with Bachelor degrees in both in Economics B.S and Psychology B.A from one of the top public university in the States. I do want to find a entry level job in Financial area after graduates, though I choose my major in college just because I like them instead of think about find a job. I am going to take CFA level 1 in June 2013, one year before I graduate, which has been approved by the Institute that student could register within one year before graduate. As a non Business school students, I don't have that much network with people in business area to be introduced, or their special campus recruitment methods, since that access is only open to business students. Point: Could passing CFA level 1 which I am informed is as the same level as undergraduate finance degree, be helpful for me to find a entry level job in financial area? Could I be more competitive compared with my peers who graduate from undergraduate business school? Or could this be a point on my resume? Also, one extra question, could professional level Chinese and intermediate level Japanese as well as intermediate German helpful for finding a job in the area? I will definitely appreciate if anyone could answer my question. more

Open Question: Are there any study opportunists for nursing in South Korea? How much would it cost?

I would like to become a RN. But I always wanted to study abroad. I would like to study abroad in South Korea. I would like to study there but move back to the US. Are there any programs I could enter to be able to do this? Are their any schools to I could go to for studying? I would like to go sometime in 2013 to study. I am starting college in June, Taking My math and English class, as well as a Korean language class. So by the time I would like to go there, I won't be perfectly fluent, but I'll understand a lot and will be able to read Korean. Knowing a good amount, would it be hard to find a job as well as go to school? Are jobs easier to get in Korea as compared to the US? I am a new worker, I've only worked at a family restaurant when I was younger. I have been searching for a year, but still am unable to get hired anywhere. I would like to live on my own. How much would it cost to rent a place to live in general? To eat 3 meals a day? Schooling in general? Other expenses? Compared to the US, are things cheaper or less expensive in South Korea? I understand that if this is the case, I won't get paid as much. any help is appreciated! thank you! more

Resolved Question: PLEASE READ!!! 10 Points Best Answer And I'll Answer Yours?

Ok this may be slightly long but please help I will cut out as much detail as possible. I know this is a very typical question but I need help finding out if this guy likes me lol. I remember when I first met him I was about 6 years old and he was about 9 and I had a crush on him from the beginning. Every time I saw him I always tried to impress him and he always did stupid little nice things for me like when we were playing games like Monopoly for example, he would sneak extra money over to me and we would always tease each other and throw stuff at each other etc. Then when I was 15 my crush went full scale I had butterflies even thinking about seeing him. Now a lot of the things that happened around that time like some of the things he said and the way we constantly teased each other and how he got jealous when I mentioned other guys all made me think he might like me. People even used to say are the 2 of you secretly in love. He stays in Scotland and I stay in England so we didn't see each other much but I constantly thought about him. But I started college when I was 16 so I never saw him for ages and the next thing I heard he had a girlfriend. I was really jealous obviously but they were together for a few months then split up but she came back a couple of weeks later and told him she was pregnant. They aren't together anymore and their daughter is 2 now and he gets her at weekends. Now he has another kid on the way and is currently seeing a different girl. But anyway after the whole girlfriend thing I presumed I was over him and I never really seen him much anymore apart from a 'hi' every so often. Also the idea of him having a kid put me off. But last week we were at the same party and even though we hardly spoke he kept looking at me and quickly looking away, even though his girlfriend was there. After the party we went back to my brothers house and his girlfriend wasn't there and he kept staring even more and sometimes smiling and appearing in some of the same places as me. And when 1 of my brothers friends kept chatting to me and sitting next to me he had a weird look on his face that seemed to me like he was slightly jealous. And when I started to get a bit drunk and everyone was making fun of me because of it I asked him 'do you think I'm drunk' and he said 'yes'. So I said 'I'm not why do you think I am?' and he said 'because you haven't spoken to me all day and now you are,' and then he walked away. I'm really confused because all the feelings have came rushing back and I can't stop thinking about him. I know it's a bad idea to try and get involved with someone with a girlfriend never mind a kid but I can't help how I feel. If I'm honest with myself I've always liked him and any other guy I've went out with has always been compared to him and so its never worked out and I know his daughter and actually really like her so I'm not put off by that anymore because I'm more mature now. We have everything in common we love the same music, tv shows etc. But the problem is we are also both really, really shy people and we hardly see each other and when we do there's always other people around. And then there's his girlfriend he doesn't seem very interested in her but I still feel bad for considering trying to break them up. But I know I have to try. Even if I do and he doesn't feel the same way it means I can finally try to move on. But please help me with how I should go about this because I'm really shy and there's always people there and is there any way to say or ask something or hint to try and tell from his response if he likes me before I put myself out there? Thanks I know it's really long but any help would be so appreciated. Please don't say give up or get over it or move on etc genuine advice please and I'm 19 now and he's 22 if that's any help. Also please don't say just go for it I am WAY too shy and can you tell me if you think he might like me? There is more to why I can't just tell him he knows my whole family and I will never hear the end of it if he doesn't feel the same way. Thank you so much for taking the time to read this and for any answers given (genuine only please).Also I know he seems like a player with having a kid already and another on the way but the mother of his first kid dumped him for his best friend and came back and told him she was pregnant and his other girlfriend was cheating on him so he doesn't even know if the baby is his yet. I know I should look for someone with no commitments but the one thing no one can choose is who they fall for. If only we could things would be so much easier lol. And I can't just forget about it but I will NOT become another pregnant chick he dumps (even though it wasn't him doing the dumping). Sorry I've had people say that before. more

Resolved Question: Please read! 10 Points Best Answer and I will Answer Yours?

Open Question: How can I be more positive about my new, low-paying job? I feel depressed - help?

I graduated from college with a number of honors and awards - I worked my BUTT off in school. Seriously. Never got anything less than an A-. My job history, however, was less than stellar because beginning in my junior year of high school, I was steadily diagnosed with FOUR different chronic diseases. I spent most of my summers in doctor's appointments instead of doing standard fast food/retail work. I still have 4/5 jobs under my belt, as well as volunteer work I did that was more flexible and made things like physical therapy easier, since I could determine my schedule. After coming home from studying abroad, I began my job search...with no luck. Fast forward a miserable year and a half later, and I've finally gotten an offer for a relatively low-paying position 45 minutes away from me. I have, of course, accepted it. But the more I think about it the more down I feel. My brother had a job lined up before he even graduated about 3 years ago, and 2 years into his career he's already making almost $60,000. I feel so ashamed that I'm such a failure compared to him. I just want to crawl under my bed and die. I'm such a loser. I'm trying to feel differently - I know there are many people out there more desperate than I am who would kill for ANY job. I know I'm lucky to have finally gotten SOMETHING, no matter how well it pays, and I suppose I have zero rights to complain, but I just can't shake off this shame. Most of my cousins easily got positions after graduation and have stable, high-paying jobs. So suddenly I'm one of the most least successful members of my entire family. I feel like I can barely look any of them in the eye anymore. I know there's been some talk about me that's been less than positive. I start my job next week, and I just wish I could have a more positive outlook on the situation. I'm just so frustrated that pretty much all my money will go to gas, healthcare costs, and taxes, without much to even save for retirement, much less SPEND. Does anyone have any suggestions for me on how to stop being so negative and depressed? more

Open Question: Is my life worthless? I feel like no one would care if I died, how do I get over this extreme depression?

I'm 41 years old, and my whole life I've never really done anything meaningful, I've always just cared about pleasure and money, and now that I look back I feel trully empty. 8 days ago I was walking drunk in the street and passed out, someone saw me and called an ambulance and they took me to the hospital, I don't remember any of this but when I woke up I was in a hospital bed with a catheter in me. The doctor later told me that I almost died and that I had a Blood Alcohol Content of %.42 which he said can result in me ending up in a coma or dead. All I could think about was that I was by myself in that hospital bed. No one came to visit me, I could have very well died and no one would have cared. I was pretty much fine the next day and got discharged, and I continued drinking as soon as I got out of the hospital. Well I'm an alcoholic. I wasn't always like this, when I was younger I excelled in school, and had a good life, but when I was 15 I got a girl pregnant, despite me trying to get her to abort she had the baby and it was a girl, I didn't want anything to do with it and she didn't want me to. So I never really saw her much. It did get to me though, that I had a daughter and never really did much for her. Well anyway after college I had what I thought at the time as a pretty good life, I opened several businesses and was making a very good living, and I mean very good, I lived kind of a party lifestyle, I had a lot of different women, I did drugs, and I got drunk a lot, plus I bought a lot of cool things. I lived like that for about 10 years. I thought I was living so high and mighty I thought all my dreams had come true, I was pretty rich, good looking, I was buzzed all day, I had a lot of girls and a nice house. But now all I can think of is what I have now, I have nothing meaningful. In my mid thirties I sold all my businesses and decided to retire to just live a party lifestyle with no more work, I had a lot of money that I just put into investment accounts, and all I did was party all day and sleep with a lot of random women. Now that I look back people probably thought I was creepy for acting like that at my age and partying with people in their 20s. Well a few years ago the money started running out, some of my investments where horrible, so I moved into a smaller home and cut back on a lot of things, I'm still very well off, I live on about 32,000 dollars a month that I get from my investments, but it's nothing compared to what I used to spend, but I still do what I used to do except without the partying. I have a lot of sex with random women or hookers (my looks aren't what they used to be, I've gained weight and look like I'm 47 instead of 41, and my beard is completely gray and some of my hair too). I drink all day which at this point I'm a full blown alcoholic, and I smoke cigarettes all day. My daily routine consists of waking up, usually hungover, drinking a shot of vodka and 3 light beers, smoking a few cigarettes, making myself breakfast (I don't eat healthy either), and watching TV. By noon I'm pretty drunk and I start going to bars and strip clubs to find women to sleep with, if I don't I have a list of prostitutes I hire, everyday, and then I go back home have sex with whichever woman and drink until I black out. That's my daily routine. It's very pathetic I think, I'm not only a chain smoking alcoholic but I'm also a sex addict, and if I keep eating the way I do I won't only have a big belly anymore I'll be fat or have a heart attack, that is if my liver or lungs don't give out soon or I get an STD. I hadn't paid much attention to it, but my life is horrible, all it is is addiction and laziness, a horrific life of narcissistic hedonism which was fine when I was 25 but now I feel pathetic, and since I got out of the hospital I'm depressed and drinking more, I don't have anyone. My daughter seeked me out 2 years ago and I went to dinner with her a couple of times but I was drunk and she didn't want to spend time with me anymore and frankly I didn't either. So is my life a complete waste? If I died right now no one if this world would care, how can I live with that? How do I get it to stop bothering me? Seriously I've felt this past week like killing myself, why put it off any longer Please tell me what you think.@Henry- first off, the last thing I need is another addiction, second I'm not in California where it's legal I guess, and third, I've already been arrested for being drunk, I don't need any arrests for drugs. more

Open Question: Is my life worthless? No one would care if I died, how do I get over this extreme depression? I cant go on?

I'm 41 years old, and my whole life I've never really done anything meaningful, I've always just cared about pleasure and money, and now that I look back I feel trully empty. 8 days ago I was walking drunk in the street and passed out, someone saw me and called an ambulance and they took me to the hospital, I don't remember any of this but when I woke up I was in a hospital bed with a catheter in me. The doctor later told me that I almost died and that I had a Blood Alcohol Content of %.42 which he said can result in me ending up in a coma or dead. All I could think about was that I was by myself in that hospital bed. No one came to visit me, I could have very well died and no one would have cared. I was pretty much fine the next day and got discharged, and I continued drinking as soon as I got out of the hospital. Well I'm an alcoholic. I wasn't always like this, when I was younger I excelled in school, and had a good life, but when I was 15 I got a girl pregnant, despite me trying to get her to abort she had the baby and it was a girl, I didn't want anything to do with it and she didn't want me to. So I never really saw her much. It did get to me though, that I had a daughter and never really did much for her. Well anyway after college I had what I thought at the time as a pretty good life, I opened several businesses and was making a very good living, and I mean very good, I lived kind of a party lifestyle, I had a lot of different women, I did drugs, and I got drunk a lot, plus I bought a lot of cool things. I lived like that for about 10 years. I thought I was living so high and mighty I thought all my dreams had come true, I was pretty rich, good looking, I was buzzed all day, I had a lot of girls and a nice house. But now all I can think of is what I have now, I have nothing meaningful. In my mid thirties I sold all my businesses and decided to retire to just live a party lifestyle with no more work, I had a lot of money that I just put into investment accounts, and all I did was party all day and sleep with a lot of random women. Now that I look back people probably thought I was creepy for acting like that at my age and partying with people in their 20s. Well a few years ago the money started running out, some of my investments where horrible, so I moved into a smaller home and cut back on a lot of things, I'm still very well off, I live on about 32,000 dollars a month that I get from my investments, but it's nothing compared to what I used to spend, but I still do what I used to do except without the partying. I have a lot of sex with random women or hookers (my looks aren't what they used to be, I've gained weight and look like I'm 47 instead of 41, and my beard is completely gray and some of my hair too). I drink all day which at this point I'm a full blown alcoholic, and I smoke cigarettes all day. My daily routine consists of waking up, usually hungover, drinking a shot of vodka and 3 light beers, smoking a few cigarettes, making myself breakfast (I don't eat healthy either), and watching TV. By noon I'm pretty drunk and I start going to bars and strip clubs to find women to sleep with, if I don't I have a list of prostitutes I hire, everyday, and then I go back home have sex with whichever woman and drink until I black out. That's my daily routine. It's very pathetic I think, I'm not only a chain smoking alcoholic but I'm also a sex addict, and if I keep eating the way I do I won't only have a big belly anymore I'll be fat or have a heart attack, that is if my liver or lungs don't give out soon or I get an STD. I hadn't paid much attention to it, but my life is horrible, all it is is addiction and laziness, a horrific life of narcissistic hedonism which was fine when I was 25 but now I feel pathetic, and since I got out of the hospital I'm depressed and drinking more, I don't have anyone. My daughter seeked me out 2 years ago and I went to dinner with her a couple of times but I was drunk and she didn't want to spend time with me anymore and frankly I didn't either. So is my life a complete waste? If I died right now no one if this world would care, how can I live with that? How do I get it to stop bothering me? Please tell me what you think.@John Quill- thank you more

Open Question: How can I get over this extreme feeling of being worthless? Im an alcoholic and a sex addict, how do I move on?

Open Question: Would anyone even care if I died? I feel like I've wasted my whole life, I don't know what to do please help?

Open Question: Macbook pro decision?

Im on my way to college and Im going to buy a 2011 mac book pro 13" with 2.4ghz, 4gb of ram,but should i get the 750gb ATA @5400rpm or 256 ssd. the price increase is NOT a problem for me. but my concern is with the space compared to speed. Ill use it for mainly school activities and some gaming. and just like things to be convenient. I know for a fact ill be getting a 1Tb external hard drive as well.Also, i know that people put in both or mod it or whatever and as much as id like to im not really into that sort of thing. either one or the otherhmmm im thinking i Might just wait for the new one to come out too.dangit! decisions more

Open Question: To Kill a Mockingbird Compare and Contrast Conclusion?

I need some help with my conclusion paragraph for my Atticus Finch and Bob Ewell compare and contrast essay. I have done good with the essay so far, but i am stuck on the conclusion. I am in the 8th grade, and my lit/comp teacher is an ex-college professor, and i havnt exactly had good luck with essays this year (I think my highest essay grade was a 75). Please help! more

Open Question: My passion is helping others. Is that weak on a college application?

People have talents like being able to run or play a sport... Im not talented physically but rather... emotionally? I love helping people and I really put my soul into it. But I fear a star athlete would be favorable over my own special talent of being able to connect and care for people. How weak would my college application be when the only thing Im passionate about is volunteering at hospitals, tutoring young ones and all that compared to an athlete? Is caring for people even considered a talent?:( more

Open Question: Becoming an actuary after college graduation?

Hello, I recently graduated from a pretty good 4 year university and received my bachelor's in accounting. While I was looking for a job I came across some interesting discussions about becoming an actuary. I noticed that there are particular tests that it takes and that most people tried to complete these as part of their college program. I was wondering if there was a certain step or steps I should take in order to find out more, Ive tried looking on the websites but am still a bit confused as to what the process truly is as compared to becoming a CPA. Any help would be appreciated, thanks. more

Open Question: Why do many college students have macs?

On campus, you see so many people with macs. What is so special about them? I don't understand. Every time I compare a mac to a pc the pc wins in terms of performance/price all the time. So why do so many people buy them?For the people that are saying they are powerful, can you back up your answer? As far as I'm concerned, every pc for the price is more powerful than a Mac. more

Open Question: compare and contrast paper on The U.S government vs. North Korea's communist government?

I am 21 and doing a compare and contrast paper for college, I've been stuck on what topic to do. I came up with this topic because it's something that I am interested in. The only problem I am having is that it is hard finding similarities between the two. Is it a good idea to write a compare and contrast paper on this topic? more

Open Question: Question about Navy Seals?

I am in college now at a 4 year program. Unfortunately my college does not have Navy ROTC. I have heard it is very hard for 22 year olds coming out of college and enlisting in the navy to make it to BUD/S compared to 18 year olds who enlist right out of high school. Can anyone who is knowledgeable help me clear this up? I would love to serve my country and even if I don't make it through Seals training I would still want to serve but that is my first choice. Once I graduate college should I enlist and go to Basic and request BUD/s or should I do OCS and try to get in as an officer? What is my best shot at this more

Open Question: I turned 18..no more child support. Please help!?

I'll try to make this short.. My parents are divorced, and I live with my mom and my brother. My dad pays a certain amount of child support each month. Lets say he pays $700 for me and $700 for my brother (just an example). My dad works, and he lives with his wife. He makes a decent amount of money each year. My mom does not work.. So I turned 18 a couple months ago and I am graduating from high school next month. I am going to attend a college near my home for the first two years. It's cheap compared to other schools. I have to pay for college. Here's the thing..my dad talked to me and told me that there is $6,000 saved up for me. He told me that instead of paying my mom the $700 each month, he is going to pay me about $400 each month from that $6,000 that is saved up. He told me that I have to use that $400 each month for living expenses, such as food, gas, etc. He knows that I am looking for a job, and I'll probably have a job by this summer. My problem is that my mom has told me that I have to have a talk with my dad, and that he still has to continue paying $700 each month, or at least $600. If I don't get my dad to continue paying the same amount of money, she's going to make me move to my dads, because I won't be able to afford to live in my house. Now that I'm 18, my mom knows that he will give me the money instead, so she wants me to give it all to her..I guess to pay for the house..I don't know. I'm thinking about talking to my dad today, but I don't know who is right. I don't know what do to! And I'm scared. Should I be paying rent and living expenses in my home if I'm going to college? That $6,000 is supposedly for school, but if my dad wants to give me $400 each month from that money (my money) what money will I have for school? Is it wrong for my mom to demand the same amount of money, even if I am not a child by law? I don't know who is right or wrong. What should I tell my dad today? Please help! Thank you! more

Resolved Question: Who has more compassion atheist or theist?

Atheists and agnostics are more driven by compassion to help others than are highly religious people, a new study finds. That doesn't mean highly religious people don't give, according to the research to be published in the July 2012 issue of the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science. But compassion seems to drive religious people's charitable feelings less than in other groups. "Overall, we find that for less religious people, the strength of their emotional connection to another person is critical to whether they will help that person or not," study co-author and University of California, Berkeley social psychologist Robb Willer said in a statement. "The more religious, on the other hand, may ground their generosity less in emotion, and more in other factors such as doctrine, a communal identity, or reputational concerns." Willer's co-author Laura Saslow, now a postdoctoral scholar at the University of California, San Francisco, became interested in the question of what motivates charity after a non-religious friend lamented that he donated money to earthquake recovery in Haiti only after seeing a heart-touching video of a woman being pulled from rubble, not because of a logical understanding that help was needed. "I was interested to find that this experience – an atheist being strongly influenced by his emotions to show generosity to strangers – was replicated in three large, systematic studies," Saslow said in a statement. In the first study, Saslow and her colleagues analyzed data from a national survey of more than 1,300 American adults taken in 2004. They found that compassionate attitudes were linked with how many generous behaviors a person was likely to report. But this link was strongest in people who were atheists or only slightly religious, compared with people who were more strongly religious. In a second experiment, 101 adults were shown either a neutral video or an emotional video about children in poverty. They were then given 10 fake dollars and told they could give as much as they liked to a stranger. Those who were less religious gave more when they saw the emotional video first. "The compassion-inducing video had a big effect on their generosity," Willer said. "But it did not significantly change the generosity of more religious participants." Finally, a sample of more than 200 college students reported their current level of compassion and then played economic games in which they were given money to share or withhold from a stranger. Those who were the least religious but most momentarily compassionate shared the most. More research will be needed to understand what factors motivate religious people's giving, but the study makes clear that empathy and compassion are not the only factors at play. "Overall, this research suggests that although less religious people tend to be less trusted in the U.S., when feeling compassionate, they may actually be more inclined to help their fellow citizens than more religious people," Willer said. http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/47248389/ns/technology_and_science-science /t/atheists-more-motivated-compassion-faithful/#.T67SSetWo5l more

Open Question: How to respect your girlfriends past when she won't forget the past.?

Ok, so a little background on me first. This is my first serious girlfriend(both late 20's) I have always known what I want and am super picky. I have a great job, wonderful personality and most consider me physically attractive. (I consider myself average) She is amazing and 99% of what we share together is perfect. I truly mean that. That little 1% is her past and what I'm about to tell you... I truly care for this girl and I know she has made extreme efforts to mature and realizes she's ready for a real man and a real relationship. She found that in me.(she is also a super smart young professional with a great job and a great career ahead of her) She used to date a lot and has a lot of sexual experience.. Not really slutty but just a lot of sex compared to me which wasn't a ton (think typical college girl). I made it a point to realize this is her past and it needs to be left there in order to progress our relationship...she has So many amazing qualities that Its worth the effort.. Here is the problem. She is still in contact with a handful of these guys and it really bugs me.(via Facebook and even Some that work with her work) She is truly just friends with them but it's one sided. They are all still tryin to get at her by using friendship as a front. We have talked about this situation numerous times and she tells me not to worry and that I'm her guy. It really stresses me out and it makes me feel insecure/worried. Im not usually like this and I am clearly tryin to be fair about this situation. If they are in your past why do you (mainly ladies) feel the need to keep friendship with these guys? It's really unfair in my opinion. Plus I'm worried I'm going to piss her off because she can read me real well and knows when im upset or frustrated. So the question is this.. "in order for your significant other to respect your past and leave it there shouldnt you do the same and leave the past in the past?" more

Open Question: My friend betrayed me?

Okay, so let's say this girls name is "Kelly" and the guy's name is "Gale". Kelly and I had become very close and we had just met Gale. Gale is a very nice young man who was very hurt. I had not known anything until Gale had told me and out of complete respect for him I will not go into detail about what happened. Kelly had pretty much lied over and over again and these were very serious lies that she was in a way sort of mocking him. He is a very sweet guy and quickly forgave her because I believe he was infatuated with her. Kelly had already had a boyfriend and she was leading Gale on. Kelly's boyfriend had eventually handed her over to Gale, but Kelly told herself she wouldn't fall for Gale, but she did. She began to come up with lies over and over as I said before to try to push him away. It was getting ridiculous. I, of course, had not known about this until school was out and I had graduated. I had tried to talk to Kelly over the summer about hanging out since we had become very close. She was like a sister to me, I did everything for her. When she'd lost her iPhone twice-once in a classroom that she told me where and I went to the teacher and told him about the iPhone and to return it to Kelly. She couldn't go to the classroom at the time I could because she was taking a test-I wasn't. She'd lost it again when she'd lost her purse which also had her wallet which had a decent amount of money in it. She'd left it on the bus and was complaining about it on facebook, so I come to the rescue again and research the county bus system and low and behold I find it. She just has to call them, tell them the bus number and that she left her purse and wa-la she got it back. Then she lost her class ring and I helped her with that. I had tried to help her confess her love to Gale, I didn't know whether she was/wasn't with her boyfriend or not. Anyway, over the summer after trying and trying to talk to her or get her to say more than "okay" or "fine" She messaged me saying how she'd lost trust in me and I had a lot to improve on and that she didn't want to be my friend anymore. I let it go the first time because it was all bullshit that she had to think of. I do admit I complain a lot about my issues but she had her fair share as well. She throws on this facade for all of my other friends and of course because she's cute and has always seemed to be the nicest girl out there, but she's far from that. After about a month of being able to not let it go I message her back and I called her out on all the shit she put Gale through. I called her a bitch and told her that this other guy, who had pretty much been betrayed too and had witnessed her boyfriend being hurt too much by her, was right about her. She was really just a manipulative bitch. I told her my friends will believe me and if not then they would find out the real her someday. He wasn't completely innocent but you might as well say he was compared to what SHE did. My friends were no longer my friend, they shunned me as did she. It was painful seeing her and them. They acted like they didn't know me when I had known some of them since middle school( I was in college now). I had finally called Kelly out to talk to me alone(we weren't technically alone, we just stepped away from her "friends") I asked her why she did what she did-her answer "I don't know." and for some reason when I talked to her it was like we were still friend when I knew we weren't. It made me hate her even more. It's been months now-almost a year now-and I still can't get over it. Whenever I think about it I just hurt and I honestly have plenty of other shit that my mind should be preoccupied with rather than the past. Does anyone have any advice? I've talked to my fiance about this and he hates her just as much and doesn't really know what to do. I just want to let it go and never see her tortuous yet sweet face again. Anytime I'd see her I'd tell myself to just go punch her in the face, but I'm a goody good and I prefer not to cause trouble for others and as much as I believe she deserves it, I truly could never do it. Thank you for taking the time to read my long ass story. No pity please, just advice. more

Open Question: Are smart people more likely to have admiration for Germany and Germans?

Most of the positive comments about Germans mostly comes from ROTC, Honors, College, and AP students while the majority of the negative ones are mostly those that spend time on Xbox and sleep in class. I have friends who are in the ROTC program and have joined the military after graduation and a lot of them (with some exceptions being negative or neutral) gave praise for German Engineering or their military tactics, or as one said: "Who cares if France leaves NATO again, as long as Germany's on our side, China would shit their pants". As an economics major, a lot of my fellow classmates too have a positive view on Germans. We agreed that Germany's economy is based on common sense of keeping the jobs in the country, being an export based economy, and a very low unemployment rate compared to the proud American and British. Science people, especially professors and engineers have some understanding of German compared to Chinese or even Spanish itself. Musical and artistic people have praise Germany for their contribution in music, art, and cinema. Yet, it's always the drop-outs or 2.0's that tends to associate Germany with Nazis or Hitler despite America and Britain's similar actions, only difference is that Germany apologized. more

Resolved Question: I'm in HS but I want to take a college psychology class?

I'm 15 and next year I will be a junior in HS (turning 16 in november). I have the opportunity to take a college course for $115 (not including textbooks). It will be in the fall. I am considering taking a psychology course because: i think its kind of interesting learning about how people act however i have no idea what its actually about I want to get a feel for college classes and what they're like I can earn credits for college I can see if this is something I'd want to major in It is only $115 now compared to paying $490 in college the classes are every tuesday night from 6:00-9:35 pm which honestly is kind of late for me do you think i should take advantage of this? is it normal that this class is only in the fall? seems kind of short don't you think...? what kind of things should i expect to learn? is it complicated stuff? is it a lot of work? please help me 10 pts for the most detailed answer more

Open Question: Do big law firms hire crimnal defense attorneys?

I am in college now and just graduate from high school. I want to be an lawyer. I know all the requirements and fully embrace the long hours and large workload that will be given to me. I know law is nothing like what you see on tv. And you will spend more time writing, reading, and analyzing documents more than you will be in the courtroom. I'm not pursuing law for the money.. it is a passion. So this bring me to my question. Do law firms like the big ones not mega ones but good law firm do they hire criminal defense attorneys. Or are they more self employed or just work in a small law firm. I really want to work in a law firm im debating betwheen prosecuting attorney and defense attorney. My second question is what do the big law firms pratice. Because my two passion for law are business(coperate law) and criminal. But so many articales really suggest not going in to the criminal pratice because they make no money compared to most lawyers and work self employed. I want to work with others and in a nice firm. Further more, articals suggest not even going into law because of how dry it is(is that true). Please unbiased answers and relavant educated answers. Would really helped if you were a lawyer(or former) or really know law. more

Resolved Question: Where can I learn programming online.?

I'm a teenager and I am curious about what it would be like to have a career as a computer programmer, but I have absolutely no idea where to begin. I can't really go anywhere for classes and I don't want to spend too much money online for the education. I have absolutely no experience in programming but i need the tools to begin and instructions on how to manage the tools. I know that there are several coding languages like C++ and java, but I don't know where to learn how to use the language. I've spent several hours researching this and can't find any help. Where do I begin? You might think that a kid probably needs more time in school to begin to learn programming, but I'm desperate to learn. I'm not that bad with school either (I'm really good at math, even though it's kindergarten compared to some college classes.) Please help! This could be my career when i grow up!I've looked into python and have the interpreter but I don't know much on how to use it. I found a sort of tutorial on the official site but it has terms and references I don't know. It's more of an intermediate guide. I need a basic, root level, "for dummies" guide. more

Open Question: UK University questions from a US student.?

I'm a sophomore in high school (grade 10 or 11 in the UK) and I was wondering are there any requirements for an American Citizen wanting to go to university in England? Do I have to get certain grades? Is it much different in England universities compared to American colleges? Thank you! more

Resolved Question: Help! :\ I don't know what to do... (relationship situation)?

Hey..It's long, I know..I'm sorry, but I would really appreciate it if you would read through the whole thing and give me some feedback/advice. Thanks in advance. :) Sunny Ok, so my boyfriend and I are both 14, and summer is closing in. Only 8 more days left of school. When we are walking in the hallway, I ask him, "Do you want to try to keep and continue this relationship into the summer?" And he says, "Well, I don't know, cause I may be moving." I am like What?!.. He said, "I didn't want to tell you, but like I told you, my dad has just graduated out of college (cause he went back) and he's trying to find a job. My uncle thinks he can get a job for him, but we could either be moving just farther into Memphis (we live in the suburbs of Memphis) or on the other side of the country. We are putting the house on the market by the end of the week." So now I'm just in shock pretty much. Then he says, "We might not even be moving..but there is a possibility." He says, "I didn't want to tell you.." So, at this point, I'm just trying to keep myself together and from bursting into tears. I then realize why for the past 6 months, he was usually busy and fixing his house. DUH!! They're fixing their house up cause they are trying to sell it! I felt like a complete idiot. I wasn't mad, cause he means well and usually doesn't tell me these things cause he doesn't want to hurt me. But, I'm just thinking to myself like, "Dang why didn't I realize it earlier so it wouldn't be a complete shock to me??" So, he may not be moving..but I'm planning for the worst. I don't know what I should do..I mean, our relationship was really good. Really, close to what some would call Perfect. But I noticed this past week that I felt like I was losing him a bit. Just a bit, though. And I don't know if that is because he is trying to not get too much more attached or not lead me on anymore (even though we've been together for almost 6 months) cause he doesn't know if he is going to be moving or what. But yesterday, since I asked him that question about if we should continue into the summer, I feel like I opened him up a bit. Like maybe he was hiding that, and it was hurting him. But now it's all out in the open. And at the end of the day, we even started planning to go see the Avengers at the movies next weekend. I feel like we both think that we are just going to try to make the most of our last few days together. I just don't know what I should say to him a few days before graduation. We both know that long distance relationships are really not what we want, and even if he doesn't move, our parents are kinda strict sometimes and we wouldn't be able to see each other often. We could text, but nothing compares to face-to-face reality. A few days before graduation, should we just talk together and say: "I wish it didn't have to be this way, but I know that we both know that it would just be too tough to try to make it work if you move (or even if he doesn't move..the summer break, then next year is highschool). I am so proud to have been your first girlfriend and I know that there was definitely something special between us. I wish you the best of luck and to go out and have other relationships. Maybe then, now being able to compare, you'd realize how special and different what we had was. And maybe in a few years, if the future relationships that we have don't work out, we could find each other and maybe talk about it and try again. We would've both grown as people and learned more about ourselves and relationships. In highschool, we'll have way more freedom and opportunities than we ever had in middle school. Either way, you have been one of my best friends and there will always be a place for you in my heart. I thank God for having been able to be a part of your life. You have touched my life, and I hope I have done the same to yours. Good luck to you in your future endeavors! Keep in touch! Love always, Sonia" So it would be sorta like a mutual ending of the relationship.. Could you please answer these questions? Thanks: -Does that sound good? -And should I tell him that a couple days before graduation, so we'll have like 2 days to let it sink in and be friends and on good terms (not that we aren't already, but you know)? Or should I tell him the day before graduation/on Graduation? (though that would seem too rushed, to me) -Or..should I write all that in a letter..like talk to him a bit about it and then hand him the letter with all the stuff so I don't forget anything? Plus it would hold sentimental value for looking back on, for him. Thank you so much if you read all this and answer those questions. It would be VERY appreciated.Keep in mind:I don't even know if or when he's moving..so it's like a gamble sort of cause if I do say it and then he doesn't move-it wouldn't really make any difference I guess, but it would be kinda weird but then if I don't and he does move-well that would be horrible. So should I just go ahead and say it? more

Resolved Question: huge situation PLZ HELP NEED ANSWER BEFORE SUNDAY.?

ok so i am 22 now, when i was 16 i met the best guy we became friends immediately and then best friends throughout school i knew him for 3 years dated last 8 months of it.we talked everyday for hours and i just could not see myself with anyone else we knew eachother like a book. when he was in college i only got to see him 2 days out of a month but even when he was not beside me i felt him near weird right.we could read eachothers mind and finish each others sentences.my parents broke us up because i am mormon and he is baptist.so even though my family liked him and his family liked me,they did not accept us being together for this reason.i was 18 when i last saw him my parents said ill get over him by dating someone else and im just young. so i let him go, got rid of all the stuff reminding me of him. but its been 5 years and i still feel like a part of me is missing since he left i try to date but i cant get close to anyone and open up to them the way i did with him.he was not my first love.but i never cared for anyone else the same way. i can not let go of the love we had for each other. they said it was just young love.if thats true why cant i forget him its been 8 years since the day we first met and i still remember exactly what i was wearing .i cant find that care and understanding in anyone else the way i did with him. he felt the same way.when he was fighting to be with me i could see it was hurting him and thought he would be happier without me,so i did as my parents said.and pushed him out of my life which i now realize hurt him more. i always liten to my parents but i feel like i am living there life and not mine.anyway a couple months ago i ran into him coincidentaly at a resturaunt i was working at. he came in to order not even knowing i was there weird right. so anyway he looked at me with a sad look like he was in pain y did he look at me like that do u know why ? i called him to see how he was doing.he said im fine i guess,even after all this time i still know him and know hes not happy.even when he says he is.i asked him what do u mean by { i guess } he never messaged back.i want to see him again to tell him how i feel i want him to be happy even if it is not with me.or if he did not want me in his life as a friend and would be happier without me then i will disappear forever.i still care for him and his family and i honestly do want him to be happy even if its not with me.my heart still hurts for him,even though i had not seen him in 5 years.is this true love.so another question should i go out to see him sunday and surprise him and his family ? should i walk by his house and wear the same thing i wore on our first date?in hopes he will see me would that be too weird,write a letter, call him ,message him on facebook ? p.s. i feel like if i dont go out there and find out if we still have that connection i will never know or be able to stop comparing others to him.am i right what do u think should i go see him?how should i handle the situation and what does he mean by looking at me in a sad hurt way after 2 years we ran into eachother ?i feel like i not only lost a companion but my best friend only one who truly understood me. more

Open Question: King's College London or Durham University for MSC in Advanced Software Engineering?

Hello, I need to make a choice between Durham and King's for an Advanced Software Engg. (MSC) course and I need to make that choice very soon. The fees difference between the two is huge as the tuition + accommodation fees for King's is almost double that of Durham, and living costs in London are massive compared to that of Durham. Durham is consistently ranked among the top 5 Universities in UK while ranked about 90 in the world.. On the other hand King's is placed outside the top 15 in the UK while in the top 30 in the world.. So which University should I choose? I know that both of them are exceptionally good and this is a very hard choice to make. But if Durham delivers the same quality of education in Software Engg. as King's does, then I'd like to choose Durham due to its fees. So which is better? more

Resolved Question: Do christian women like older male virgins?

Please, only answers from christians who believe in the bible and detailed answers . I'm a 23 year old christian male virgin. I've never kissed a girl nor have I ever been in a relationship, even though some girls have been interested in me. I do college athletics. I'm also very musical; I play for my university marching band. I'm not shy at all and don't have a problem talking to girls. I don't want a relationship till after my med degree. Also getting married now isn't an option. 28 is the earliest for marriage, but sex is up to me! I'm waiting till marriage for any sex(even oral and making out) but it seems like no one is waiting these days. I've read that 80 percent of evangelical Christian young adults between ages 18 and 29 have had sex before marriage, compared with 88 percent of non-Christians.I've also heard that According to a survey and others, less than four percent of adults are virgins past the age of 25. I'm pretty sure the statistics are almost accurate. I have an okcupid account and most "christians" on there have no intent on waiting! By the time I'm ready for marriage I'll be at least 28( when I'm done with grad school). I don't think God made our bodies to wait that long and these statistics show that. Right now the average age of marriage for men is 28. Is it realistic to wait till marriage? It's not that I don't have a high sex drive, I do! I just don't want to end up like a 40 year old virgin who lost all his opportunities! I wouldn't turn down a nonvirgin girl, but I would prefer she have no experience. Since hardly anyone is waiting it will limit the amount of available girls even more because girls don't like inexperienced guys; especially at that age. I know the bible, but expectations in the bible weren't the same as today. What should I do? I'm thinking about just doing it with a random girl to just get it out of my system and curiosity. What's the point in waiting if girls don't like virgins. Please only detailed answers, thank you! more

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